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Young man wants advice

Post by Bao3niang » November 8th, 2013, 4:18 pm

Hey guys, it's Andrew, the Chinese-Canadian dude again. I may still be sort of young, but I would like advice on where to live in the future and where would be best for me to date around and pick up good women. I'm totally against AW / Canadian / women in English-speaking countries (or at least 99% of them), and 60-70% of East Asian females as well.
I don't like to live anywhere with a conformist, conservative, and negative vibe, so the Enflish-speaking countries along with most of East Asia are all out of my consideration.
I like women that are friendly, mature, intelligent, and just prefer a decent guy that can treat them well enough.

I don't know what works best for me in terms of global living / dating, so any advice would be appreciated!

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Post by Mr.Darcy » November 8th, 2013, 5:17 pm

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Post by Voice of Reason » November 8th, 2013, 5:46 pm

Bao3niang wrote:Hey guys, it's Andrew, the Chinese-Canadian dude again. I may still be sort of young, but I would like advice on where to live in the future and where would be best for me to date around and pick up good women. I'm totally against AW / Canadian / women in English-speaking countries (or at least 99% of them), and 60-70% of East Asian females as well.
I don't like to live anywhere with a conformist, conservative, and negative vibe, so the Enflish-speaking countries along with most of East Asia are all out of my consideration.
I like women that are friendly, mature, intelligent, and just prefer a decent guy that can treat them well enough.

I don't know what works best for me in terms of global living / dating, so any advice would be appreciated!
Just travel and check places out, and THEN decide whether you want to live there or not.

You will never know that a place is good just because someone says so on a forum. We all have different experiences.

Southeast Asia is a good place to start.

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Post by Bao3niang » November 9th, 2013, 12:07 am

Hmmm Southeast Asia. It is a fairly big and diverse region, so perhaps I should begin by asking a shot at these countries:

-Philippines

-Vietnam

-Thailand

-Malaysia?

-Cambodia

-Indonesia?


Indonesia and Malaysia I am less sure about because they are heavily Muslim. On the + side,
it gives me more chances for evangelism. On - side, too many rules and potential to get killed lol....l

Singapore too darn expensive and like America, besides if I get perm residency there I have to join their military.



I know a Canadian dude in Beijing who lived in Thailand for the last 4 years (and plans to go back), and he says that as long as you don't do business there (which I don't even think about) due to corruption, it is a nice place.


So among Southeast Asian women, which ones seem to be more / the most welcoming towards overseas Asians (East) like me? I don't have experience with any :(


And can any1 give some general observations on women from different SE Asian countries?

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Post by Bao3niang » November 9th, 2013, 12:10 am

I' m also considering Europe, especially Spain, Switzerland, Austria, and maybe somewhere in eastern Europe. It's culture+women that drives me, just like Winston. South America I think that Brazil and Argentina maybe are cool.....

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Post by Voice of Reason » November 10th, 2013, 4:10 am

I don't know about South American countries, but in SE Asia your best bet would be the Thailand, Phillippines and Vietnam. Just travel to those countries, and decide for yourself.

Cambodia also has good women, but I wouldn't like to live in the country.

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Post by Bao3niang » November 10th, 2013, 5:49 am

So, if Thai, Vietnamese, and Filipino women are my best bets in Asia, can anyone who has experience give me some general details on how women from each of these countries behave, look like, and think?

Some Areas I Am Concerned About:

1. Core personality / beliefs

2. Openness to outsiders / foreigners

3. Level of materialism / desire for money


4. What they look for in a man (personality, looks, job, etc.)


5. Interests and hobbies (intellectual / spiritual cultivation)



6. Level of submission / conformity to family and society's ways

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Post by ladislav » November 10th, 2013, 5:52 pm

Imo, Thailand is a great place for Chinese-looking people. Indonesia may not be as it is Muslim plus visas are hard to get. They are also not fond of the Chinese that much. VN is also a good place for you.

