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This is a funny video showing what happens when men continually get rejected by women.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gntsAUL5zL4[/youtube]

Certainly it makes no sense to ask out random women on park benches and then to complain of rejection. The woman must choose the man first. After she has sent her signal, then the man can make the approach.

There are certain times when you can ignore this rule. It seems like in the Philippines this rule doesn't apply. However, it seems to me that the majority of the rest of the world goes by this rule.

Adama,

The problem with that is what if the women never sends out signals? Good looking guys probably get flirted allot by random women but what about average looking guys or even homely looking guys. What can they do? The only choice is the cold approach which has a very high rejection rate but after many approach some guys do score but it does leave the guy bitter .

chanta76 wrote:Adama,

The problem with that is what if the women never sends out signals? Good looking guys probably get flirted allot by random women but what about average looking guys or even homely looking guys. What can they do? The only choice is the cold approach which has a very high rejection rate but after many approach some guys do score but it does leave the guy bitter .

Most women in the US never give out "indicators of interest" even if they are interested in a guy. This is why the PUA stuff is so popular in America, it teaches guys how to 'cold approach' women.

Of course cold approaching will mostly result in getting one rejection after another. The best thing to do is visit places like the Philippines and Thailand where women actually DO give out indicators of interest to men.

chanta76 wrote:Adama,

The problem with that is what if the women never sends out signals? Good looking guys probably get flirted allot by random women but what about average looking guys or even homely looking guys. What can they do? The only choice is the cold approach which has a very high rejection rate but after many approach some guys do score but it does leave the guy bitter .

They just need to open their eyes and be patient. I have seen some really not-so-good looking men with some women who were stunningly beautiful. How did those men do it then?

If you cold approach 100 women and they all say no, even if you have nerves of steel and the rejection doesn't hurt your feelings, it will still skew your perception of yourself in other ways. And it will make you hate women that much more.

Unless you are Winston or in the Philippines the best thing is simply to make yourself seen, sit back, relax and wait for a woman to send you a signal. To go searching for your own glory is not glory.

jamesbond,

I notice that usually the good looking guys do get notice by girls. So looks do count. The problem is that the average guys struggle. PUA works to certain extent. You have to have balls of steel and take allot of rejection but I know guys that did this and did get girls.

Let's say the so called good looking men are attractive to 10% of the women. Whereas the men who are supposedly not so good looking only attract 1% of the women.

In either case, does it make sense to go cold approaching the other 90 or 99 women? Or would it be better to simply wait for the woman to do her job, which is to signal you, then you can do your job. That way you save yourself 90 or 99 rejections.

(In reality I think the numbers are closer to 1 in 1000 to 1 in 10,000 for everyone, regardless of looks.)

Adama,

If that's the case for some guys they will have to wait for eons for a women to make the first move.

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chanta76 wrote:Adama,

If that's the case for some guys they will have to wait for eons for a women to make the first move.

Open your eyes. All around you there are people who are mostly average looking. Most of them are not super good looking. Yet people are born on this world everyday. In fact more people are born than die. Somehow lots of people are getting together to make babies.

The way you men think on this forum the human birth rate worldwide should be zero. Or Chad Stud must be the one impregnating 90% of the women.

Wake up. You're under a massive delusion. This is not happening.

Most of the women you see everyday around you are not banging Chad. You just think that way, because you choose to believe that.

When you wake up, you'll realize that average men are getting with average women, below average looking men are even getting spectacular looking women. You probably see this everyday when you walk outside, just in your self delusion it doesn't register on your radar.

And if you never get a signal of interest, it is because your eyes are not open. I've known some really overweight guys who were not good looking who hooked up with some women who I consider to be 9+. Open your eyes.

