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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby Voyager1 » Sat Jul 30, 2016 6:44 pm

The problem is if you bring an Eastern European woman to LA or the West they become like them because they acclimate to the culture.
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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby jamesbond » Sun Jul 31, 2016 2:52 pm

Voyager1 wrote:The problem is if you bring an Eastern European woman to LA or the West they become like them because they acclimate to the culture.


Exactly.
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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby Hero » Sun Jul 31, 2016 3:17 pm

Winston wrote:Seeker is totally wrong. Cold approach may not usually work in america, but it definitely does in Philippines.


I met my dream girl in the Philippines 10 years ago through a cold approach. I was just hanging out at the mall when I saw this beautiful angel who was the spitting image of J. Lo. She actually made eye contact and smiled at me. So I approached her, got her number, and the very next day she was jumping in my lap, crawling all over me, and sucking the lips right off my face. Unfortunately, I had to return to the USA a few days later and she married some other westerner. That's why I don't take short trips abroad anymore. My next overseas jaunt will be at least 3 months long.
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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby Eric » Sun Jul 31, 2016 3:23 pm

My advice is to ignore the contemporary cultural more(s) of male sexuality is bad....it's aggressive, predatory, the male stare is oppressive, etc. Stop being a f*cking p***y. Yes, you have to decide if you want to follow some misguided cultural thing - which will harm you, or orient yourself to the basic reality; ....of being a man; do you want to be a part of God's awesome natural creation & continue on the species and enjoy yourself as you were designed to - or cave, because some man-made illuminati wants to impose their plans.
Being true; being a man sounds healthier. The feminist stuff can't get you if you don't let it into your heart. I'll say it again. It can't hurt you if you don't let it into your heart, so don't let it in. The deep real & true things override any fake, ignore the propaganda.

So many women are wanting for fun, wanting for a good man, so many men are p***y and scared/beta because they hold their male sexuality in and are afraid; don't be afraid, even the women in feminist countries so many of them are not wanting this bullshit, either, you can see it - you think women are enjoying this bullshit - do you know how many women's forums complain about guys doing nothing, not approaching? They're waiting...
don't blame the girls, I know you associate it with these girls, but its not their fault. Its the social engineers.

Talk to a beautiful woman if you see her - if you think she is game, if she gives you a signal. be ready to deal with rejection, it happens, move on, such is life.

I did tonight; she smiled. Read also the signals to let it go, and follow.
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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby livefreeordie » Mon Aug 01, 2016 4:55 am

Some good words of wisdom Eric, and you are right when you stop taking to heart shallow ridiculous nwo-installed programming, like caring about others judging you for being a strong natural man doing what is healthy and natural like approaching a woman you are attracted to, you stop caring and just do it. Easier said than done though even though I have a thick skin to others opinions, even i found myself shrinking back at times and found it quite nerve racking approaching women in Australia, in Philippines its super easy

Funny that seems like the really hot girls are rarer to find here, and I came across one in davao airport but she was pretty cold. The airports seem to be a good place to find the real lookers!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sDYvJwk5EPM[/youtube]

this guy seems to have the most successful and best cold approach videos ive seen, and he is approaching girls in L.A. Funny how he calls himself a self described douchebag lol but he is actually a really good guy that cares about men and mens issues
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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby Eric » Mon Aug 01, 2016 11:20 pm

One of the main reasons I don't approach women is not the women; it's men around me, who aren't men, but spiteful spineless simpering cowards who are backstabbing and passive aggressive (the younger they are the worse it gets/ I've resigned myself to only associating with my generation or older); they'll take notice and become hateful/envious & hostile - which is a powerful force to contend with; the presence of overt threat overpowers the will to flirt; which is something you do because you can. It can make me so mad. These men aren't real men, they've lost the ability; and therefor revert to only thing they can do - immature attack from a point of being hurt - at a guy who did nothing to them; only out of their own insecurities & dysfunctions. Like I said, I think a lot of these guys have sex with each other, but I can't prove it. This blunting of masculine traits is truly a toxic force, it creates dead, damaged guys which exerts a downward peer- pressure on the rest. It's a shame because it creates competition between men - there will always be competition, but the competition now doesn't need to exist. I've seen outright hostility. It IS harder to hit on girls now...
I try not to give any attention whatsoever to these guys around me.
I can literally feel myself become center-stage as I go into flirt with a girl; I instinctively sense hostility around me from the beta guys (it's always only the beta guys), real men wouldn't mind and would even congratulate me. It's like their ears perk up and they watch every move I make. It's definitely a hate. It's very ugly and pathetic, worst part is that this is like the standard norm now. It's scary and unnerving; and you start to feel like the weird one.
This toxic environment can deter the staunchest of men; which is why I feel you see less & less men approaching women. It's not the women themselves, it's guys incapability...and their own collective hostility at ones who are strong. It's probably one of the ugliest parts of being a guy. It's painful to see human males suffering so much in a state of dysfunction; but you've got to ignore them. You've got no choice, you don't want to be part of something sick; you've got to live life.
I try to just ignore them I try not to even look at them, I know nothing but negativity will be waiting for me. I try not to even go around where beta males sit, if there are women around.

