Update:
I've come to some realizations about male/female friendships.
I understand now why many of you guys do not like to be "just friends" with a female. If your relation with her is always platonic, and she is somewhat attractive, then it becomes an insult on your ego. If she does not show any affection toward you at all or touches you or allows you to flirt with her, it's a rejection of our manhood, because in effect she is telling you, "You are not attractive. You are undesirable." etc. and that's a blow to our male pride. It's like being told that you are NOT desirable every time you are around her. It's insulting to our ego and pride and a rejection of us.
So I think I understand you guys now. Some women really are a waste of time to just be friends with, especially Western women. I've come to notice that about some of my useless friendships with women. I've spoken with Rock about this at length.
However, let me clarify something. This applies primarily to Western women and self-absorbed Asian women. When you are "just friends" with a Western woman or self-absorbed Asian woman, you are not allowed to hold her hand, flirt with her, or say anything affectionate. If you do she gets offended and sees it as "crossing the line". She sets strict boundaries in being "just friends" with you. And you are NOT allowed to cross these boundaries.
But on the other hand, it is ok to be "friends" with a sweet girl who is giving you affection, holds your hand, and treats you with admiration and appreciation. For example, if you listen to my conversation with Marissa, a Filipina girl, you will see that she is very appreciative and affectionate towards me. She strokes my ego with lots of compliments too.
http://www.happierabroad.com/podcasts/m ... sation.mp3
You see what I mean? Now THAT kind of friendship with a girl is worth having and investing time in. Because she's a true female who allows you to flirt with her, express affection for her, and will blush and giggle if you say sweet things to her. She also appreciates me and admires my qualities too. In a way, a friendship like that with a girl is somewhere in the gray area between friendship and dating. There is EMOTION and AFFECTION exchanged. So that kind of "friendship" is definitely WORTH having. Agreed?
I also knew a Taiwanese girl before who would hold hands with me, and cuddle with me in bed, though we didn't have sex. Since she showed me some affection, that was much better than being "friends" with a girl who showed no affection at all. So that kind of "friendship" was somewhat worth putting time into.
So I should qualify this by saying that a friendship with a girl is only worth it if she is giving you at least SOME appreciation, affection, admiration and care. In other words, there should be some EMOTION and CHEMISTRY between you, even if you're not officially dating.
But if she's totally self-absorbed and doesn't acknowledge your needs for flirtation and affection, never wants to touch you, and shows no emotion for you, then no, that kind of "friendship" SUCKS and is insulting to our male ego and pride. It's a rejection of our worth. Plus self-absorbed women are inconsiderate takers, not givers, and so we eventually lose our respect for such women. They don't give a crap about our needs. Thus they are ultimately a waste of time.
Does that make sense? Do you all agree?
The other exception of course, is if she is benefiting you or contributing to your life goals in some useful way. Then the friendship may have some value.
But if she's 100 percent platonic and shows no emotion or affection toward you, and does not contribute anything useful to your life, then yeah she's a waste of time. As Rock told me, "I don't need friends like that."
Also of course, if you have such a deep connection with a female that you feel a deep sense of fulfillment when talking to her, then that will be worth pursuing as well.