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Dating Someone With Kids Vs. Without Kids

Postby patriciawalker3 » September 23rd, 2013, 2:00 am

Just want to get everyones opinion. I am a father of 4 kids. It would take a very special gal to accept someone with 4 kids. In my search do you think it is wiser to focus on meeting gals who already have kids? Because only a parent understands what it means to be a parent. I have found the gals who already have kids are looking for someone who will love their kids so the are very open to someone with kids already. However, some of the gals out there who want kids also say they are cool with someone with kids.

Your thoughts?
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Postby Cornfed » September 23rd, 2013, 2:06 am

I think it is wiser for you to focus on recreational sex with skanks and hoes, since the only rational purpose of marriage is children, and you already have children.
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Postby Cornfed » September 23rd, 2013, 2:24 am

BTW, how come you say you are a father but are using a girl's name?
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Postby Jester » September 23rd, 2013, 6:34 am

Cornfed wrote:BTW, how come you say you are a father but are using a girl's name?


Strange, isn't it.
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Postby polya » September 23rd, 2013, 8:31 am

IMO your only choice to to find another partner with kids. Unless you look like a movie star, few single people will want more than casual sex.
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Postby mand38 » September 27th, 2013, 2:49 pm

Cornfed wrote:I think it is wiser for you to focus on recreational sex with skanks and hoes, since the only rational purpose of marriage is children, and you already have children.


I not agree with this.

I am sure you WILL FIND some decent girl / women, just keep walking
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Postby Jester » September 28th, 2013, 4:29 am

polya wrote:IMO your only choice to to find another partner with kids. Unless you look like a movie star, few single people will want more than casual sex.


Having kids lowers your value to most women, but it can be overcome.

If she's an AW, then yes she should have kids too, or you should be rich, or your kids should be all grown up, or at least not around.

If she's from Mexico, Peru, etc., then younger kids might be ok, even in the house. They are lenient, forgiving people. (This is a guess, haven't done it. But my Mexican gf loves to cook for my sons when they visit...)

Also, if you're willing to put a ring on it, or at least treat a young woman nice and pay attention to her, or at least be monogamous, that raises your value way up. You could then probably get a slender, attractive thirtyish White or ME girl if you work at it.

But Cornfed is right about one thing - if you don't want more kids, then stick with the MILF's. They won't mind birth control, and may have had tubes tied anyway.
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Postby Dragon » September 28th, 2013, 4:35 am

DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT become emotionally invested with a single mother. DO NOT end up raising another man's seed. Do this and you fail pretty hard.There are a lot of younger, hotter childless women out there. DO NOT marry a single mother just because it's easy and she's desperate. I find a lot of the guys who do this lack any sort of self-esteem and self-respect.
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Postby polya » September 28th, 2013, 6:46 am

Dragon wrote:DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT become emotionally invested with a single mother. DO NOT end up raising another man's seed. Do this and you fail pretty hard.There are a lot of younger, hotter childless women out there. DO NOT marry a single mother just because it's easy and she's desperate. I find a lot of the guys who do this lack any sort of self-esteem and self-respect.


+1 single moms are only good for asking you: "Do you want fries with that?"
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Postby ***JP*** » September 28th, 2013, 9:24 am

Dragon wrote:DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT become emotionally invested with a single mother. DO NOT end up raising another man's seed. Do this and you fail pretty hard.There are a lot of younger, hotter childless women out there. DO NOT marry a single mother just because it's easy and she's desperate. I find a lot of the guys who do this lack any sort of self-esteem and self-respect.



Amen to that. You don't need to be carrying other men's luggage.
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Postby jamesbond » September 28th, 2013, 1:30 pm

Dragon wrote:DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT become emotionally invested with a single mother. DO NOT end up raising another man's seed. Do this and you fail pretty hard.There are a lot of younger, hotter childless women out there. DO NOT marry a single mother just because it's easy and she's desperate. I find a lot of the guys who do this lack any sort of self-esteem and self-respect.

Amen, DO NOT get involved with a single mother under any circumstance! I know guys who are dating single mothers and worse yet I know a guy who married a single mother who had three small children from her first husband.

It is a "lose, lose" situation for the man. The guy has to hope that the woman's kids like him and respect him. He also has to put up with being a step dad and dealing with all the crap that goes into that.

Not to mention, he has to keep the woman happy and take what ever crap she does to him. Most guys who get involved with single mothers are guys who have low self-esteem and are guys who have "settled."

I repeat, AVOID SINGLE MOTHER'S LIKE THE PLAGUE! :P :P
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Re: Dating Someone With Kids Vs. Without Kids

Postby Jester » September 29th, 2013, 3:45 am

patriciawalker3 wrote:
However, some of the gals out there who want kids also say they are cool with someone with kids.

Your thoughts?



There's your answer.
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Re: Dating Someone With Kids Vs. Without Kids

Postby Halwick » September 29th, 2013, 4:45 am

patriciawalker3 wrote:Just want to get everyones opinion. I am a father of 4 kids. It would take a very special gal to accept someone with 4 kids. In my search do you think it is wiser to focus on meeting gals who already have kids? Because only a parent understands what it means to be a parent. I have found the gals who already have kids are looking for someone who will love their kids so the are very open to someone with kids already. However, some of the gals out there who want kids also say they are cool with someone with kids.

Your thoughts?


There are four problems with dating and marrying a woman with kids: 1) You are raising another man's kids and paying for it; 2) you are viewed as the walking, talking ATM machine; 3) The kids will never accept you as their "father" (i.e, an authoritatitve figure to be respected) and you have no say in their upbringing so long as their real father is still in the picture; and 4) From the woman's perspective, you are a distant third or fourth in priorities.

It isn't worth being a drone under those self-imposed conditions.
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