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Awesome response Winston! I know what you mean I just misunderstood what he said that's why I said language barrier. Now I know what you guys mean. The Chinese here in S. FLA are very very distant and only keep to themselves. The girl that rejected me 5 years ago was colder than ice had no feelings.
It's OK if she wanted to reject me but her approach was awful. I don't know how most people are but if I am not interested in a girl I'll still be nice and friendly to her I don't shut the doors forever and that's it. I don't know how certain people can live their lives like this no remorse or concern for the well being of others. I agree SE Asians are warmer.
I'd place Filipinas 1st, in terms of friendliness then Thais but Thais have a lot of spoiled women that are becoming Westernized though. Vietnamese are my favorite from SE Asia due to the more East Asian appearance but most that are living in their country don't speak English but you could learn some basic Vietnamese but also they are the women which I had the most luck with online. You'd be surprised since they are SE Asian you'd think most are tan with more features from their brothers and sisters next door neighboring countries. But most Vietnamese are pale white with East Asian features don't get me wrong there's some that look more SE Asian but most are Chinese looking but prettier.
My dream was to have a Mainland China GF soulmate because I adore Chinese culture but I haven't had luck. I also noticed when I was 15-16 years old when AOL instant messenger was a big thing I would go to the California chats and I would meet Asian Americans. And guess who were the most friendliest the Filipinos, the Vietnamese, and the Cambodian Americans. The Chinese were not I met a Chinese girl her first reply was are you Chinese I said no. She blocked me. I am not saying all Chinese are like this but these are just some of my experiences. The nicest Chinese I ever met were Cantonese from both Hong Kong and Guangdong but they were all males.
Another note you also mentioned that NE Asians aren't sweet or joke around I met a Chinese girl online 19 years old she is very nice and friendly but she said she doesn't like to kiss her bf if shes in a relationship so there you go......
Yes its true. The chinese women in America are there for money, materialism, career, and achievement. They are very status oriented. They want a bigger house than they can get in China. They aren't in America for fun, social connection or spirituality. And they only want you if you're useful to them. But if they are newly arrived or teenagers they can still be friendly, especially if they are from mainland China.
However i dont like asian american subculture much. Or even chinese american subculture. They act so snobby and cliquish. Not down to earth at all. They think im weird because im down to earth and open minded, which they are not.
Was the chinese woman that rejected you from China or an island nation? The ones from China are more straightforward and direct. No BS politeness. Thats refreshing in a way.
But if you go to mainland China they are more friendly and relaxed and normal. Not cold blooded.
Vietnamese are a good middle ground. They are sweet and pleasing like filipino women but have lighter skin and NE asian features. But i dont like the way their language sounds, its kind of ghetto to me. Lol. Some of their cuisine is also gross, such as that thing with the egg and aborted chicken fetus inside of it. Filipinos eat that too. Its gross.
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"Some of their cuisine is also gross, such as that thing with the egg and aborted chicken fetus inside of it. Filipinos eat that too. Its gross."
Yeah I am not familiar with Vietnamese cuisine and I've only been on 2 dates with the Vietnamese girl but she says she loves me already and I have nothing to lose so I am happy. I'm only familiar with Chinese and Japanese cuisine it is godly haha.
Ok where to start haha. I love your site and forum Winston it's enjoyable to talk to you guys I tried to wake up a few guys here but they are closed minded and ignorant I say well it's their loss. I am not dating no Westernized women let alone marry one period. I am not friends with any woman here except my 2 sisters/mother and older women from my old job that love me like a son period. I know young women from here but we are co workers and nothing more if I see them it's hi how are you and it ends there I don't have their cell phones nor their Facebook there is nothing to talk about with them period.
I have noticed one thing on WeChat the Chinese app which I use to talk to both male and female Chinese friends that are from China that are so friendly and down to earth, when I would message local Chinese women via the people nearby option not one replied back and they live here and seem not too Americanized. But when I would go to ChinaLoveCupid I could make friends easily from the mainland. When I was on Interpals which sucks the women from the islands HK, Taiwan were awful if you were only a few years older they wanted nothing to do with you and attitude. Which that wasn't the case with girls from the mainland.
