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7 Most Common Mistakes in Dating Foreign Women

Postby Mark Edward Davis » Mon Apr 16, 2012 5:28 am

For those of you who make a study out of this topic, this is just good 'front-lines' info.
For every mistake mentioned, there was also a lesson for success.

Here’s what you’ll get from this Webinar:

- Responding to cultural misunderstandings
- Communicating the right message
- Being the man she wants to claim as hers
- Overcoming fears
- Five-Step formula for Success
- The art of timing in this condensed format

If nothing else, you’ve got to check out the new intro I created in Final Cut Pro X . . .

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nUHCgJ18RaA[/youtube]
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Postby Falcon » Mon Apr 16, 2012 5:48 am

Thank you very much for the video Mark! This is excellent advice about how to respect the ladies and how to be a better man. Here's a short outline.

(1) Overselling yourself
(2) Overreacting
(3) Acting superior
(4) Ghosthunting for scammers
(5) Being a cheapskate
(6) Qualifying too early
(7) Being in your head and not in your heart
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Postby Adama » Mon Apr 16, 2012 6:48 pm

I hear that most Ukrainian women will have sex with the guy by the third date.
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Postby Mark Edward Davis » Mon Apr 16, 2012 7:10 pm

You can get there on a first date with an American girl if you have enough game.
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Postby Winston » Tue Apr 17, 2012 11:43 am

Adama wrote:I hear that most Ukrainian women will have sex with the guy by the third date.


That's only if they are interested in you. Most of my dates end up platonic with the woman always wanting to move slowly or just be friends. I don't get why so many guys act as though all women eventually warm up to them the longer they know them. I don't see that happening in the real world. It's not that easy unless they are desperate or you are particularly attractive. I'm far better at charming women than most guys are, (according to other people, not me) yet I don't get the kind of results that other guys boast about.
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Postby DaveMoody » Tue Apr 17, 2012 1:13 pm

Winston wrote:I'm far better at charming women than most guys are, (according to other people, not me) yet I don't get the kind of results that other guys boast about.


Any man who tells you they get p***y on a regular is full of shit, they just tell you that shit to make you envy them and make you feel that they're Gods gift or something. You saying that you're charming and not being successful with women every single day pretty much proves that NO MAN (despite how good looking he might be) gets the p***y on a regular basis, except that p***y is his girlfriends who'd be willing to give it up any day because....she knows him. Or unless he's super stinking rich.

And don't believe believe all these characters you see on tv and movies who get p***y like water because they're all definitely full of shit (still entertaining nonetheless).
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Postby Jester » Tue Apr 17, 2012 3:19 pm

DaveMoody wrote:Any man who tells you they get p***y on a regular is full of shit, they just tell you that shit to make you envy them and make you feel that they're Gods gift or something. You saying that you're charming and not being successful with women every single day pretty much proves that NO MAN (despite how good looking he might be) gets the p***y on a regular basis, except that p***y is his girlfriends who'd be willing to give it up any day because....she knows him. Or unless he's super stinking rich.


And the good-looking guys who get laid regularly also have to be willing to take whatever is available, or else face dry spells like everyone else. It's like they are having sex with sex itself, instead of with a woman they are attracted. to.
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Postby DaveMoody » Tue Apr 17, 2012 3:49 pm

Jester wrote:And the good-looking guys who get laid regularly also have to be willing to take whatever is available, or else face dry spells like everyone else. It's like they are having sex with sex itself, instead of with a woman they are attracted. to.


Yep, exactly. I have a friend who acts exactly like this. He'll tell me how many women check him out and how many women he bangs that look like models, but then either you don't notice this or the women he DOES bang look so average

Talk about having delusions. And most Americunts who do look model-like are anorexic freaks
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Postby Mark Edward Davis » Tue Apr 17, 2012 3:56 pm

Winston wrote: Most of my dates end up platonic with the woman always wanting to move slowly or just be friends. I don't get why so many guys act as though all women eventually warm up to them the longer they know them. I don't see that happening in the real world. It's not that easy unless they are desperate or you are particularly attractive. I'm far better at charming women than most guys are, (according to other people, not me) yet I don't get the kind of results that other guys boast about.


I'm going to do a Webinar, perhaps a book, on "The Law of Attraction in Dating" because of this same mystery. Winston, thank you for your honesty and willingness to be open to talking about all of this.

Here's the thing; men will continue to get the 'friends' thing if that's all they are looking for. Think about it. A guy who doesn't want marriage - or has no desire for monogomy will attract the same. "You will attract who you are - not what you say you want." I got that quote from John Maxwell, one of my favorite leadership gurus who wrote an entire chapter in his book "The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership" on this topic. He goes on to say that companies who try to re-invent themselves as being 'young and hip' but they themselves are baby-boomers will continue to attract who they are - not who they want - no matter how much they try to say, "But we want the young and hip customers!". The only way they do it is by hiring young and hip product managers who can attract who THEY are. The law is universal.

