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American men and do they really want to be treated nicely.

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Postby Dogboy86 » Tue Feb 21, 2012 10:50 pm

I talk with my mom once to twice a month and no I would never call her after sex.
"Never underestimate the predictability of stupidity"!!!
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Postby davewe » Tue Feb 21, 2012 11:24 pm

Bijou wrote:Listen Davewe, some people need more some people need less. Maybe my guy needed entire program to make him wanting me. Some guys need just to see you with the red robe and are ready.
The point is that if my man show me he want me I will immediately take care of him because it looks like he needs it and since I am his girlfriend it is my duty to satisfacty him. Otherwise he will feel that something is missing and will search for it somewhere else.

I make him the center of the universe when I make him my boyfriend and expect the same from him.

The movie we were watching was not "Stealers" it was just a movie and if you think that some fantasy thriler is more important than making nice than you are the same lazy old fard as my ex.

As fas as the farding. We all know that you guys eventually will start farding one day but that shouldn't be the beginning of the relationship. Month#1
I never had a man to fard in front of me, I had older and younger bfs, but no one felt that comfortable with me.


As I said before none of us were there so who can say what his motivations were. But based on what you report it does not sound like marrying you (or anyone) was at the top of his list of priorities. Never marrried with no kids, and his mother as a top priority - this does not sound like a guy desperate to get married. But again I am just guessing. People all over the world get together and end up parting because they have different goals. Clearly your goal was a traditional marriage. It just doesnt sound like that was his goal or if it was then he didnt know what to do about it. But certainly just because he could not "commit" does not mean other American men cannot commit.

My only concern that I tried to express is that most American guys have been in relationships with controlling American women. If he was 39 and managed never to get married maybe he was very good at avoiding the control that American women wish to place over their men. If you are in a relationship with an American guy who has had controlling women in his life before you will want to be extra careful that you dont try to force him to stop doing the things that he loves to do.

And I still maintain that sex during games is great - that is what halftime is for - lol!
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Re: American men and do they really want to be treated nicel

Postby NorthAmericanguy » Wed Feb 22, 2012 1:29 am

Bijou wrote:I moved to US to marry because I had a good impression from the Americans. .


Let me guess... You got this impression from the movies.



Bijou wrote:Now, the single American guys my age are different story….. I am 26 years old so I am talking about guys with age between 27 and 39.


How it works in America is that people pair off in High School or College; this is where the majority of women find the good men. So if your looking for a decent Amercian guy with no kids, I suggest getting a job at a large collage (i.e, Penn State).



Bijou wrote:Big part of them don’t want commitments, many of them are extremely immature which is a big turn off for me, some of them kind of feminine which scares me.


I hear ya.


Bijou wrote: he needs to be a Manager because I want him to have natural capability and skills to lead and plan his life not only to boss me around or expect me to be the active part of this relationship.
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In other words, you don't want to lift a finger and you want your consort to do all the work. Girls like you expect men to be mind readers and figure out your life, and problems, for you.

Bijou, I believe any good relationship is one were both parties take an active part in the relationship, otherwise, the one who is not active is just a parasite.
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Postby NorthAmericanguy » Wed Feb 22, 2012 2:01 am

Bijou wrote:Jackal, You guys are great on the surface but you don't commit which is the most important for the relationship. ?


Welcome to America were the majority of people are fake and nobody really means what they say.


Let me give you the rundown:


"How are you!!?" (with big smile) = They don't really care, they're just exaggerating a basic greeting because it's currently trendy.

"It's good to see you!?"
(with shock look) = They don't really give a rats ass that they ran into you.

"You have to come visit me some time?!"
= They don't really want you to visit them, it's just a slick way for a person to gain likeability without having to actually do any work. In other words, they hope you don't take them up on the offer all while you still view them in a positive light merely because they offered to host you as a guest.

"Take care!"= They are not really concerned about your well being.

"So how's life treating you?" = They don't really care about your life or your general well being. What they really want to know is how has your social status changed since they last saw you. In other words, they want to know if you are higher or lower on the social scale then they.

"I love you" (if a guy says this to a girl) = The sex is good and I'm happy with the frequency.

"I love you" (if a girl says this to a guy) = You're doing a good job taking care of my needs.


And I could go on.... The bottom line is that Americans are big talkers and good at salesmanship but come up short when s*** really matters.


Edit: And if you think I'm joking, go lurk in the American unemployment forms were people tell stories about how they lost their job and ran out of money and they could not get any help from any of their longtime 'friends', or sometimes even family; not even a place to sleep or food.
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Postby Ned Zeppelin » Wed Feb 22, 2012 3:53 am

E_Irizarry wrote:@zboy1,

Don't simp yourself over Bijou newbie. There's nothing wrong with jerking off while watching XVideos or YouJizz or XHamster until you leave America.

It's must cheaper in the long run.


Xhamster is the best out of the three but eporner is better. Tons of russian amateur and the videos are in hd. I think its based in amsterdam.
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Postby Bijou » Wed Feb 22, 2012 4:37 am

NorthAmericanGuy, I met great people here and I don't believe what you are saying.

However,
It was what it was, it's over.
I'll take my time until I find my guy - American or not.
God will send him to me in the right time.
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Postby NorthAmericanguy » Wed Feb 22, 2012 2:24 pm

Bijou wrote:NorthAmericanGuy, I met great people here and I don't believe what you are saying.
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I believe you, but you're a woman so you will be treated differently. If you were old and unattractive I bet you would have a different experience.

Bijou wrote:God will send him to me in the right time.


Good luck with that, since that means your leaving things up to chance.
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Postby Billy » Wed Feb 22, 2012 3:36 pm

I heard there was a conspiration that russian girls want to kill men. They did the job with their own men now time came to do the job with the american men and others ;-)

Just kidding. What´s wrong with russian men? Russian women raised them so you should be able to deal with them ;-)

Yes, god is waiting to give you Mr. Big who is also a manager. YES ! ;-)
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Postby Bijou » Thu Feb 23, 2012 3:51 am

I need to correct the statement that I made that some for the single AM are somewhat "feminine".

Please don't become more masculine than what you are now, you are fine, JUST forget about the feminine pose "playing hard to get".

Originally playing hard to get is a - Milady behavior. It is not masculine. It tells me that the guy is more likely gay than straight.

The opposite of "Playing hard to get" is "HUNTING".

You should hunt the women; hunt 10 women at a time if you need to make yourself feel player and superior but don't kill your hunting skills. They make you inventive, smart, and adaptive. Playing HTG make you lonely and limited idiot.

Once I told one of these HTG guys that I like a Macho type of man, I like to be possessed and passion and he said yeah Macho "smelling of sweat, brutal, hairy, simple ...". This was the American definition of Macho lol.
Macho means Stud/Love Predator who is looking for you, not sweaty construction worker!! lol
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Postby Bijou » Thu Feb 23, 2012 4:12 am

Billy wrote:I heard there was a conspiration that russian girls want to kill men. They did the job with their own men now time came to do the job with the american men and others ;-)

Just kidding. What´s wrong with russian men? Russian women raised them so you should be able to deal with them ;-)

Yes, god is waiting to give you Mr. Big who is also a manager. YES ! ;-)



Billy,
I like russians, they are handsome men but I am not russian it would be a second cultural shock for me to deal with a russian guy. Anglos are fine for now - I just started understanding their religiousness and the other weird stuff.
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