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Online Dating in the U.S. sucks

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Re: Online Dating in the U.S. sucks

Post by droid » April 26th, 2016, 12:17 pm

Ghost wrote:If you guys want to learn about online dating in the West, I have a book recommendation:
http://www.amazon.com/Moby-Dick-Herman- ... =moby+dick
:lol: :lol: :lol: That didn't click until I was through half of the review...
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Re: Online Dating in the U.S. sucks

Post by droid » April 26th, 2016, 12:23 pm

Adama wrote:A few of them will be out between June and July. I am planning on going to the beach every weekend this summer, if life goes well, just to look for one of my own. Got to get out there. Ask and it shall be given you. Seek and ye shall find. Knock, and the door shall be opened.
Please DO report back on that sea parting, moses :P
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Re: Online Dating in the U.S. sucks

Post by jamesbond » April 26th, 2016, 3:56 pm

You will never find a girl like this online, unless you add at least 100 lbs. to her. :lol:

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Re: Online Dating in the U.S. sucks

Post by Adama » April 26th, 2016, 8:45 pm

droid wrote:
Adama wrote:A few of them will be out between June and July. I am planning on going to the beach every weekend this summer, if life goes well, just to look for one of my own. Got to get out there. Ask and it shall be given you. Seek and ye shall find. Knock, and the door shall be opened.
Please DO report back on that sea parting, moses :P
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Re: Online Dating in the U.S. sucks

Post by E Irizarry R&B Singer » April 27th, 2016, 4:16 am

Adama wrote:
droid wrote:
Adama wrote:A few of them will be out between June and July. I am planning on going to the beach every weekend this summer, if life goes well, just to look for one of my own. Got to get out there. Ask and it shall be given you. Seek and ye shall find. Knock, and the door shall be opened.
Please DO report back on that sea parting, moses :P
God has sent me many women. Each time I was too much of a coward to respond. Now that I actually have some self-esteem, I am just waiting for Him to send another.
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Re: Online Dating in the U.S. sucks

Post by cdnFA » April 27th, 2016, 4:26 am

jamesbond wrote:You will never find a girl like this online, unless you add at least 100 lbs. to her. :lol:
I've met 2 girls via POF, both slimmer than the girl in the pic but older, however I am in my mid 40s. As for attractiveness it would be like comparing apples and oranges or whites and orientals as the case may be.

However to be fair, I live an hour from the nearest big city, am not cool and am on the fugly side.
One I met once and never heard from her again, although I suspect it was something I said during our meeting which lasted 1.5 hours.
The other I've met 5 times, things are going slow but still in play. 5'8 and 125 and there is no way she is 125, her legs swim in those jeans and I can pretty much fit my thumb and forefinger around her upper arm. A lot of stress, I need to feed her as much as I like the underweight thing. She also keeps offering to pay for everything, STEM educated, a real keeper I think.

The first, 38 actually looked better than her pics, the other used a picture from 10 years ago but she is still cute [again I'm old]

I suspect if I lived in a major city, was 10 years younger, had a sexy job and fit on one area code, I could probably find something on that level or at least close based on how I have done so far. Considering I have not been able to get a date in real life even after over a decade in a resource rich university environment before the cray cray became a problem I might ad. I messaged girls at that level and have had them view my profile before not replying.

I know someone in that situation, STEM Ivy League Phd, good looking guy [no homo] and he found someone on Match who is attractive and they mesh together really well. He is now a house husband because they don't want to move [2 kids] and there are not many employers in his field in their town and she is totally cool with that.

I do not understand how I've done so well. I am punching way beyond my weight. With what I offer on tap I should not expect anything but land whales but I don't mind plump but I can only go so far. By all rights my profile should not be viewed by any but other land whales, but when I message out I get a 70% view rate. Maybe it gets better when you hit your 40's.

I will say, the few times I've gotten a message, or a view from someone I have not viewed before, yikes. They are usually some combination of fatter than I am, manly looking [one girl had an attractive smile, like Ernest Borgnine <shudder>] or they look really old and haggard, I look about 10 years younger, they look 10 years older.
There was one exception, she was cute but she contacted me before I put any information up which is weird, she had limited and weird conversational skills and wigged out when I told her I didn't want to meet her because I still didn't know anything about her, but what sort of slag will message a profile with no pic and no profile information.
Usually if someone messages me, it doesn't happen often, they are also one of the three things above, their profiles have nothing in common with mine with horrible grammar and spelling errors and they pull the 1 or 2 word message. Like I with a Masters and nerdy interests who at least puts in the effort to use capital letters and punctuation will have anything interest in a girl with just high school, whose interests overlap with Cletus the slack jawed yokel and who has no ability to construct a paragraph that even remotely resembles proper English. I am no Grammar National Socialist but I mean come on.

Also, are you really going to bitch that you can't find someone who is Hollyweird/supermodel/porn hot. Are you a high paid professional with a solid build and rocking abs and loads of charm?

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Re: Online Dating in the U.S. sucks

Post by DatingAlpha » May 10th, 2016, 4:57 am

I also had a hard time before when I knew nothing of dealing with women. Here's some unsolicited advise..

When you decide to contact a woman, make sure you have been keeping track of the new members. Most services indicate who is new. The reason for this is because attractive women are bombarded with requests, and she probably mentally “zones out” after a couple of days! So contact her ASAP.

And when she responds, get her phone number ASAP and arrange a casual meeting in the next couple of days, so you can meet before she zones out from being bombarded.

Good luck!

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Re: Online Dating in the U.S. sucks

Post by jamesbond » May 30th, 2017, 9:39 am

This is why online dating sucks for men.

[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ySiVJLzOWi8[/youtube]
"When I think about the idea of getting involved with an American woman, I don't know if I should laugh .............. or vomit!"

"Trying to meet women in America is like trying to decipher Egyptian hieroglyphics."

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