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Girls who give terse responses on dating sites

Post by fightforlove » September 24th, 2014, 4:08 pm

This is an issue that I'd like to get some more opinions of, especially from you guys who have tried online dating quite extensively.

I've been getting back into American online game (match, eharmony, okc). I write a 3-6 sentence creative, positive, and inquisitive intro message and sign my name. I often get these very brief, one sentence or one word responses and they don't tell me their name. I asked one person about this, they said these girls are curious about you, they're just waiting for you to take initative (as if opening them with an email wasn't enough initiative already?). Even a few girls on paid sites like match.com are doing this. Should I bother responding to these brief responses, or just consider them attention whores and 'next' them? Or, is there a "game-of-few-words" you can play with a terse girl and still get her number/get her on a date?

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Re: Girls who give terse responses on dating sites

Post by Anatol » September 24th, 2014, 4:41 pm

fightforlove wrote:<> <> <>


Hello,

Da*ing is immoral! What business does one have talking to multiple females, especially alone in a restaurant??? This is completely wrong!

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Re: Girls who give terse responses on dating sites

Post by hammanta » September 24th, 2014, 6:45 pm

fightforlove wrote:This is an issue that I'd like to get some more opinions of, especially from you guys who have tried online dating quite extensively.

I've been getting back into American online game (match, eharmony, okc). I write a 3-6 sentence creative, positive, and inquisitive intro message and sign my name. I often get these very brief, one sentence or one word responses and they don't tell me their name. I asked one person about this, they said these girls are curious about you, they're just waiting for you to take initative (as if opening them with an email wasn't enough initiative already?). Even a few girls on paid sites like match.com are doing this. Should I bother responding to these brief responses, or just consider them attention whores and 'next' them? Or, is there a "game-of-few-words" you can play with a terse girl and still get her number/get her on a date?


Perhaps you should try OurTime.com. I heard the attrition rate is a lot less :wink:

If they respond back IMO they have at least bare minimum interest in you. A profile usually says it all. If they have something creative and significant on their profile that perpetuates a vibe of being genuine and sincere then I'd give them a chance to enhance the convo. If they have something like "Just ask me" or "Just trying it out" or something short and thoughtless I'd next them right away.

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Post by fightforlove » September 24th, 2014, 10:05 pm

I've tried to pry a little more out of a few of these girls, but still no dice. I'm guessing most are attention whores, but I sense some are on the fence and can be persuaded by persistence.

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Post by Ghost » September 25th, 2014, 12:53 am

Get some tattoos, say you have a prison record, and fake a history of violence. You'll get responses for sure. That's the level it has degraded to.

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Post by E Irizarry R&B Singer » September 25th, 2014, 1:29 am

fightforlove wrote:I've tried to pry a little more out of a few of these girls, but still no dice. I'm guessing most are attention whores, but I sense some are on the fence and can be persuaded by persistence.


I just finished closing my POF acocunt for the n-teenth time here in Oklahoma, and the women are not articulate whatsoever. It's so boring speaking to them due to their tersely-succinct responses. I think you have the right idea that they are primarily attention w.hores. I had one chick I've met on POF just to add me to her Facebook and to send out statuses and paraphernalia ad-nausem on her timeline. It's the wackest, most self-egregious shit ever.

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Post by fightforlove » September 25th, 2014, 9:48 pm

Irizarry, talk to those Oklahoma girls about Sooner football and tell them you're a "southern gentleman". Southern belles eat that stuff up, I hear.

I'm trying match.com now. Better quality-looking women than POF/OKC, but still some attention-whoring for sure. Lots of inactive profiles too. Lots of girls who read my messages, but don't even view my profile. I've had a few dates so far, it's a step up from the free sites.

Eharmony, also some better quality, but mostly older/career women, lots of inactive profiles, things tend to stall during the guided communication stages. I've had 3 dates and 6-7 other girls who flaked after the 3-step communication stage. Eharmony's core philosphy of "matching" is modeled off of the American/Egalitarian/Liberalism model: they want to match you with the female version of yourself, on paper. I played around with my match settings, but it seems like you're still barred from a lot of others by age/ethnicity/education level on there.

I got nowhere with POF girls, I think they're just bored with their facebooks, or looking for a wannabe-thug to bang. I had to search and search just to find 1 decent, non-whale woman on OKC here in Chicago.

Maybe it's time to set up a profile on Latin/Mexican/ColombianCupid and see what my prospects are.

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Post by matthewcoury » September 25th, 2014, 10:47 pm

Ghost wrote:Get some tattoos, say you have a prison record, and fake a history of violence. You'll get responses for sure. That's the level it has degraded to.


you'd be surprised man.....i live in oklahoma and having a violent criminal history makes absolutely no difference anymore......women are completely screwed up here....im moving to bosnia its so bad

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Post by Jester » September 25th, 2014, 11:20 pm

matthewcoury wrote:
im moving to bosnia its so bad



Welcome to the forum!

HA member GSJackson was in Bosnia this year, had some "luck" there I believe.

Good luck to you!

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Re: Girls who give terse responses on dating sites

Post by MrMan » September 26th, 2014, 12:48 am

Maybe they are responding from their phones or have a lot of messages to respond to. If they are pretty, they may get lots of responses. You could try the less attractive, fatter girls and see if they give you longer responses to test my hypothesis.

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Post by Ghost » September 26th, 2014, 2:15 am

matthewcoury wrote:
Ghost wrote:Get some tattoos, say you have a prison record, and fake a history of violence. You'll get responses for sure. That's the level it has degraded to.


you'd be surprised man.....i live in oklahoma and having a violent criminal history makes absolutely no difference anymore......women are completely screwed up here....im moving to bosnia its so bad


Interesting. How did you decide on Bosnia?

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Post by matthewcoury » September 26th, 2014, 2:52 am

i actually have an animation studio there.....we got a deal with walmart to put our christian animations in and that should give us plenty of money for me to move over there :) plus i met two girls within three days when i was there last time and one of them became my girlfriend......so i have no reason not to go back and every reason to go back

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Post by fightforlove » September 26th, 2014, 9:04 pm

So, I've tried to push through with three girls this week who were giving luke-warm responses, 2 of them I asked out/offered them my number. Two of them just ignored me and another wrote me back a friendly, albeit arrogant message saying that she doesn't want to date someone who lives in a suburb 45min away, but would meet me for a friendly coffee chat if I ever come into downtown. :D (actually, I do go downtown 3-4 days a week, but city snobs are not my cup of tea, next.)

My theory is that some of these girls have at least some attraction, but also have some reservation.

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Post by Jester » September 26th, 2014, 9:33 pm

fightforlove wrote:...another wrote me back a friendly, albeit arrogant message saying that she doesn't want to date someone who lives in a suburb 45min away, but would meet me for a friendly coffee chat if I ever come into downtown. :D (actually, I do go downtown 3-4 days a week, but city snobs are not my cup of tea, next.)



This doesn't sound bad. She seems to be open for a hookup.

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Post by ari » September 28th, 2014, 10:32 pm

In instead of being called plenty of fish it should be renamed plenty of whales LOL. I agree these women there are looking for thugs or just FB friends. The more of a piece of shit one is the more these women are attracted to you. Good observations about that site here

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