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Why do women often say that looks don't matter?

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Postby momopi » Thu Dec 20, 2012 1:37 am

All you have to do is reopen the original thread, or consolidate the multitude of repetitive threads into fewer threads.

On SDF we try to only lock threads after ~300 posts before starting a new thread with the same topic. On TW backpacker I've seen threads with ~2200 replies and ~1.9 million views, so they cherry pick the best trip reports and repost them to separate "best of" threads.
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Postby drealm » Thu Dec 20, 2012 2:06 am

I suspect it's for a few reasons:

1. Objective truth is an abstract concept to women.

2. Women care about avoiding conflict over honor. If truth creates conflict, they'll prefer lying.

3. Women think men value dishonest compliments of over honest criticisms.

To be fair Winston, would you like women to be absolutely honest with you? You know what some of the members here have said about your looks. If women were direct and harsh would you prefer this?
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Postby Banano » Thu Dec 20, 2012 6:01 am

Young and hot chicks are more honest when it comes to looks question, as they have more confidence in their own looks

its usually less attractive ones who claim looks dont matter


Lot of people will say how in SE Asia looks dont matter much as they see ugly /older westerners with young local grlls but thats bc money makes up for lack of beauty,


THEN AGAIN, you have some men who will also say how it dont mtter to them if women is ugly or not as long s personality is there


beauty has some mystical powers, its easier to love attractive people, they have it easier in life, in courts, job interviews they have advantage, in clubs beautiful people, especially women jump the queues, ugly onse get rejected entry, list goes on and on, even in the war if captured attractive men have better treatments, possibly it can be difference between life and death,

this is a very taboo subject, noone likes to touch it in mainstream media as it would cause so much controversy and discomfort, yet never in the history looks played such a significant role as it plays now,
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Postby Winston » Thu Dec 20, 2012 6:37 am

momopi wrote:All you have to do is reopen the original thread, or consolidate the multitude of repetitive threads into fewer threads.

On SDF we try to only lock threads after ~300 posts before starting a new thread with the same topic. On TW backpacker I've seen threads with ~2200 replies and ~1.9 million views, so they cherry pick the best trip reports and repost them to separate "best of" threads.


There is no way to merge threads in this version of phpbb. I don't usually create repetitive threads. But I just wanted a thread with the topic title that this one has, because I knew that it would get a lot of responses, and it seems I was right.

Why would the TW backpacker forum be that large? There aren't even that many places to backpack in Taiwan. And the natural scenery doesn't have much variety either. Maybe you can post links to my complaints about Taiwan there and see what happens. lol
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Postby lone_yakuza » Thu Dec 20, 2012 6:55 am

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Postby polya » Thu Dec 20, 2012 7:16 am

Heeellllooo! This is like asking "Is the Pope a Catholic?"- we all know women are liars! They lie about everything, even when they don't need to...
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Postby momopi » Thu Dec 20, 2012 6:48 pm

Winston wrote:Why would the TW backpacker forum be that large? There aren't even that many places to backpack in Taiwan. And the natural scenery doesn't have much variety either. Maybe you can post links to my complaints about Taiwan there and see what happens. lol


The thread with 2,194 posts and 1.9 million views is titled 香港飯店、旅館住宿討論區 (Hong Kong Area, Hotel Discussion Area).
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Postby Renata » Fri Dec 21, 2012 1:39 am

Women tend to lie about it because they don't want to come across as shallow or hurt someone face to face.

If I were asked; I would say looks do matter but it's not the priority... becuase when the looks fade away you'll be left with this person so they should have some substance as well to accompany the looks. I think you should date people within your range, for example, If you're an 8 date between 7-9.
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Postby Banano » Fri Dec 21, 2012 2:27 am

looks fade away so does personality..

Why do we assume our presonality wont change/fade in the fuure but looks will?
Its well known that at the begining of every relationship people are faking it...some fake it for longer than others...


