Many thanks for your kind comments!mattyman wrote: ↑February 25th, 2018, 1:50 pmFantastic points. Quite naturally, more importantly;A small minority may even try to steal Valeria from Stewart
" Conversely, some will not even recognise Valeria's greatness because they literally cannot compute it." Lack of a point of reference, even more importantly;This probably explains why a lot of anglo women are so terrible. This is born out of the realisation that she (Valeria, or foreign woman) is probably their better (the conventional anglo women's) deep down. Do you remember that youtube channel nollagirl (under threat of being banned from youtube)? A woman with conservative views who has talked about not having female friends deliberately purely because they try to bring her down and make her feel bad. A lot of these western women do behave in disgusting ways purely for approval from the peer group and to fit in, out of low self esteem. That's the irony of 'acting tough'. A lot of those women who do act tough and unfeminine probably have the lowest self-esteem and lowest confidence.And generally, the women will view her as threat which needs to be neutralised by dragging her down to the level of the group.
Ultimately, the problem is that these issues are something that people cannot bring up without fear of disapproval from the peer group. The solutions are simple; be in a position where you don't have a peer group who'se approval you care about, or have a peer group where you can openly discuss these sorts of things.
I'm not mega-familiar with nollagirl, but yes, the whole peer group dynamic is very much operational. Essentially, there's nothing necessarily that surprising or even wrong about that, though: it all depends on the values that the peer group holds. In better-functioning societies, the peer group can actually be a source of moral strength.