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Marriage and Children - Reasons and Consequences to Consider

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Postby Trent » Wed Jun 13, 2012 5:59 pm

What a nice interesting article from yours about Marriage and Children - Reasons and Consequences to Consider! Also you tell about water and air facts too. Thanks for your well sharing.
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Postby Winston » Sat Jun 16, 2012 5:41 pm

Another consequence of having children that I added to this article.

5. Children destroy the romance between you and your partner. When you and your partner have kids, the focus then becomes on the kid rather than on the two of you. Both of you begin to live for the child rather than for each other, in effect becoming "servants" to the child. It's a real romance killer for sure. How can there be any romance when the kid keeps hogging all the attention and complaining about every little thing as though he/she were royalty and you his/her unpaid servant?! Sheesh, why should I give all my attention to my kid rather than to my lover? For what? A kid isn't exactly that interesting you know. Geez. Society is also stupid and wrong to make children out to be some special group that is more precious and important than adults. That's stupid. At what age does one stop becoming precious and special? That's so dumb. Sheesh.

Anyhow, I don't know about you, but I would never exchange the dynamic passion and pleasure of romantic love for the "joy of child rearing". There's no comparison at all. I shouldn't have to explain why. The latter simply does not fill any need or longing of mine, while the former does. So it makes no sense to exchange romance for parental love. That's one of the worst exchanges imaginable, and it's no fun at all.

Take a look at all these hundreds of mothers railing about motherhood being the biggest mistake of their lives, resulting in neverending suffering:

http://www.justrage.com/I_Hate/i-hate-b ... e-a-bitch/
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Postby Winston » Fri Jul 13, 2012 3:36 am

Moreover, even if you love children, you are still taking a big risk by having them, because:

1. You have no control over what kind of personality your child will have. He or she may have a personality that may not get along with your, or may be incompatible with you.
2. There is no guarantee that the child won't be born with chronic health problems or complications, which would become a big burden and worry on you.

So in effect, you are risking a lot of trouble simply because society and others say so.
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Postby djfourmoney » Fri Jul 13, 2012 5:45 am

So Winston a man with a child, your solution is go chase women in Taiwan?

It doesn't always kill your sex life, my parents stop having sex because of my step father back condition, how do you explain that?

Simplifying stuff is what Faux news does and argues from a selfish point of view.

This is not any different. If you want kids, have them, if you don't, don't use birth control or don't f**k.
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Postby Jester » Fri Jul 13, 2012 6:41 pm

Winston wrote:
5. Children destroy the romance between you and your partner. When you and your partner have kids, the focus then becomes on the kid rather than on the two of you. Both of you begin to live for the child rather than for each other, in effect becoming "servants" to the child. It's a real romance killer for sure. How can there be any romance when the kid keeps hogging all the attention and complaining about every little thing as though he/she were royalty and you his/her unpaid servant?! Sheesh, why should I give all my attention to my kid rather than to my lover? For what? A kid isn't exactly that interesting you know. Geez. Society is also stupid and wrong to make children out to be some special group that is more precious and important than adults. That's stupid. At what age does one stop becoming precious and special? That's so dumb. Sheesh.

Anyhow, I don't know about you, but I would never exchange the dynamic passion and pleasure of romantic love for the "joy of child rearing". There's no comparison at all. I shouldn't have to explain why. The latter simply does not fill any need or longing of mine, while the former does. So it makes no sense to exchange romance for parental love. That's one of the worst exchanges imaginable, and it's no fun at all.

Take a look at all these hundreds of mothers railing about motherhood being the biggest mistake of their lives, resulting in neverending suffering:

http://www.justrage.com/I_Hate/i-hate-b ... e-a-bitch/


I'm not certain, but I believe that the "dynamic passion and pleasure of romantic love" cannot last very long unless you are on some kind of journey together. I think that's why relationships break up after 4 months. Henry Makow has written about this, incidentally. Sex is a bonding procedure, normally followed by children. They give you something to do together, a purpose. If you are engaged in making great art or something, and she is part of that, that might be a substitute. But normally human beings are happiest when life is in forward motion.

Marriage doesn't kill romance. Boredom kills romance. And living with a dominant, out-of-control female kills romance. Dominating a female ("game") should continue right into married life.
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