How many times does womn give a chance to man she finds ugly?
Never...
Looks is pre requisite, you need to tick that box before personality test come on stage, would be nice if its the other way around then guys on POF would have fair chance


btw i dont think there is anything shallow in going for looks, so question is why women think its shallow?
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Postby Rock » Fri Dec 21, 2012 5:34 am

lone_yakuza wrote:
Just from taking a look at many of the naturally talented valedictorians around high schools that I met at many national competitions, the ones who effortlessly did well, almost always had superior facial aesthetics and body-build. There were of course many very ugly and intelligent people, but more often than not, they got where they got because they worked their asses off, and it is not because of natural intelligence. Also, think of how socially isolated ugly people or people with inferior genetics tend to be? They are usually shunned, so of course they have all this time to study.

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"As you can see, there is a clear monotonic positive association between physical attractiveness and intelligence. The more physically attractive Add Health respondents are, the more intelligent they are. The mean IQ is 94.2 for those rated “very unattractive,â€￾ 94.9 for those rated “unattractive,â€￾ 97.1 for those rated “about average,â€￾ 100.3 for those rated “attractive,â€￾ and 100.7 for those rated “very attractive.â€￾ Due partly to the large sample size, the association is highly statistically significant."


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Hmm, perhaps there is a loose positive correlation between physical attractiveness and intelligence. But why do you think:

- Many of the super geniuses in history are not particularly good looking and some rather unattractive?

- The Jewish American average IQ is around 115 and SD is something like 7 so most of them are above average to super smart relative to US mean. However, many of them are not so attractive with disproportionally long mid faces, large noses, and a tendency not to age so well. But, black Americans who score much lower on average IQ yet have a high percentage of athletic males with attractive well proportioned faces and smooth thick skin which ages well.
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Postby lone_yakuza » Fri Dec 21, 2012 8:12 am

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Postby Winston » Fri Dec 21, 2012 5:00 pm

Why is there a correlation between beauty and intelligence? I don't see much of such a correlation in real life. Especially not in America, where "dumb is cool".

Don't you guys hate it when women tell you that you're not their type, and then also tell you at the same time that looks don't matter? WTF? Aren't those two statements contradictory? lol

In those cases, I press them and ask "Well if looks don't matter to you, then how exactly am I not your type? Am I too short, not good looking enough, or what? What am I lacking to you?" They try to avoid this question and if I press further, they say something vague about "feeling in their heart that I'm not the man for them" etc.

I hate that. That's so vague. Yet it's happened many times. Don't you hate it when they say looks don't matter but that you aren't their type either? Yet they can't reconcile that other than to say something about a "gut feeling" or lack of chemistry. So stupid.
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Postby Teal Lantern » Fri Dec 21, 2012 6:07 pm

Winston wrote:Why is there a correlation between beauty and intelligence? I don't see much of such a correlation in real life. Especially not in America, where "dumb is cool".

Don't you guys hate it when women tell you that you're not their type, and then also tell you at the same time that looks don't matter? WTF? Aren't those two statements contradictory? lol

In those cases, I press them and ask "Well if looks don't matter to you, then how exactly am I not your type? Am I too short, not good looking enough, or what? What am I lacking to you?" They try to avoid this question and if I press further, they say something vague about "feeling in their heart that I'm not the man for them" etc.

I hate that. That's so vague. Yet it's happened many times. Don't you hate it when they say looks don't matter but that you aren't their type either? Yet they can't reconcile that other than to say something about a "gut feeling" or lack of chemistry. So stupid.


The better a woman looks, the less she has to worry about being intelligent.

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I won't call her dumb, but she certainly has a bit of trouble getting her words out.
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Postby jamesbond » Fri Dec 21, 2012 6:15 pm

To this particular woman, looks don't matter. This guy is probably rich, that is the only reason she is with him. :lol:

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Postby marklambo » Sat Dec 22, 2012 8:16 am

jamesbond wrote:To this particular woman, looks don't matter. This guy is probably rich, that is the only reason she is with him. :lol:

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or maybe he paid her a few hundred bucks to take a pic with him..
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