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On Asian dating sites, it's common for women to state: 'No Africans' or 'not attracted to dark skin guys' and I've heard many south American women also share these same preferences. Also it seems in every football match hosted in Eastern Europe the supporters shout racist chants and throw bananas onto the pitch at black players.
Why do African-Americans seem to only be going to Eastern Europe, South America and Asia where they might have somewhat of a disadvantage? Why don't they consider going to Africa where they are guaranteed to be accepted for their race? It just seems worth wondering because West Africa for example has many cheap yet civilized places where a majority of people speak good English.
I figured maybe it's due to how African females are thought to be physically unappealing, but surely that's only seen as true by other races as men tend to be attracted to women of their own ethnicity. Are negative past experiences with African-American women putting you off black women full stop?
Christianized and brainwashed to think that Africans are savages that is why. We have the minds of white people. It takes years of deprogramming to get this nonsense out of our minds. I have seen a few videos that show modern African cities that look like America. Africans that drive BMW and other expensive cars. I have seen it in my family how some of them who have traveled have only gone to France, Italy etc.
Its easy to be this way when you have White Jesus, White Jehovah, White Santa Claus, White Prophets and Angels. White Politicians. Etc.
The one's who do embrace anything of Africa (Clothes, Languages etc) are derided as being corny.
I have to fight this myself. I find Ethiopian women and Black women from Africa to be very appealing. I cannot stand African American women.
You are woefully mistaken about Eastern Europe. As a black man in Eastern Europe, I have an ADVANTAGE over both local men and American white men. Perhaps my individual characteristics other than skin color are the reasons, but whatever the case, I have it good here.
I agree with you about Latin America, there is disadvantage there for being black as much as some like to claim otherwise. Black American men in Brazil do well there because they are usually consorting with pro and semi-pro prostitutes.
Asian women have been either neutral or positive for me, but never have I been treated rudely by an Asian woman in Asia.
As for your question about Africa and why I don't go there to find a woman, it is because I'm grown and I do whatever the hell I want and I go wherever the hell I want. Does that clear things up for you on that question?
Last edited by Contrarian Expatriate on October 19th, 2011, 12:41 am, edited 2 times in total.
I made a post in this thread months ago but decided to delete it. I am going to say this. This is just me. I am not attracted to black women, so I am not wasting my time going to Africa. As a black man, I do believe I should visit just to see where my ancestors came from and to go on a safari. I always wanted to do a safari.
I agree with Contrarian...I have had the most success in countries like Canada, Australia, UK, Slovakia, Russia, and all of Scandinavia. Black women have never been attracted to me and I don't find them attractive looks and personality wise, so why should I bother?
Africa is one of my possible places to find a woman. Even though I mentioned other places, Africa is still a possibility. I do want to go there to see what it is like. Like Phoenix Sosa says, to see where his ancestors came from. I also want the opportunity to do that too. I mentioned somewhere that I do not have a ethnic preference for women.
Members, including African American members; have continents of preference. Some would prefer Africa and other continents. Others would prefer other continents not including Africa.
There aren't many attractive women (inside and outside) in America. A man wants a physically attractive woman with attractive personality traits. American women usually don't have that combination.
Ever since I found Winston's website and read the information on there, my life has been much easier and I've been a MUCH more happier person!
No matter how good she looks, some other guy is sick and tired of putting up with her crap. ~Author Unknown (Quote about women)
Just a quick note lavezzi. In the United States we do not use the term "full stop" so if you're speaking to Americans (which you are in this case, to black Americans), say "period" instead, otherwise the users will have no idea what you're talking about. For some reason British and Irish people know all the American words but Americans don't know British/Irish terms.
Yeah, I think your right. You'll have the biggest advantage in countries where your a minority, the same thing happens to white guys in Asia. Women can see you walking down the street a mile away so you peek their interest because they see you as a "novelty item" or a "fashion accessory". In a way, its kind of demeaning, but it gets you what you want.
I don't think it's a novelty if the only women I have dated 90% of my life have been of European descent. I understand your post, but it is not novelty or luck when I constantly get attention from these women. I was in 1st grade and this white girl named Jamie would do all types of things to get my attention like rub her hair on my desk. She was really trying hard.
Do I make sense? White women are attracted to me like I am a white guy (but I am not), which means they are the first to approach, flirt, etc. with me. It is so normal for me, but many don't understand. I don;t know, but it is just the way this has always been. Can't really explain it, but I love it!
Its a great idea to go to English-speaking African countries - especially richer countries like South Africa. I think black men do go to Africa for wives, but don't want to announce it to the world.
"Woman is a violent and uncontrolled animal... If you allow them to achieve complete equality with men, do you think they will be easier to live with? Not at all. Once they have achieved equality, they will be your masters." Cato the Elder
You know, it's the darnedest thing; I'm white, but more Asian and black women have been attracted to me than white women (even in Europe).
It must be said though that many white women are quite secular; I am not. Maybe that is part of the reason. I've noticed that I tend to do much better among non-secular women (even Muslim women).
Unfortunately, I rarely find black women all that attractive.
Many if not most Black Americans consider Africans subhuman and going to Africa as a step down. They think people there live in trees like apes and that there is nothing but savages eating bananas, each other and still starving to death. And it's all because of the media showing images like this.
When African students come to the US, most American blacks do not even want to talk to them. They treat them like shit. Questions like- do you live in houses there? where did you buy clothes- you are supposed to be naked with a spear and a snake around your neck- are common.
A brain is a terrible thing to wash!
At the end of the day facts are facts. Africa is the least developed part of the world where a simple mosquito bite could be a death sentence due to malaria and substandard medical care.
African countries have the least educated populations and backwardness thrives there. Currently, the backwardness crisis of the moment is albino Africans being snatched off the street, hacked up, and body parts added to "potions" due to the belief in their medicinal powers. See the below video:
Then you have the notion of some Africans believing that having sex with virgins cures HIV. Could you imagine?
And for those of you who claim Black Americans mistreat Africans, why don't you read Keith Richburg's account of how Africans treated him as a Black American while he was the Africa Bureau Chief for Reuters:
http://www.amazon.com/Out-America-Black ... 069&sr=8-1
So until you have traveled around Africa, read black American accounts of their experiences there, and have some modicum of understanding of what goes on in Africa, SHUT THE F.CK UP!!!!!