I've made the mistake of trying to be nice to these guys because I've felt sorry for them; but what a mistake. You become weaker yourself. You can't come near a tree on fire unless you want to catch fire. ... You'll become a victim of their rage; these people only feel good when you suck just as much as they do... codependent.
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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby Winston » Thu Aug 04, 2016 2:34 pm

Below: Photos of me, Winston Wu, approaching girls in Thailand out in public, and getting some instant dates from it too. :)

http://blog.happierabroad.com/2016/08/pua-truths-and-tips-about-cold-approaching-girls-abroad.html
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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby jamesbond » Thu Aug 04, 2016 3:24 pm

Winston wrote:Below: Photos of me, Winston Wu, approaching girls in Thailand out in public, and getting some instant dates from it too. :)

http://blog.happierabroad.com/2016/08/pua-truths-and-tips-about-cold-approaching-girls-abroad.html


Hey Winston, I like that girl in the white bikini, where were you when you met her?
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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby Winston » Thu Aug 04, 2016 3:27 pm

jamesbond wrote:
Winston wrote:Below: Photos of me, Winston Wu, approaching girls in Thailand out in public, and getting some instant dates from it too. :)

http://blog.happierabroad.com/2016/08/pua-truths-and-tips-about-cold-approaching-girls-abroad.html


Hey Winston, I like that girl in the white bikini, where were you when you met her?


She was a Chinese girl. She and her friend were walking on the beaches of Pattaya at night, when me and Rock spotted them. Then I approached them and talked, while Rock took photos of us, so that you guys can see that Winston does have the guts to cold approach. lol
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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby nomadphilippines » Sat Aug 13, 2016 7:02 am

Eric wrote:One of the main reasons I don't approach women is not the women; it's men around me, who aren't men, but spiteful spineless simpering cowards who are backstabbing and passive aggressive (the younger they are the worse it gets/ I've resigned myself to only associating with my generation or older); they'll take notice and become hateful/envious & hostile - which is a powerful force to contend with; the presence of overt threat overpowers the will to flirt; which is something you do because you can. It can make me so mad. These men aren't real men, they've lost the ability; and therefor revert to only thing they can do - immature attack from a point of being hurt - at a guy who did nothing to them; only out of their own insecurities & dysfunctions. Like I said, I think a lot of these guys have sex with each other, but I can't prove it. This blunting of masculine traits is truly a toxic force, it creates dead, damaged guys which exerts a downward peer- pressure on the rest. It's a shame because it creates competition between men - there will always be competition, but the competition now doesn't need to exist. I've seen outright hostility. It IS harder to hit on girls now...
I try not to give any attention whatsoever to these guys around me.
I can literally feel myself become center-stage as I go into flirt with a girl; I instinctively sense hostility around me from the beta guys (it's always only the beta guys), real men wouldn't mind and would even congratulate me. It's like their ears perk up and they watch every move I make. It's definitely a hate. It's very ugly and pathetic, worst part is that this is like the standard norm now. It's scary and unnerving; and you start to feel like the weird one.
This toxic environment can deter the staunchest of men; which is why I feel you see less & less men approaching women. It's not the women themselves, it's guys incapability...and their own collective hostility at ones who are strong. It's probably one of the ugliest parts of being a guy. It's painful to see human males suffering so much in a state of dysfunction; but you've got to ignore them. You've got no choice, you don't want to be part of something sick; you've got to live life.
I try to just ignore them I try not to even look at them, I know nothing but negativity will be waiting for me. I try not to even go around where beta males sit, if there are women around.

