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Has anyone here had a 'Friends with Benefits' relationship?

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Has anyone here had a 'Friends with Benefits' relationship?

Postby jamesbond » January 23rd, 2014, 6:15 pm

I was wondering if anyone here has had a "Friends with benefits" relationship with a girl? I hear about these types of relationships all the time in movies and TV shows and from guys who are PUA artists.

Just how does one get into such a relationship with a girl? Has anyone here ever been in a relationship like that?
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Postby Devil Dog » January 23rd, 2014, 7:19 pm

When I was in college I had a FWB for the last 1 1/2 semesters. She wanted it to be more than that but I was honest with her and she knew that it was not.

I suspect that most FWB relationships involve one party wanting the relationship to be something more. I still have fond memories of her and I will never forget how loving and giving she was physically.

Of course, most here will think this could not be true. She was an AW, after all.
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Postby Rock » January 23rd, 2014, 7:35 pm

I've had it happen with girls who liked me but understood I was not interested in committing to her in a formal relationship. Such arrangements run their course and often don't last more than a few months. And I've met girls who were ok to have a physical relationship but were uninterested in an exclusive relationship with me and would even distance themselves if I indicated any interest in getting serious.

My Canadian room mate during my exchange program at Chinese University in Hong Kong shagged a local classmate a few times during the semester under the table. She had a serious local boyfriend and was not interest in a relationship with a foreign guy. But for some reason, she was drawn to this guy (an average looking prematurely grey haired white guy). In fact, none of the local girls seemed interested in public relationships with the 12 or so western students on exchange there except for one Canadian Hong Kong girl who kinda didn't fit in with the locals even though she was completely fluent in Cantonese. In those circumstances, certain girls may be up for just sex.

I've also encountered guys in China who sometimes have sex with lonely married women whose husbands are away a lot.
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Postby Will N. Dowd » January 23rd, 2014, 8:51 pm

All the girls I had in the Philippines were this kind of relationship, and the girls knew it because I told them before, during or after the deed. I had 3 one night stands, and after the girls said they wanted a serious relationship, which I declined. Some of the other girls said sorry no more sleepovers, so I said OK no problem, but they still came back for more soon after. One of them was with a very hot 18 year old beauty contest winner that lasted until the morning I left. She would wake up at in the night to do it with me, even after we had done it before falling asleep and then we would do it again after waking up that morning.

After comparing the life I had in Canada with 1 ESL GF at a time, to the 15 hot or cute girls I had in 3 months in The Philippines, I'll take the cute and hot 15 girls.
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Postby tre » January 23rd, 2014, 9:14 pm

I've had a FWB girl once. It was with a white girl and neither of us were interested in more than what it was. We were just both single at the time and didn't want to go without sex...simple as that. It was just OK, but I prefer having sex with someone I'm crazy about (she's a very attractive white girl, but that isn't really my thing). I am still friends with this girl to this day. We don't talk much due to us both being in relationships, but no hard feelings whatsoever...
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Postby E Irizarry R&B Singer » January 24th, 2014, 4:51 am

Most of my lays (frito and non-frito) were FWiBs. Once they found out how frugal I was, they just ran off without a cause nor muttering a word. Most of them wanted "thaaaaa dick" (in a late Bernie Mac intonation of voice), especially American women. It was so hard to have more than a FWiB with American women because I wouldn't let them walk all over me.

Foreign women (including Canadian women) are FWiBing with me without feeling like a slut about it; they are happy for the friendship more than anything and if and when we link up again, then we go intimate. Foreign women don't have hangups about FWiBing like U.S. of Gay-as-hell women do!
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Postby E Irizarry R&B Singer » January 24th, 2014, 9:40 am

Denotes:

Frito Lays = Hispanic women, Latina women, Latino American women that I got laid by.
Non-Frito Lays = women whom aren't Frito Lays that I got laid by. :-)
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Postby Bao3niang » January 24th, 2014, 1:43 pm

Crap! This post is scaring the heck out of me! I wonder if any of those Vietnamese girls would want only a FWB relationship with me once I actually see them on the ground....

Sigh ladies in Beijing are too workaholic....


I had a part-time job at an English school 3 minutes from where I live, but lost it after 4 weeks when they decided to get a white British guy to replace me. Plus the entire time this 27 or 28 year old Beijing woman kept ordering me around.....

The only person there that I ever talked to was an overweight 30 year-old South African female teacher (white), the rest were so business-oriented and cliquish.
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Postby Miaji » February 4th, 2014, 2:44 pm

To be honest, never, but sometimes I really want such relations. But then I think I will fall in love with my "friend with benefits" and we'll not have happy end
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Re: Has anyone here had a 'Friends with Benefits' relationsh

Postby travelsouth » February 4th, 2014, 6:17 pm

jamesbond wrote:I was wondering if anyone here has had a "Friends with benefits" relationship with a girl? I hear about these types of relationships all the time in movies and TV shows and from guys who are PUA artists.

Just how does one get into such a relationship with a girl? Has anyone here ever been in a relationship like that?


I wondered for a sec if this was a serious question. Young women in the States have all kinds of casual sex. I found a surprising amount of party girls in Mexico City. Honestly these women are going to want a guy that they are attracted to for this sort of thing. So guys with a big age difference (way out of shape, bald, etc) will need to use $$$ to level the playing field. But the best women for casual sex are women without problems. What I am talking about are young single women with careers. They tend to have some sort of education and training plus money coming in from work. OR they come from a family with money. You can meet these girls in certain neighborhoods and out at the clubs. They will run across a young gringo they click with and it is off to his hotel or apartment for sex. Gringos are great to have sex with because they don't talk like the locals do.
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