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Are You Unapproachable to Men are picky,have high standards?

Post by firethrower1000 » February 17th, 2010, 7:04 pm

Dear What Men Want: Recently (4 months ago, to be exact) I moved to Manhattan after graduating college and I have yet to score a date with any eligible bachelors in the city. In fact, I don't even think I've given my number out once. My roommates, on the other hand, both go on dates all the time, while I end up empty-handed weekend after weekend. I'm no Gisele, but from what I've been told, this isn't a question of my attractiveness. My roommates think I'm a little too picky in my choice of men (which I like to call "high standards") and think I shut down men too fast, but even so, why are no decent men approaching me when I'm out? Is it possible that I look intimidating to men, and if so, do men only approach the easy-looking girls at bars? How can I change my attitude so that men find me more approachable without throwing myself at them? Please help, WMW!



Dear Dating-Challenged: This is a simple case of needing to open your mind. I don't think women realize just how hard it is for the average guy to walk up to a complete stranger and try to strike up a conversation. It is exceedingly difficult to work up the courage to do that and obviously we're not going to approach you if it seems like you might shut us down if we don't fit every one of your personal standards.

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Post by jamesbond » February 17th, 2010, 9:08 pm

That is an excellent article and make sure you read the comments that people wrote, here is one comment a guy wrote that is priceless;

"If its socially acceptable for expect men to take all the risks in regards to approaching women and rejection maybe men should sit back and let the women evolve the courage to put their egos on the line and see what their made of once in a while. There are those who say that this is seen as desperate for women to do this but why sit and evoke traditional courtship routines and place your double standards in your pocket when its convenient, I find nothing wrong with a woman being assertive with what they want.

So don't be so complacent with men taking all the risks with rejection, take a chance and see how the other half lives or is internalizing rejection an obvious phobia for some women? It appears so with all of the expectations mentioned in some of the comments."

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