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Some Honest Advice Before Marrying a Foreign Lady

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Some Honest Advice Before Marrying a Foreign Lady

Post by Winston » August 27th, 2014, 5:42 pm

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Re: Some Honest Advice Before Marrying a Foreign Lady

Post by MrMan » August 27th, 2014, 7:29 pm

Winston wrote:http://blog.happierabroad.com/2014/08/some-honest-advice-before-marrying.html


The article advises letting any woman you consider know that you would want a pre-nup, and that this weeds out gold diggers.

The problem is that asking for a pre-nup can weed out the type of women who don't believe in divorce who want a man who doesn't believe in divorce. Some of the most anti-divorce women would see the request for a pre-nup to be signaling a low commitment to marriage. It's a bet on divorce. A very anti-divorce woman doesn't want to divorce or be divorced. So you can drive away some of the very best candidates for marriage, the conservative type who want to commit to their husband for life and never divorce.

In my case, I wanted a Christian who did not believe in divorcing like the example in the article. I wanted something with character. A pre-nup would not fit with our relationship, beliefs, or what both of us wanted.

There are cases where pre-nups make sense. If a man has adult children and wants to leave most of his estate to them, it makes sense to have step-mom sign a pre-nup. Some widowers get remarried when they are older. In Indonesia, in order to ensure the right to own land, a man has to waive rights to his wife's lands in a pre-nup. You could do that with the understanding that she submits to you and it is treated as de facto community property, but that would be between the two of you for financial decisions in the marriage. You could say you'd own land in her name. If she doesn't back stab you, then that discussion may prevent conflict later in the marriage.

I hear pre-nups don't hold up that well in court anyway.

If you marry, there needs to be some trust. You really need to know the other person's character. High risks women for divorce should not be in your consideration set if you can figure out that they are high risk, of course. Someone with no beliefs or morals really has no reason not to divorce except for love (which could mean a temporary dopamine rush.)

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Post by sea_dragon » August 28th, 2014, 12:13 am

I think Asian men have it much easier time when it comes to marriage to an extent. While non-Asian men often attract more sluttier and and not so conservative types.

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Post by Ghost » August 28th, 2014, 1:07 am

It pertains to men bringing foreign wives home to anglo countries. No sane man should try this nowadays. Go live in Asia or where ever and you don't need a prenup. If things go sour, either kick her out or change cities.

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Post by newlifeinphilippines » August 28th, 2014, 1:16 am

Ghost wrote:It pertains to men bringing foreign wives home to anglo countries. No sane man should try this nowadays. Go live in Asia or where ever and you don't need a prenup. If things go sour, either kick her out or change cities.


yeah dont own anything just dissapear when convenient lol

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Post by Ghost » August 28th, 2014, 1:50 am

newlifeinphilippines wrote:
Ghost wrote:It pertains to men bringing foreign wives home to anglo countries. No sane man should try this nowadays. Go live in Asia or where ever and you don't need a prenup. If things go sour, either kick her out or change cities.


yeah dont own anything just dissapear when convenient lol


Yeah, I would like to find a stable, sane, long time relationship in the future but I refuse to leave myself vulnerable. So I'll probably end up in Asia, married, and if things go sour...say she turns into a monster...then I will have sent money back home, not accumulated many goods abroad, and be ready to pack up and head out the door at a moment's notice. I probably wouldn't even bother with a divorce.

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Post by In2dadark » August 28th, 2014, 1:56 am

I understand you can marry them there & bring them here (short term stays) on a certain visa that's nearly impossible to get (?). That would be a preferred set up to marrying here. But, yeah, being able to dip when she flips is the way to go.

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Re: Some Honest Advice Before Marrying a Foreign Lady

Post by Archangel_hawksnest » December 2nd, 2014, 5:11 am

I don't know why any man would entertain the idea of marrying any woman. you are basically asking for trouble.

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