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this is going to sound pretty Buddhist....
Original Poster - you need to stop looking outside yourself to be happy. Your posts show that you are clearly unhappy with yourself. The only way you will be successful with women in any part of the world is to make friends with yourself first. This applies to many other HA posters.
Good luck on your journey.
So, with my kind of shitty luck, Id strike out in Europe to. Its pretty much official: Im not attractive to ANY woman I find attractive.
Btw, Im 5 feet 10. Is that tall enough? I have a feeling it isnt.
I'm new to this forum and site. I may have noticed it a few years back. I'm very similar in situation to Lozoman,
but I'm too old now. My time may be over. Still I wanted to comment.
Not true. I've seen players shorter than me (5'8") who were cheating on their hot blonde gf. I have a shorter relative who's always had a decent gf. I haven't been out much either. I'm actually overshy/introverted and not a people person. But seeing this kind of proof was forced upon me so I realized it goes on at least.
I never could be comfortable with being fake either. But I found myself doing it eventually in a not dating related way just to survive functionally or they would send me off to locked up to those mental institutions. And hear it from me, you don't want to be locked up under a state system. Many of the "assistants" have personalities like communist camp guards and propagandists.
but thanks for the site overall. I guess I'm learning a few things. Another aspect how things are stacked against millions of disenfranchised men in the U.S. who have had no choice being American born 1st or 2nd gen of immigrant families. I literally saw the bullying and even stealing in grade school in the 80's. How the institutions have fallen. This is no where near the Christian ideals they talked about in community and school life in all the propoganda tv and history books. Just competitiveness, selfishness, and family fuedalism or not even that.
Lozoman - re read my post. Spend some time getting to love yourself. Nobody else will if you don't.
Try some self help program like the 'Sedona Method' to try to release all your negative thoughts that are clearly limiting your enjoyment of life. All your posts reek of self doubt and almost as if you want people to reinforce your ideas that you are not good enough.
Your not going to find happiness on this site.
This site doesn't have all the answers...it's just some people opinion on things really. For some guys going abroad is a God send for others just a disappointment. You have to experience that yourself. There is no final answer to anything really. What works for one guy might not work for another guy.
And what if it's a disappointment for me? What do I do then? Live life being lonely and unhappy when it comes to females?
you do what the rest of us do cry and become MGTOW in america.
This is a good summery, this is the reality of life. We do not know about our future. We can only learn out of experience, good or bad, we had in our past.
Everybody in this or similar forums had bad experiences with women and/or with the biased legal situation of his country under some certain circumstances, false accusations, divorce, father's rights - it makes sense to read about such experiences, to learn from them is worth a consideration and not time-waste. Something was gone wrong with my life, how is the experience of other men, who also think something was gone wrong with them? Compare your own situation with those of other men.
My experience, badly treated by women in the past - starting with my own mother, half-sisters, female classmates, female coworkers etc. and missing any positive result about private contacts with Western women, I moved away from Europe to Japan and started a new life with entirely new people almost 40 years ago.
It worked out perfectly - for me, but no guarantee it will work out in the same way for any other man...
I honestly feel as though I am cursed and there is no hope for me when it comes to woman. Regardless of what country I go to. Besides, I'm worried that America has brainwashed and corrupted all the other countries in the world through media and Hollywood. eventually foreign woman will be just as awful as American women, and there will be no hope for men at all.
you would probably be right on of your instinct to think this. HA promotes going to poor 2nd and 3rd world countries to date women this thinking is these poor women in these countries will look at you as a real catch because of your money even though you may not be rich. that is the problem right there, these women are also looking for someone to take care of them just like western women but they are doing it on a smaller level.
There's a lot of truth in your feeling that you and other men have little to offer women nowadays. They don't need men for money, they don't need men to help raise children, they don't need men for protection, they don't need men for conversation and companionship. The only thing left is sex, but women's sex drive is much lower than men's and furthermore they are often unaware of their sex drive, unlike men who know when they are aroused because of their erection. Bottom line is that there is a huge surplus of male sex drive with little outlet for it.
The only men having sex are those who manage to give the girls vagina tingles, and there is little rhyme or reason to what causes those gina tingles, contrary to what the PUA con-men say. For example, why is Justin Bieber able to drive young girls wild, while thousands of Justin Bieber lookalikes are ignored? It isn't like the real Justin Bieber even can sing that well. It's the logic of celebrity: he's famous for being famous. If, for whatever reason, women think a man is attractive, then suddenly that man becomes more desirable to all the other women, and the more women flock to him, the more desirable he becomes, until they go into a feeding frenzy, while ignoring all the other men.
People will tell you to improve yourself. Lots of guys could improve themselves to singing as well as Justin Bieber and also be as good-looking as him now, since nowadays he looks like shit with all his tattoos, but I doubt doing so will make these other guys famous. More likely people will laugh at them for being yet another pitiful loser who thought being a Justin Bieber imitator was the royal road to fame and fortune. Do you see women jumping all over those pitiful Elvis imitators in Vegas? Didn't think so. But they are often just as good looking as Elvis (not like that is a high hurdle to cross) and just as good singers.
Some guys find girls who they can fall in love with, but these relationships usually look a lot better from the outside than the inside. I'm speaking from experience here, because I did have real relationships, including love and good sex, back when I was younger.
The main thing is to read some books about how much other people have suffered and continue to suffer in this world, so that you quit feeling sorry for yourself. The guy who told you to get a grip on yourself is right. Not having a girlfriend is a minor issue. If you feel like you're going to explode from lack of sex, then jerk off or visit an escort. If you're dying inside for lack of love, get a pet dog or pet goldfish or stuffed animal or whatever.