The Chinese girl that rejected me was from Fuzhou province. For the most part she was nice in the sense that she would give me and my friend Chinese tea that they would not serve at the buffet. But other than that I understand rejection is part of life but my only complaint is how could someone be so cold like that. She had my cell she could have just texted me look it's my parents or what not lets be friends or whatever but nope she closed all doors I was like a piece of trash in a dumpster. A girl that worked with her pushed her on the shoulder and told her to talk to me cause at times she would ignore me completely. Her manager was smiling telling her to talk to me because I was so handsome according to her. But she was a stone.
Now there is a thing that till this day that bothers me. At that particular buffer there was a gorgeous mainland China girl she was tall like my height which is 5'7.5-5'8 which for a girl that is tall. She wore absolutely no make up and was pretty. She hit on me but the way she did it confused me and made me think it was meant for the girl that rejected me which is why I went for her in the first place. She had her arm around the other girls shoulder and said a bunch of stuff in Mandarin which I don't understand then said in Spanish lindo y guapo which means handsome and pretty.
Let me continue here I have so much to write. So like I said I thought it was meant for the other girl so thus I went after her. And one day after talking to the girl from Fuzhou I walk out of the buffet and I look through the window and I see the tall girl telling her off angry, she then turns and sees me through the window and looks away in a shy manner. I said uh oh it's the other girl that likes me not her. I took too long to return and both were gone. The Fuzhou girl returned and I kept after her but she rejected me.
To make long story short after 2 years of wasting my time talking to Thai women online cause they all suck IMO they are becoming Westernized. The past came to me and said if I can't travel now I may look for Asian women here like I did 5-6 years ago. That tall girl came to my mind I said let me look for her if shes still here it's been to long. So the buffet these girls used to work in mysteriously burned down one night at 3 am they never re-opened it.
So I asked my self where could they have gone so I remember I have been through every buffet in S. FLA except one. I went there I found out Fuzhou girl worked there but quit before I went to visit it would have been so ackward if we would have seen each other. I did see an old lady that worked with the other girl in the other place. I asked her for info but she was either too busy cause the place was packed that night or she is not friendly. I gave up then I met this Vietnamese girl so I am happy.
The only doubt I have in my mind the deep burning question I have is if I would have gone for the correct girl years ago would it have worked out? Was she in it for me or the money she wasn't a career woman. And seemed super down to earth for a Chinese girl but oh well we will never know.
Now to other things I noticed these Chinese people here at the restaurants and buffets are not there to make friends nor to do small talk it is straight up business and they always put the pill on your table before you are even done eating they just want you out asap! I don't know if this is a Chinese thing or just a business thing.
I also noticed one thing Chinese men in general are nicer and more friendlier than the women but this applies worldwide men period are nicer and friendlier than women period.
Asian Americans I can agree with you they are the same as regular Americans but just more family oriented but the females come with similar attitude like their white counterparts. Stuck up entitled, high maintenance, etc. But they were friendly back in the AOL days in the chats lol made many friends. Same as Thai women I noticed the nicest ones spoke little to no English but the ones that spoke good English were not interested in me were also snobby and stuck up.
The Vietnamese girl that is my GF is very very serious like you said women from those nations aren't interested in friend zones nor casual dating it is damn serious. She has been here for 9 years speaks OK English not perfect though a lot of the big words in English she asks what does it mean LOL. She is not Westernized period she hangs mostly with her people and is a traditional woman.
And Yes Vietnamese language sounds weird. At first it could almost sound like Cantonese choppy sounding but no haha. I was at work the other day I work at the mall there is a Starbucks in there. I see two cute short Asian girls there drinking their lattes. They seemed Chinese to me. But they were so short that their feet barely touch the floor when they were sitting down. My GF is 5'0 but they seemed shorter so cute tho hehe. Mainland Chinese girls are usually taller. So when they spoke I recognize the language they were Vietnamese. LOL.