Jester, I'm surprised at you, because you've been on this Forum a long time and should have heard tragic stories like this.Jester wrote:Winston wrote:Jester,
What about my questions? I dont understand the problem here. You say shes good in business and has helped you a lot. So how is she deceitful?
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Deceitful in that at first it was okay for me to have a bar, and pork all the cocktail waitresses, at least in theory. MY bar. (Not impossible, I know a guy in LA that does that.) A way to stay close to multiple gf's in the modern world. Not an obsession in itself, just one avenue I had thought of.
Then later it evolved (in broken English) to where it needed to be HER bar or coffee shop. OKAY, well I want my little girl to be happy... so I allowed the vision to become a mini-place that she would run by herself, and to happen sooner, be smaller and cost less.
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Deceitful also in that ORIGINALLY, before ANY sexual contact, I covered with her that I wanted a harem, I wanted more children, I would have other girls here, and that Miss S would be visiting from California, and that she needed to be respectful to Miss S.
Then later it evolved to where Miss S could not come visit me for a week in the f***ing flat that I PAID FOR, since Miss Chiang Mai came downstairs to wait on me regularly, she now had some kind of vested interest in the place.
So thats how she was deceitful. I am not saying she was NEFARIOUS, just saying that (as eurobrat mentioned to me elsewhere) she is just a chick trying to survive. But certainly in Guy-World, where we are actually held to our agreements, her compliance with the original agreement has slipped a bit.
Note that I was willing to accommodate these two very material changes, in the interest of getting things done in the real world, not living in a hypothetical polygamist's dream-world Camelot.
That I intend to have other women, and it now upsets her... even though it didn't before.Winston wrote:
And whats her excuse for not having sex anymore?
(And being "tired", of course, which is bullshit.)
In other words not only can I not employ other gf's in MY SHOP, or host them in MY RESIDENCE, but now I cannot have other gf's at all, or else... it is the Dry Season as far as Miss Chiang Mai is concerned.
She won't be the first high-quality gf I have parted with over this matter.
I'm confused what did you come to Thailand for?
1. have a love relationship,
2. shag a lotta women
3. start a business?
Why would you try to mix the three?
Why do you want to shag girls that work for you? Why shit where you eat? I can think of nothing more stupid than all the women you shag knowing each other. With all the women in Thailand why not shag some that don't know each other. Shagging women that know each other will cause jealousy, even if it's only competition among themselves to get at your ATM. One night they'll cut your dick off while you sleep.
Also many foreigners end up dead too or maybe you'll just lose everything. I think it's a no win situation co owning this coffee shop with a women that won't shag you, and doesn't want to let you shag others. You mentioned it went from $1000 to $3000. One thing for sure is that everything will cost more and she'll find many ways to spend your money. I think it can only end badly.
If you haven't read them, you need to read Larry Etleman's Philippine Guide (or whatever it's called) the chapter on extortion/business. Read "Money Number One" which is about Thailand. Buy a copy of "Private Dancer" and read it immediately. There are other books that talk about how you can get scammed or that SEA girls think of you as an ATM first. Just re-read Rock's first post 10 times!
Winston needs to add a thread called Dating Romance Cluster Fkks. The Forum should say: Warning: Start here before you go any further into dating foreign women. I'd be glad to add my stories to the threads.
I'm not trying to be hard on you, but I had a friend that lost about 4 years of his life to girl and about $200,000 of his saving too. He's now "happily" married to Thai. We'll see how that goes. You are far from alone in making these mistakes. What separates you from all the other guys that made big international dating mistakes, is that you are honest and telling yours. They just wimped away to be never heard from again. Because of this, you can correct your problem.