I notice that when I'm not trying, at all - just myself. That's when women approach me or give signals to me, as Adama says. They are like those deep sea tube worms, they only come out when they feel safe and then show all their pretty flowers. If you look at them or go up next to them, they shut away real quick. That's corny, but that's exactly how it is, I think.
It's when I don't give a shit, that I get a lot of interest from women. Most of it I'm rejecting and continue walking, because I'm not interested in her - she's too young, fat, old, or sometimes...I just don't feel like it. I'll also admit it feels good, to stick it to women once and a while because of all the stuff we go through.
I don't even think about this it just ends up happening -and I feel bad about it.

Women are the gatekeepers of sex, they choose. Men who think they are choosing are failing - Or if they're not, they'd better have solid, good game.

chanta76 wrote:Adama,

If that's the case for some guys they will have to wait for eons for a women to make the first move.

I agree, if you wait for a woman to show interest in you, you might be waiting until doomsday. It's best to travel overseas if you want women to show interest in you. The Philippines seems to be the best country in the world for men when it comes to meeting women.

Also, all because a woman makes eye contact with you doesn't mean she want's to sleep with you. This is especially true in the United States.

Eric wrote:I notice that when I'm not trying, at all - just myself. That's when women approach me or give signals to me, as Adama says. They are like those deep sea tube worms, they only come out when they feel safe and then show all their pretty flowers. If you look at them or go up next to them, they shut away real quick. That's corny, but that's exactly how it is, I think.
It's when I don't give a shit, that I get a lot of interest from women. Most of it I'm rejecting and continue walking, because I'm not interested in her - she's too young, fat, old, or sometimes...I just don't feel like it. I'll also admit it feels good, to stick it to women once and a while because of all the stuff we go through.
I don't even think about this it just ends up happening -and I feel bad about it.

Women are the gatekeepers of sex, they choose. Men who think they are choosing are failing - Or if they're not, they'd better have solid, good game.

I agree with you. Being yourself means you like yourself and women will pick this up and like you as well. Those who approach women and gets rejected every time have no idea on how to deal with them which is like 99% of men.

Invest in yourself to have a solid, good game and it will give you the best ROI.

Adama wrote:

chanta76 wrote:Adama,

If that's the case for some guys they will have to wait for eons for a women to make the first move.

Open your eyes. All around you there are people who are mostly average looking. Most of them are not super good looking. Yet people are born on this world everyday. In fact more people are born than die. Somehow lots of people are getting together to make babies.

The way you men think on this forum the human birth rate worldwide should be zero. Or Chad Stud must be the one impregnating 90% of the women.

Wake up. You're under a massive delusion. This is not happening.

Most of the women you see everyday around you are not banging Chad. You just think that way, because you choose to believe that.

When you wake up, you'll realize that average men are getting with average women, below average looking men are even getting spectacular looking women. You probably see this everyday when you walk outside, just in your self delusion it doesn't register on your radar.

And if you never get a signal of interest, it is because your eyes are not open. I've known some really overweight guys who were not good looking who hooked up with some women who I consider to be 9+. Open your eyes.

I guess my problem is how do I detect the signal of interest from women

Adama wrote:

chanta76 wrote:Adama,

If that's the case for some guys they will have to wait for eons for a women to make the first move.

Open your eyes. All around you there are people who are mostly average looking. Most of them are not super good looking. Yet people are born on this world everyday. In fact more people are born than die. Somehow lots of people are getting together to make babies.

The way you men think on this forum the human birth rate worldwide should be zero. Or Chad Stud must be the one impregnating 90% of the women.

Wake up. You're under a massive delusion. This is not happening.

Most of the women you see everyday around you are not banging Chad. You just think that way, because you choose to believe that.

When you wake up, you'll realize that average men are getting with average women, below average looking men are even getting spectacular looking women. You probably see this everyday when you walk outside, just in your self delusion it doesn't register on your radar.

And if you never get a signal of interest, it is because your eyes are not open. I've known some really overweight guys who were not good looking who hooked up with some women who I consider to be 9+. Open your eyes.

but these not so good looking guys porbably have some game right?