Our experience is a mirror to the soul. If you say you want a deeply connected monogomous relationship and you're not getting it, you have to start by doing the soul work of saying, "Why am I attracting this experience and these types of women?"

If you can be honest and say, "I really don't want a long-term, deep connection, monogamous relationship right now", then just enjoy what you have at this stage of your life.

OK, you can all throw tomatoes now. Nobody wants to hear the this, but it's true.
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Postby Jackal » Tue Apr 17, 2012 4:29 pm

Falcon wrote:Thank you very much for the video Mark! This is excellent advice about how to respect the ladies and how to be a better man. Here's a short outline.

(1) Overselling yourself
(2) Overreacting
(3) Acting superior
(4) Ghosthunting for scammers
(5) Being a cheapskate
(6) Qualifying too early
(7) Being in your head and not in your heart

I second that! Mark deserves an award for social intelligence. I'm sure it's not easy to keep a successful and honest match-making business going!
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Postby davewe » Tue Apr 17, 2012 4:40 pm

Mark Edward Davis wrote:
Winston wrote: Most of my dates end up platonic with the woman always wanting to move slowly or just be friends. I don't get why so many guys act as though all women eventually warm up to them the longer they know them. I don't see that happening in the real world. It's not that easy unless they are desperate or you are particularly attractive. I'm far better at charming women than most guys are, (according to other people, not me) yet I don't get the kind of results that other guys boast about.


I'm going to do a Webinar, perhaps a book, on "The Law of Attraction in Dating" because of this same mystery. Winston, thank you for your honesty and willingness to be open to talking about all of this.

Here's the thing; men will continue to get the 'friends' thing if that's all they are looking for. Think about it. A guy who doesn't want marriage - or has no desire for monogomy will attract the same. "You will attract who you are - not what you say you want." I got that quote from John Maxwell, one of my favorite leadership gurus who wrote an entire chapter in his book "The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership" on this topic. He goes on to say that companies who try to re-invent themselves as being 'young and hip' but they themselves are baby-boomers will continue to attract who they are - not who they want - no matter how much they try to say, "But we want the young and hip customers!". The only way they do it is by hiring young and hip product managers who can attract who THEY are. The law is universal.

Our experience is a mirror to the soul. If you say you want a deeply connected monogomous relationship and you're not getting it, you have to start by doing the soul work of saying, "Why am I attracting this experience and these types of women?"

If you can be honest and say, "I really don't want a long-term, deep connection, monogamous relationship right now", then just enjoy what you have at this stage of your life.

OK, you can all throw tomatoes now. Nobody wants to hear the this, but it's true.


No tomato throwing from me. I think this is true about most everything in life. Like does tend to attract like; you do draw people to you with similar qualities. If you're interested in a relationship (interested, not desperate) girls will come out of the woodwork who are also interested.

I would only disagree in that there are plenty of women in the world not looking for marriage (at least at this moment). So a guy disinterested in marriage can still make romantic or sexual connections; but he's less likely to make them with a girl primarily looking for marriage.

As a man, when you can truly define what you really want and who you really are, the universe opens up and provides it.
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Postby Jester » Thu Apr 19, 2012 6:26 am

davewe wrote:....I think this is true about most everything in life. Like does tend to attract like; you do draw people to you with similar qualities. ....
As a man, when you can truly define what you really want and who you really are, the universe opens up and provides it.


Good stuff.
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Postby Winston » Thu Apr 19, 2012 10:55 am

Mark, how come the YouTube version of that video is only one hour, but the version on your website is 2 hours?

http://europeandreamconnections.com/7-m ... -overseas/
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Postby Mark Edward Davis » Thu Apr 19, 2012 2:27 pm

davewe wrote:I would only disagree in that there are plenty of women in the world not looking for marriage (at least at this moment). So a guy disinterested in marriage can still make romantic or sexual connections; but he's less likely to make them with a girl primarily looking for marriage.

As a man, when you can truly define what you really want and who you really are, the universe opens up and provides it.


Actually, we agree on both points - yes, there are still women out there who are not looking for marriage, and, not only CAN you define what you want by who you really are - but it happens whether you make a conscious choice about who you are or ALLOW yourself to be defined by others.
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Postby Mark Edward Davis » Thu Apr 19, 2012 2:30 pm

Winston wrote:Mark, how come the YouTube version of that video is only one hour, but the version on your website is 2 hours?

http://europeandreamconnections.com/7-m ... -overseas/


You are totally correct. There is a one-hour version posted to YouTube and a two-hour version on the website and here's why . . .

I have a One-Hour and Five Minute limit on YouTube - but often the open Q&A after the call (that makes up for the longer version on the website) makes for equally excellent material.

I'd just post to the website only, but YouTube is often how people find us - and they offer great ways for guys to share the video to their social networks - those guys just don't get the full program including the Q&A.
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