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Study Shows Men Suffer More After A Breakup Than Women Do

Postby jamesbond » August 12th, 2015, 9:58 pm

Women are emotionally hit hardest after a break-up – but men suffer more in the long term and may never truly get over it.

That’s according to researchers who found that men suffer as the impact of the loss “sinks in” and they have to start "competing" all over again for a significant other.

Craig Morris, research associate at Binghamton University, says the differences boil down to biology. Women have more to lose by dating the wrong person, and so are better at accepting a relationship is over and selecting a new partner.

However, that same need to choose a good “mate” also makes women very "selective" about who they date, so they are good at enlisting the support of their friends to pull through and choose someone else.

But men are more “competitive” in their approach, meaning the loss of a woman they see as a good catch could be deeply felt for months or even years.

"The man will likely feel the loss deeply and for a very long period of time as it sinks in that he must start competing all over again to replace what he has lost - or worse still, come to the realization that the loss is irreplaceable," says Morris.

And because women have more to loose by choosing the wrong partner, they are also more likely to pull the plug on a relationship – with 70% of divorces in the US filed by women.



http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/men-may-never-truly-get-over-a-relationship-breakup-says-study-10450413.html
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Re: Study Shows Men Suffer More After A Breakup Than Women D

Postby nomadphilippines » August 13th, 2015, 8:07 am

lol what men did they ask?
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Postby Zambales » August 13th, 2015, 8:19 am

The ones that become too dependent on a woman I'd imagine.
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Re: Study Shows Men Suffer More After A Breakup Than Women D

Postby cbcsurvivalist » October 16th, 2015, 2:03 am

The reason why Men suffer more after the breakup is because it takes a lot longer for them to find a replacement compared to the chick. She probably already has 4-5 backup guys ready to replace the EX. If the guy could easily replace the EX, I bet he wouldn't be suffering at all lol.
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Re: Study Shows Men Suffer More After A Breakup Than Women D

Postby Yohan » October 16th, 2015, 4:41 am

cbcsurvivalist wrote:The reason why Men suffer more after the breakup is because it takes a lot longer for them to find a replacement compared to the chick. She probably already has 4-5 backup guys ready to replace the EX. If the guy could easily replace the EX, I bet he wouldn't be suffering at all lol.

It's also about the wallet, women get money, men usually have to pay, especially in case of children. Men also often have to move out from their home.
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Postby davewe » October 16th, 2015, 2:10 pm

Yohan wrote:
cbcsurvivalist wrote:The reason why Men suffer more after the breakup is because it takes a lot longer for them to find a replacement compared to the chick. She probably already has 4-5 backup guys ready to replace the EX. If the guy could easily replace the EX, I bet he wouldn't be suffering at all lol.

It's also about the wallet, women get money, men usually have to pay, especially in case of children. Men also often have to move out from their home.


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Re: Study Shows Men Suffer More After A Breakup Than Women D

Postby HouseMD » October 17th, 2015, 9:36 pm

Fits with my personal observations. Even in cases where there is nothing involved financially, men tend to be broken up far longer than women when the couple had actually previously had a loving relationship.
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Postby Adama » October 17th, 2015, 10:55 pm

I can not say for sure, but can it be the case that a great number of women are simply whures at heart? Meaning they never truly give themselves to one man. Some women are constantly on the search for something bigger and better. They have boyfriends or even husbands, but those men they are with are more or less replaceable placeholders. They are temporary guardians. These men aren't aware of that, because their women never told them. The whole time though, their women were waiting, anticipating, and lining up their replacements. Gradually the woman simply concentrates more on her new man and less on her current man, until finally there's the break up. At that point she's available. Maybe she's discussed this beforehand with the man she really wants, or maybe he just realizes this is his chance and he swoops in on his own, but just as she had hoped (and predicted and expected).


I do think that women like to set up circumstances to bait men. With men simply being men, they take the bait. Most men will never even see how they have been baited (and later on, used and discarded like yesterday's newspaper). Everyone assumes women are some angelic beings who don't do any wrong until they are provoked by men. They operate by stealth though, in such ways that people could never point the finger directly at the woman and say she is at fault. That is because she simply baits the traps for men. She knew the man would do it, because she put the bait there to cause him to do it. Then he did it. So no one can say women have caused all this, because from the outside looking in, it was the man who committed the actual action, when the whole time he was being unwittingly manipulated by the woman.

Many of these women will play the long con. If you have money, they will wait it out until their talons have sunken so deep that it would be too painful for you to extricate yourself to safety. But still they will give off signs, namely their lack of submissiveness, and sometimes they'll openly transmit their intentions to you. When all she talks about is money, or how men are used by 'other women' (in the same way she intends to use you), or she brags about her lack of conscience over something bad she's done to men in the past (like cracking their car windows, etc), or she calls you any time you are more than five minutes late while driving home from work (because she's a control freak), then you know. She may not intend to give off clues, but usually their own mouths will betray them, but only if you are listening to what she has to say, which you better be.
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Re: Study Shows Men Suffer More After A Breakup Than Women D

Postby sentinel89 » October 30th, 2015, 4:32 am

Men also suffer longer because men build the relationships in the first place. In the west, men are expected to make all the moves and do all the heavy lifting. Men put far more effort and make far greater investments into relationships, so obviously men will go to great lengths to try to ensure that the relationship succeeds. When something of your own creation fails, it's obviously a huge let down.
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Re: Study Shows Men Suffer More After A Breakup Than Women D

Postby Teal Lantern » October 30th, 2015, 10:43 am

jamesbond wrote:Women are emotionally hit hardest after a break-up – but men suffer more in the long term and may never truly get over it.


Right up there with ...
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