Men Have The Burden Of Performance, Women do Not Have That Burden

[jamesbond]

Good video by Richard Cooper explaining that women don't care about a man's struggles in life, she only cares about his successes. Men have the burden of performance women do not have that burden.

[flowerthief00]

Whether he realizes or not--and I do not necessarily think he is wrong--he has just made a case against man-woman relationships.

Do not show weakness? Do not emote? Do not behave in a vulnerable fashion? How can two people truly understand each other when one of them is deliberately hiding that side of himself?

If only your fellow men are capable of still caring for you after you have shown weakness then it sounds like relationships with men are superior to relationships with women. And if that's true then men should be devoting their time to seeking friendships and relationships with men rather than relationships with women. Only someone who can actually care about you--the real you, not an image you put on--is worth letting yourself become close to.

Do men need any more reasons to shun marriage, dating, and long-term relationships?

[Cornfed]

Yeah, the thing is it takes a functional community to preserve a single functional man-female relationship. If no such a community exists then you are screwed and whether the relationship lasts is beyond your control.

[Contrarian Expatriate]

Yeah, the thing is it takes a functional community to preserve a single functional man-female relationship. If no such a community exists then you are screwed and whether the relationship lasts is beyond your control.

Says the most dysfunctional person on the forum. I literally know teenagers more successful and industrious you. Your parents made you into a real piece of work. They should be proud.....

[jamesbond]

This is an interesting study that showed women will rank a guy higher in attractiveness if he makes a lot of money. Also, women will rank a guy lower in attractiveness if he is good looking but makes very little money.

[Mr Natural]

Men have the burden of performance women do not have that burden.

Yes BUT, whatever you define as "performance", a man has the ability to significantly change it. Maybe most won't, but at least you can. On the other hand women are judged first and foremost by their looks, which is difficult to significantly change. When you consider it this way, it's a very good thing.

[Neo]

Either she likes you or she doesn't. No reason to jump through hoops. A man wants a good woman, not a confused, crooked woman with unreasonable expectations.

[Ghost]

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[Cornfed]

Men have the burden of performance women do not have that burden.

Yes BUT, whatever you define as "performance", a man has the ability to significantly change it. Maybe most won't, but at least you can. On the other hand women are judged first and foremost by their looks, which is difficult to significantly change. When you consider it this way, it's a very good thing.

A point of the video is that females only care about outcomes rather than performance. Hence if you have struggled against incredible odds to overcome adversity but the female is given a higher paying job than you because she has a vagina, then as far as she is concerned you are a loser. On the other hand if you were paid a fortune to microwave kittens or whatever then you would be considered the cat's pyjamas.

[flowerthief00]

On the other hand women are judged first and foremost by their looks, which is difficult to significantly change.

Exactly the same with men.

[Cornfed]

On the other hand women are judged first and foremost by their looks, which is difficult to significantly change.

Exactly the same with men.

And your "performance", which is to say your pay and status, may also be difficult to change in this day and age.

[jamesbond]

Either she likes you or she doesn't. No reason to jump through hoops. A man wants a good woman, not a confused, crooked woman with unreasonable expectations.

That's a good point, either the woman is attracted to you or she is not. The PUA'S says, "Looks and money don't matter to women" but they DO MATTER A LOT!

[Neo]

Either she likes you or she doesn't. No reason to jump through hoops. A man wants a good woman, not a confused, crooked woman with unreasonable expectations.

That's a good point, either the woman is attracted to you or she is not. The PUA'S says, "Looks and money don't matter to women" but they DO MATTER A LOT!

Money is something that men probably shouldn't use to get women, especially in countries that prefer female child custody. There are lots of evil women who are hunting for men with money, and as everyone knows, as soon as the child or enough children are born, or as soon as she can qualify for enough alimony, the evil woman will leave and take the man to court. This happened to at least one man I used to work with.

There are women who aren't so much in to money. We can infer this, because there are lots of poor people born in this country.

What a man truly needs is a woman with a good heart, a good conscience, some sense of morality and honor, and a sense of right and wrong. These women are gifts from God, and a man will need to pray to get one.

[Cornfed]

What a man truly needs is a woman with a good heart, a good conscience, some sense of morality and honor, and a sense of right and wrong. These women are gifts from God, and a man will need to pray to get one.

All of those things are male concepts. Talking about a woman's sense of honor is like talking about the length of her penis.

[Neo]

What a man truly needs is a woman with a good heart, a good conscience, some sense of morality and honor, and a sense of right and wrong. These women are gifts from God, and a man will need to pray to get one.

All of those things are male concepts. Talking about a woman's sense of honor is like talking about the length of her penis.

That's why a man would have to pray for it. A woman who isn't a liar or a deceiver has integrity. She can be taught the rest by a man who has knowledge of the virtues of God.