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How to game South American girls online?

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How to game South American girls online?

Postby rudder » Mon Oct 14, 2013 4:55 am

I'd like to do some pipelining with south american girls on the net, so that I have some contacts established for when I move down there next year.

I've already registered on a few free websites, but I hardly get any responses from girls. What am I doing wrong? Should I not compliment them? Are south americans just horrible with internet etiquette? Super flakey? I know for american girls online, it's a good idea to throw in some negs in your initial message, but I'm wondering if that's also true for foreign girls on the internet. I know girls (FOREIGN and Domestic) are getting blasted with messages from men all the time.

My profile pic is usually a picture of me with a group of girls (social proof), and then I'll have an alternate photo with just my face. I'm not ugly, and girls often compliment me on my appearance when I'm travelling in latin america.

So for online game with foreign girls, should I refrain from anything sexual in the first couple messages? I just feel like online game is hard, because I can't give off any of my body language, which would account for 90% of communication normally.

So far my best prospects seem to be some girls that are interested in skyping with me, because I want to practice teaching english. That's straightforward, and it may or may not lead to friendship/dating. I'm also on other websites that are geared more specifically towards friendship/dating, but I'm just not sure how to get through to the girls on those sites. Even if they do respond to my messages, what am I supposed to say to keep a long dialogue going?
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Postby MarkDY » Thu Oct 17, 2013 2:55 am

Your profile should have five type of photos, a formal photo, a photo with a pet (I get comments about my dog), a photo playing a sport or some outdoor activity, a photo with a group of your friends (mostly male) and a good photo from someplace famous you have visited.
Leave out anything sexual unless you are looking for an escort.
Make as many friends as possible, even the women looking for English lessons might have friends who want to meet you.
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Postby icarus » Thu Oct 17, 2013 10:39 pm

I would say your whole mindset of "gaming" them on the internet is the wrong approach. From my own experience in Brazil, they tend to have large social circles and live more in the moment that Americans. Look at their pictures on Facebook. Usually you will see them hanging out and taking pics with many various guy friends. Sometimes it will be almost impossible to tell which guy, if any, they are actually dating just by browsing their pics. Often times they may even makeout with a guy friend for the night just for some fun in the moment with no expectations later.

If you want to lay the groundwork for success, I would avoid the dating sites and just concentrate on making general friendly contacts. See if there are any South American nationals close to where you live that conduct cultural activities. They may have good friends of relative where you are going. Sign up for travel sites like Couchsurfing or WAYN and let people know your future plans, and that you just want to have some nice people to meet up with when you arrive to show you the lay of the land. If they see you are a decent cool guy and like you, then they will be happy to have you tag along sometimes so you can meet their other friends, other friends' friends, etc.

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Postby T Rex » Sat Oct 19, 2013 10:35 pm

I'd be interested to hear if you find a good site...IE the equivalent of dateinasia.com for Latin America
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Postby zboy1 » Sun Oct 20, 2013 12:50 am

T Rex wrote:I'd be interested to hear if you find a good site...IE the equivalent of dateinasia.com for Latin America



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Postby rudder » Tue Oct 22, 2013 5:51 am

MarkDY wrote:Leave out anything sexual unless you are looking for an escort.


So you should save any sexual escalation for in-person interactions? Is your advice for the initial messages online and you believe it's OK to have cyber sex or a little dirty talk later on? Or would anything sexual result in near-guaranteed buyer's remorse and anti-slut defense from the girl, in which case, you would probably never meet her in real life, because of what would then be expected.
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Postby djfourmoney » Tue Oct 22, 2013 7:39 am

I would agree that Latin America is mostly about relationships and that's where you should start. The internet is okay but shouldn't relied on 100%, sorry you're going to have to do some work on the relationship front (no sex talk) and plan on meeting people in person.

I understood this and that's why I when I had a chance to meet the Brazilian I was talking to (friends) I made the effort to see her and she was with a male friend.

In the end it didn't work because our personality types don't match. But if that didn't happen, she was ready to introduce me to her social circle which contained quite a few women in it (got visual evidence) and I wasn't going to be disappointed.

These things take time, so unless you got time to spend several weeks in-country and speak the language, I would say forget it and find an easier target.

If you're hard headed however -

Requirement #1, learn Spanish or Portuguese these are largely not optional. If you like Latin women but don't wanna learn the language, stay in the States and date Latin women here or Latinas from Spain, where its likely the women with college degrees speak English, while those that don't; don't.

Requirement #2 MEET AS WOMEN AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE. One and Done is RARE and if you want it to be ONE trip and DONE (exclusively dating by the time you leave) then you need to meet many women because like Goldilocks not too many women are going to think your "just right" just as you will think the majority of women have issues or ulterior motives.

If you're a White guy, in-shape and not completely dorky looking, you will have success in any Latin country, repeat ANY. Latin countries are color struck. More some than others, but all love European types, especially if your eyes aren't brown or black.
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Postby icarus » Tue Oct 22, 2013 9:47 pm

rudder wrote:
MarkDY wrote:Leave out anything sexual unless you are looking for an escort.


So you should save any sexual escalation for in-person interactions? Is your advice for the initial messages online and you believe it's OK to have cyber sex or a little dirty talk later on? Or would anything sexual result in near-guaranteed buyer's remorse and anti-slut defense from the girl, in which case, you would probably never meet her in real life, because of what would then be expected.


I would definitely avoid anything sexual before you meet, and probably not on the first meeting either. You might be surprised how deep the Catholic guilt complex can run in these cultures.

I've found it very true that you can break through a Brazilian girls defenses much easier than an American's but that doesn't necessarily mean they are always easier to bed. The energy/effort/charm required to initially kiss the former is much less than an American girl, but the path leading from makeout to the bedroom is longer.

I.e. with an American girl, your odds of scoring rise much more dramatically after a sloppy kissing, feeling-up session than a Brazilian girl, as Brasileiras tend to live much more in the moment, and the guilt complex mentioned above. That is another reason why I wouldn't spend too much time trying to work the dating sites for girls you may not meet, if ever, for several months but rather try to meet people in order to increase your social circle.

This is maybe an over simplification, but a good starting point and djfourmoney's experience seems to be on point.

If you are going to Brazil, you should also familiarize yourself with the word 'ficante' (from the verb ficar). There is no exact English equivalent, but it's roughly like a make-out partner. My experience is limited to Brazil, but I imagine other places like Colombia may be similar.
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