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I'm curious if anyone here or someone you know has dumped a girl because they aged badly and you were no longer physically attracted to them. This issue is always on my mind, since the girls I am attracted to are almost always under 30, but usually 15-25, with 18 being the minimum hookup age limit for obvious reasons. I'm convinced the older I get I will still be attracted to girls that age. When I look now at current online pictures of previous pinays I met in the past few years, they have typically not aged well as is the norm there. Even a year or two does harm to their faces, with the figure following a bit later. Sometimes it is hard to tell in pictures since they love those camera filters, but meeting them again in person, by chance or arranged almost always makes me think to my self I was lucky to get them in their prime. It is quite depressing to see once cute girls be damaged by bad genes, time, the sun, bad food and poverty. Meeting or seeing pictures of their mothers is also usually a major red flag for me. Some girls age better than others, with Koreans, Japanese and Chinese being the best, while their darker skinned south asian cousins have it the worst I think. But every rule has exceptions of course.
This is an advantage of casual dating/hookups. You can stick to the young ones and move from girl to girl for short flings without worrying about aging.Their is always a supply of young fresh faced girls to keep older guys happy. The older the guy gets can make it tougher to get the younger gals of course, but a little money and improvement in your own appearance fixes this usually.
Anyways, I'm interested to know if anyone has decided to split with a girl of any age or race because father time was cruel to her, and this once hot girl was no more. I guess getting fat could be included in this, as it usually happens to Filipinas, and western white girls too.
I'll assume the girl not looking good anymore was not what you told them the reason was, and you made some other excuse, so please tell if it was the real reason or one of them.
I have not. But if I'm unsuccessful in getting a wife to my standards then I will do this with girlfriends/long-term-escorts. However I'll tell them up front that they have an expiration date and after X time they cannot rely on their youth for good looks. If they're unwilling to get with the program I will tell them to leave. If they refuse to leave after one warning I will physically kick their ass out of the house regardless of how much time I've spent with them. I will do this in countries where it's hard to press assault charges. This will be a last resort.
I think that a gradual loss of attraction is a very common theme. Say the average man worldwide will be married around 25, to a woman perhaps two years younger then him. She has about ten good years, by then she's in her thirties and her looks will often begin to fade... breasts begin to sag, she may get heavier, or simply not put efford in her appearance the way she used to. Even if she still looks good, there are things like childrearing, careers, family responsibilities or general boredom with one another that should be taken into account. So a man's eye begins to wander, he may have an affair here or there. If the woman has some financial means, perhaps she'll go and look for a nice tennis coach or gardiner.
To dump a woman over a loss of physical attraction when she is otherwise a perfect mate, would be ridiculous. Stay together long enough and your bond will extend the physical; there will be a great friendship, one where you know each other's personalities inside and out. And then there is fact she cooks, she cleans, she keeps your house nice and tidy and shows interest in what you do. Even if she's no longer that hot young thing you once lusted after, there are other qualities she will have to offer. If she had none of those qualities before to begin with, when you married her as a hot young thing, then you simply did not marry the right woman.
Will-N-Dodd is not into marriage or partner finding..his monger at heart. So he just wants to play the field...and just hook up with young uns..however, as a guy gets older it get harder to hook up with young uns unless she is pro...the great equalize is wealth for older man to attract young girls.
Like Tom Leykis says, "men age like wine, women age like milk."
"When I think about the idea of getting involved with an American woman, I don't know if I should laugh .............. or vomit!"
"Trying to meet women in America is like trying to decipher Egyptian hieroglyphics."
People like to mock, but I have said it before. Expatriation has more to do with the urge to monger than finding a wife. Check out the men who are living overseas. Most of them openly admit they are there to have sex with dozens, to hundreds to literally thousands of women over their lifetimes. Many of them are not looking for wives.
Anyhow, I don't think a woman who is with a good man will age as badly as a woman left on her own, especially as she will want to keep up with her husband. Now if you are used to the party girls who also have the goal to sleep with as many people as possible, maybe that explains why they age prematurely.
I do suspect there may be an age where men are also too old for most women. That age is just much earlier for women.
What you are talking is pure nonsense.
I wonder if you have ever been outside of USA and checked out the situation in other countries.
Most expats who stay over decades away from Europe and Northern America are married with a local wife in their country of choice. Many of them have children too.
There are expats like you but there is also sexpats too. I'm not knocking or judging different strokes for different folks. Will-n=Dodd...is monger again there are some expats that are just into that. The problem is as the guy gets older it does get harder to play the field.
Of course there are sexpats too, but I doubt seriously what Adama writes, he considers MOST (Western) men, who are living overseas as sexpats, and this is really not true.
Well, Adama, even if this is true what you write, I wonder what is wrong with it, if these women are consenting adults and agree to have sex with those sexpats. What is wrong with prostitution anyway? Prostitution is legal in many countries.
It also depends on the countries, I can say that the big majority of Western men, who are entering Japan and stay a few years due to their studies or job or otherwise business are looking for a long-term relationship with a local woman. Some of these expats stay over decades.
Japan is unique where there is a large sex industry but it's not as open as you find in some places like Thailand. Plus Japan is way too expensive. So the expats who land in Japan maybe a different breed compared to the expats who go to Thailand.
I hate to say it the stereotypes for many western male expats who go to Thailand or the Philippines are usually the sexpats types not saying all but many. Regarding the morality of prostitution is well there pros and cons about it and I'm not going into it.
It's like how Asian men are stereotyped as being kung fu master or IT whiz or have small dicks...it's stereotype. Just like western guys being mongers in Asia ..again there is some ounce of truth behind that. Is it wrong? Depends..
Mongering is a reason for men to go overseas, surely, but the vast majority of those men do not stay. They do not actively set up shop and live abroad permanently, rather they go once or twice a year to get their rocks off in the cheapest and most degrading of ways, then return home to their Western homes, Western jobs and Western families. The men who relocate permanently are usually of a different breed. The life of a full-time monger is an empty one indeed. Not for the faint-hearted. Most men who move to Asia or Latin America will eventually settle down, leaving their mongering days behind them. Few things are as sad as an aging playboy who think he can still keep up with men twice or thrice as young as him... or that women young enough to be his daughters or granddaughters actually want him and not his wallet.
Lot's of women monger too. Americans in Jamaica and Brits in the Dominican Republic
Many of the men who are not abroad to monger are married and older, or they directly expatted for a particular woman. The ones who are on the ground searching for the one are very likely to fall into mongering or just hopping from woman to woman, even over the long term. If the women are relatively free, then the man will go on with it for as long as he can.
I will not name names, but check out the men on this forum who are living abroad. You will see that many of them actively post on mongering with sex workers or having sex with tons of regular girls. It isnt about finding a partner for a long term commitment. It is about getting as much capital p as possible in one lifetime.
This was only to say that going overseas is not always about finding marriage but about sex with MANY women. And if you don't believe me, go to internationalsexguide.info forums to see how many men are there.