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Yes I know it is impossible for anyone to really know how many profiles are just scams, but I'm looking for educated estimates. It seems the amount of scams increases every year, with this year being worse than ever. Sites like Filipinocupid, etc, are simply overflowing with nonsense lately. Anyone can make a profile and upload pictures of a Filipina and claim they are looking for love, only to ask for money from foreigners. Their is no way to know who is behind the profile unless you actually meet them. It could be a guy in Nigeria having a good laugh. So many profiles will obviously be fake and just use google images to get money, and you can never meet them. But then their are profiles of real girls looking for "love" and you can chat them and meet them but then they too could just be after money and will ask you for it in person as opposed to online. They might sleep with you , but ask for money after, or steal it from your wallet when you are sleeping. It might go on for months, with them leading you on, only to want your money and maybe sperm and then they split when they have that. But then you could have the long drawn out scam, where they seem sincere with no issues, and then they slowly reveal who they really are, when you marry them, bring them back to your country, and they vanish forever because they got what they wanted out of you.
I think the percentage of girls that have no intention of scamming, and really want a serious relationship with a foreigner is minimal, and even then, why do they really want a foreigner? If they could get a local pinoy husband that is wealthy, I think they would rather be with him and stay in the Philippines, with all their friends and family, and have his money and speak in their local language.
I'm guessing the profiles that are total scams and just want money with no intention of meeting anyone ever is about 50%.
The scams where they are ready to meet guys but only to scam and steal from them with free meals, dates and gifts, only to vanish when those stop is about 25%
The long drawn out scam where they pretend to be sincere for as long a possible until they get the foreign visa is 15%
The girls that really want a relationship with a foreigner, but only because they can go abroad and he can give them a mixed baby and money is about 10%
If you are a foreigner that has snagged some young filipina as a wife or gf, I don't know how you can really consider yourself special for getting her. Filipinas will fall in "love" with almost any foreigner within a week! It's simply ridiculous. I've met many girls and they almost always end up with some 50 or 60 something random white guy from anywhere. They post their pictures on facebook and I chat with them about it and most admit they fell for the 2nd or 3rd guy they met, with me being the first foreign guy they met and slept with. They will even tell me about their various relationship problems after being with him for a while. It's usually complaining about how the guy is always tired from working and they argue and fight a lot, but they always post smiling pictures on facebook with their cute mixed baby. They are both fooling themselves that they are really happy. The girls are waiting for the guy to die asap so they can inherit his bank account, and share it with her village, only to do the whole thing over again as single mum widow the next time. They guy is hoping to get as much banging in as possible in without using viagra, while the girl is still hot, and is also hoping to die while banging, the ultimate way to go lol.
Yes, I know, "your" girl is different, not like the other girls. But almost every guy thinks this, just like everyone thinks they are unique, just like everyone else is.
" It's usually complaining about how the guy is always tired from working "
I'd figure most 50 to 60 something expats married and living in the Philippines would not be working but collecting a pension or living off investments.
Hard to get any decent work in the PI, can't do that teaching English fall back one can in Thailand which still pays shit.
Hard to generalize about something as big as the entire internet, the question would be easier to quantify about individual sites.
This has been discussed to death here and elsewhere and in any event the answer is obvious, especially if you have spent very much time there.
And why do they care if they are using viagra?
Everybody has a plan til they get punched in the mouth
I had this experience with Filipinocupid, tons of scammers and time wasters...that is almost all the really attractive ones which fit your description. The average 5-6 rated ladies seemed a lot more sincere. Cherryblossoms appears better. Honestly the ladies on Thaicupid were way more sincere, and I think educated Thai ladies are a better bet if you will live in Thailand.
Yep I did meet many filipinas online who were sincere and ready for marriage after 2 weeks lol. These girls are dumber than dirt and make many bad and irrational decisions.
Of the sincere ones too many are on some fantasy trip, so look out when their reality sets in and they are no longer happy I do know many filipina-anglo couples here in the states that are happy, but the wife is ruling the house, his balls firmly in her grasp, and she has worked herself into his assets.
In the end and as long he is banging away a lot with smiles then everybody wins.
I took out a month's membership on Int. Cupid end of last year. After it finished I deleted my photo's and what I wrote then de-activated my profile. Fast forward six months on and I begin to get daily emails from women through the site. My profile must have been re-activated but I'm still recieving plenty of interest despite not having any photo's or anything on my profile. What does this say?
I reckon at least 75% of women are scammers on the Filipina dating sites, perhaps even more.
I guess that depends on you definition of a scammer. A lot of girls online are doing some kind of scam or other, but from my experience its the same percentage as girls you'd meet in questionable places like bars, clubs, etc. If you want a good girl, meet her in church, lol.
As far as online exclusive scamming.... probably less than 20%, mostly because they simply lack the sophistication to extract cash from you without raising red flags. Its the really poor African countries that are filling up dating sites with scammers.
Source: I moderate a dating site (http://findmate.asia) and swat down African scammers all day long. Girls scamming is very very unusual, and its usually just asking for a few bucks to feed their family, not necessarily trying to con you out of it.
Probably a relatively low number overall, but when it comes to online dating...quite a few. And if you included pinays who ask for money at some point? Probably 75%...
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I've met with expats with Filipinas. Usually, the woman is much younger than themselves. They all say the dating sites suck and that you have to get a girl that is not inundated with other men. Big cities and tourist destinations can be just as bad as dating sites they say. Also, few to none of the these women will be highly educated.
The bigger question might be, are you looking for bride or a committed girlfriend? Zillions of Filipinas want a foreigner for the financial support they can't get from a Filipino. He must have money for marriage, paying for babies, supporting their extended family, visas, etc.
What I'd like to know is what the expats are doing to find "girlfriends" to live-in with them.
As for percentage of "scammers" that's pretty easy. Everything is about supply and demand. Where there is scarcity, such as attractive young Filipinas that want only you, the supply will be low to none. If you can be bigger chump or fool (or con them) than all the other men, you may win the prize. One dating site used to post the number of different page views each member got, which was interesting. The attractive Filipinas under 25 had easily over 1,000 hits in less than a year. In other words, it would be next to impossible.
I would be curious how those who have posted here get an attractive girl who has low mileage, for being your live-in lover. I'm sure they are doing something as just cold approaching does not work for me there.
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