aozora13,aozora13 wrote: Honestly, I am just tired of being lonely, wondering if there is something wrong with me as finding work without a long-term visa has been difficult. I think dating offline will probably be better. However, since I am most likely going back home in less than a month, it seems my destiny has unfortunately been decided.
if you are "lonely" what is "wrong" with you is that you have been brainwashed to think that without a woman you are somehow not "successful" or that with a woman you will not feel "alone".
I know this brainwashing. I had a hard time of it the first year I was separated after 23 years. The most amazing thing was how many OTHER people told me how big a "failure" I was because I was divorced. Everyone wants to blame the man and tell him he is a failure and a loser for being divorced. It was CRAZY because I have been so successful over my entire life. I do not suddenly become a "loser" because I will not tolerate my wife stealing money and lying to me.
Just by the way. I did meet another woman 2 weeks after Jennifer and I agreed to separate and move on so it was not as if I spent any time without someone of interest in my life. But we are very heavily brainwashed into the idea that if we do not have a woman in our life then we are somehow failures.
I was talking to fav#1 recently and said I now find it very funny when people try to tell me that I am a failure for not "attracting a woman". I told her that is like telling a surfer he is a "failure for not attracting a shark". Women and sharks. There is not a lot of difference. fav#1 laughed and agreed it was very close to the truth. Women are the real predators and that works best if the woman convinces the man HE is the predator. Keeping men in the dark is the #1 weapon for women.
Now that I am 4 years down the track? I love being alone. I can not imagine how I survived in a house with 4 kids and a wife now. All the compromises you have to make!
And let me tell you. There is no place more lonely than in a house with a wife and 4 kids when your wife likes to attempt to emotionally abuse you and manipulate you. Do not make the mistake of thinking that many men are "happily married". Most just say that. I am a good example of telling that small lie while I was married.
I was very disappointed with Jennifer and how she treated me but I did not tell other people that. People were very, very surprised when I announced our divorce after 18 years. We were seen as the "perfect couple" because of me living up to my vow of "honour thy wife". It is not honourable to criticise your wife. Period. So I never did criticize her in public. I only every spoke well of her in public. But having had her tell lies about me in court? That breaks any agreement to not expose her for what she is.
So cheer up.....being with a woman is not all some make it out to be. Even my fav#1 says that even if she drops the idea of more children she is very skeptical about being with me. Her "excuse" at the moment is that she knows she will be nasty to me and she is concerned I will not be able to handle a woman as difficult as she is...and she WILL be a difficult woman for whatever man she winds up with. That is her nature. That is the nature of most women. It is just that no one tells a man that.