In the above countries, you will have to learn the language.

The Philippines is uber-good because they speak English.

In L. America, there is a level of prejudice against Oriental looking people, which you will, of course, not find in Thailand.

The only problem in Thailand, outside of the language, is the materialism. Also, you may want to lower some of your demands such as " spiritual cultivation". Some things may not be waiting to be handed to you on a silver platter- a perfect beautiful girl in a friendly, utopian, spiritual society, etc. You may want to do some cultivation yourself when you get there.

It is the same with some guys who want to go to those poorer countries and date/marry a middle class to rich girl. There, the middle class and the rich are arrogant, feudal lords with servants and land. They grew up lording over the poor. Many hate foreigners because these are competition and/or despise them when they see that these foreigners are not rich.

And the poor there are often swindling, cheating, stealing ba*tards- that's the only way they can get ahead. No student loans, no scholarships. And they hate and envy you, too. So, you may end up being despised by the middle class/rich while getting swindled and used by the poor. Not an easy situation.

Anyway, there will be plenty of challenges ahead so accept places and situations that provide a "reasonable" level of what you want and a potential, rather than ones that have all the elements you want already. Because the latter simply do not exist.
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Post by Bao3niang » November 11th, 2013, 4:48 am

What are the best places in those 3 countries?

1. VN

2. Thailand

3. Phillies


The reason why I have Malaysia in the list for now is because A) I'm familiar with many Malaysians B) I can stay away from the really Muslim ones and go for Malaysian Chinese / non-practicing Malays

But I have a question about Malaysian Chinese (although I do know quite a few in Beijing, but never really seen how they live), are they like Taiwanese/East Asians with that really reserved and tight Confucian mentality?
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Post by shayanjameel08 » November 19th, 2013, 5:48 am

i advice you find 20+ for yourself, they were to mature and they will think you still a child for them.
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Post by Bao3niang » November 19th, 2013, 9:12 am

So u think I am too young?

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Post by The_Adventurer » November 19th, 2013, 10:34 am

Not sure what Shayanjamee meant. In my experience in Asia, even women up to 30 years old still act like children.

How are you planning to support yourself on your journey? My advice would be to read the thread by GenYGuy on SEO writing. You don't have to do that, but it can give you an idea of making money online. Once you have something going, and a bit of income, I would say travel to the countries on your short list, be it Philippines, Viet Nam or Thailand, even Malaysia and stay there six months or as long as visas permit. If a place is diverse like Philippines, try staying a few months in the north and a few in the central areas to see which one gels with you.

Don't make any decisions too fast. Visit a place for a few months, and then move on. Try a couple of other places and then come back to the first place. The feeling may be different after some different experiences elsewhere. After you spent two or three years doing this, you will likely have a very good idea where you want to settle down.
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Post by xiongmao » November 19th, 2013, 11:29 am

Malaysian Chinese are good (my sister in law is one). But it might be hard to break into their society unless you have contacts.

I'd recommend Kuala Lumpur as a place to look for an expat job.

Myanmar is a possibility, although Falcon and I read a load of books about it in Asia Books and I found out it was:

1. The second most corrupt place on the planet (after Somalia).
2. Full of spies and snakes.

Hmmmm.

Could be a good time to start a business there though - I'd love to open a franchise of Subway or McDonalds or something.

I recommend spending at least 4 months in each country - that seems to be the minimum to get a good understanding of the place.

Quite pleased that Falcon and went out for an explore of Bangkok yesterday and we found a temple that I've not managed to find in any online guides. So Bangkok HAS NOT been done to death by foreign tourists! We found some weird stuff including a bizarre tree, some automatons, a Taiwanese restaurant using simplified Chinese (huh?) and some very cheap Internet cafes.

Also we went to a less visited shopping mall and there were oodles of nice looking Thai women on wechat (and also in real life).
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Post by Bao3niang » November 20th, 2013, 3:50 am

Where can I find the guide on SEO writing?
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