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Is it a waste of time to be just friends with a girl?

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Re: Is it a waste of time to be just friends with a girl?

Post by The_Adventurer » November 25th, 2014, 4:57 am

Jester wrote:
Jester wrote:
The_Adventurer wrote:I had a great many female friends here.

They nearly all disappeared as soon as I got married.

Actually that suggests that unlike many, you had the RIGHT kind of female friends. Yearning for YOU, not the other way around.
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May I ask which Asian country/city? Your old avatar seemed to suggest Japan.

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I am talking about China, although some of the Korean girls I kept in touch with, from my time there, also vanished after I got married.
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Re: Is it a waste of time to be just friends with a girl?

Post by Winston » November 25th, 2014, 6:41 pm

Just to clarify something to you all:

In Asia and most of the world, when a man becomes "friends" with a woman, it doesn't mean they have to remain that way. Usually when a man and woman are interested in each other, they are supposed to start off as friends and see where it goes from there.

So it's not like the US where you either have to start off as dating, or never date at all. I don't know why that is. The US is fricking WEIRD!

However, I'm sure many couples in the US started off as friends too, so that's not uncommon either. I think most of this "never be her friend" BS is mostly from the PUA movement, not from real life examples.

Usually conservative couples with traditional values, even in the US, start off as friends before dating. Especially if they met at church. It's a normal thing. And it's a wise thing too because you are supposed to get to know someone as a friend before deciding to date them. That's common sense wisdom. So I don't know how that got lost in modern America.
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Re: Is it a waste of time to be just friends with a girl?

Post by DanielleNguyen » December 10th, 2014, 5:28 pm

In the USA if a couple isn't friends and just start off dating off the bat, it usually means they are in a relationship for the sex. My cousin does it alot

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Re: Is it a waste of time to be just friends with a girl?

Post by droid » December 11th, 2014, 10:09 pm

Winston wrote:Just to clarify something to you all:
In Asia and most of the [normal] world, when a man becomes "friends" with a woman, it doesn't mean they have to remain that way. Usually when a man and woman are interested in each other, they are supposed to start off as friends and see where it goes from there.
So it's not like the US where you either have to start off as dating, or never date at all. I don't know why that is. The US is fricking WEIRD!
However, I'm sure many couples in the US started off as friends too, so that's not uncommon either. I think most of this "never be her friend" BS is mostly from the PUA movement, not from real life examples.
Usually conservative couples with traditional values, even in the US, start off as friends before dating. Especially if they met at church. It's a normal thing. And it's a wise thing too because you are supposed to get to know someone as a friend before deciding to date them. That's common sense wisdom. So I don't know how that got lost in modern America.
That's very true, skanks in the states are all-or-nothing since everyone is so 'busy'. But it's becoming like that in other places too.
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Re: Is it a waste of time to be just friends with a girl?

Post by newlifeinphilippines » December 11th, 2014, 11:55 pm

That would explain why the girl from this baptist church in philippines says she just wanted to have a lot of friends and wasn't in a hurry for love. Sounded so bizarre and lame to me personally. I want a girl though who is eager for love and romance. Id imagine those girls who aren't in a rush for love and marriage are probably boring lays. lol

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Re: Is it a waste of time to be just friends with a girl?

Post by Seduction Sebi » December 15th, 2014, 3:37 am

THat's a really interesting question and I also know a lot of guys who say that becoming friends with a girl is the worst thing that you can do.

I personally have to disagree with that, at least under certain circumstances. I have quite a few good female friends who I wouldn't trade for anything in the world. However, they have all one thing in common. They are not ugly but I am simply not sexually attracted to them. And I think that's exactly why the firendship works so well.

Once you are firends with a girl you are sexually attracted to, you will always have in the back of your mind that you could sleep with her and that you should take things further. That's the moment when a friendship between men and women becomes extremely difficult.

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