I've made the mistake of trying to be nice to these guys because I've felt sorry for them; but what a mistake. You become weaker yourself. You can't come near a tree on fire unless you want to catch fire. ... You'll become a victim of their rage; these people only feel good when you suck just as much as they do... codependent.



man you are TOTALLY overthinking this

who gives a f**k what some random dude nearby who doesnt have the balls to approach women himself thinks about you?

the next night he might be making a negative post on some other board about the 'loser' guy he saw approaching some girl on the street......... and then he will jerk off and watch porn alone

meanwhile in a room nearby you are balls deep in your new friend
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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby Pinaylover » Wed Aug 24, 2016 4:51 am

When I was young in my early 20's (before internet dating took off) I used to cold approach like crazy. I would go out with a group of friends to bars and I would hit on girls left and right. some 30 or 40 girls in a night. My thought is if I get enough No's I will eventually get a Yes. It was indeed a numbers game. And I was usually able to pull girls that way quite often. As I got older its seemed to get harder girls became less approachable or maybe the constant rejections took their toll.

I do suffer from approach anxiety.. but only until I figure out my angle to strike up a conversation. It easy for me because I am a naturally outgoing guy.

So I turned to the internet to meet girls. And have been focused on the internet dating since 2005. I am still out going and can cold approach but i am off my game now. the internet is so much easier. Being here in Manila with Rock he has pushed me to cold approach when I have the opportunity. I have not had any real success with a cold approach other than get some numbers or FB. No dates. The foreign girls I have cold approached have definitely been harder. They may look up their FB and you add them as friends then predictably they never accept you. That is probably worse than a girl giving you a fake phone number.

I have had better luck off of Tinder and Badoo. Pina Love has a real low quality girls but I still use it. Finding the nice upper middle class girls here has been a challenge. Hanging around call centers and medical centers bring good opportunities. Also in the upscale malls like the Greenbelt or Power Plant mall in Rockwell.

You need a wing man in the clubs, loners are seen as oddities or lame. But that's true anywhere you go.

I will keep pushing out of my comfort zone.

One thing to note that no one ever seems to mention... the advantages of cold approaching vs the internet.

1. You can see their body in person.
2. You can sense their demeanor
3. Its a great a "How we met" story
Women are romantics - a chance meeting with a stranger that turns into a lover is far more romantic than meeting on the internet. In fact meeting a man on the internet is incredibly common and boring. They want to brag to their friends about how they lucked into this great guy.

Don't be shy... you may miss out on the girl of your dreams!
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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby Zambales » Wed Aug 24, 2016 7:24 am

Hero wrote:
Winston wrote:Seeker is totally wrong. Cold approach may not usually work in america, but it definitely does in Philippines.


I met my dream girl in the Philippines 10 years ago through a cold approach. I was just hanging out at the mall when I saw this beautiful angel who was the spitting image of J. Lo. She actually made eye contact and smiled at me. So I approached her, got her number, and the very next day she was jumping in my lap, crawling all over me, and sucking the lips right off my face. Unfortunately, I had to return to the USA a few days later and she married some other westerner. That's why I don't take short trips abroad anymore. My next overseas jaunt will be at least 3 months long.


I reckon you were fortunate not unfortunate. That kind of lewd behaviour from a Pinay would signal a red flag in my book if it's a wife you're looking for.
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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby nomadphilippines » Fri Aug 26, 2016 4:38 am

Zambales wrote:
Hero wrote:
Winston wrote:Seeker is totally wrong. Cold approach may not usually work in america, but it definitely does in Philippines.


I met my dream girl in the Philippines 10 years ago through a cold approach. I was just hanging out at the mall when I saw this beautiful angel who was the spitting image of J. Lo. She actually made eye contact and smiled at me. So I approached her, got her number, and the very next day she was jumping in my lap, crawling all over me, and sucking the lips right off my face. Unfortunately, I had to return to the USA a few days later and she married some other westerner. That's why I don't take short trips abroad anymore. My next overseas jaunt will be at least 3 months long.


I reckon you were fortunate not unfortunate. That kind of lewd behaviour from a Pinay would signal a red flag in my book if it's a wife you're looking for.


ya me too, doesnt she know its not our lips we want sucked off?
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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby jamesbond » Fri Aug 26, 2016 12:32 pm

nomadphilippines wrote:ya me too, doesnt she know its not our lips we want sucked off?


:D :lol: :P :shock:
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Re: How many of you actually Cold Approach girls?

Postby Winston » Sat Nov 05, 2016 12:34 pm

Is this typical PUA fluff and BS?

Why introverts have an advantage in picking up girls.



How to open with girls.



How to pick up super hot girls.

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