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zboy1 wrote:Wow, looks like a lot of the bad comments were deleted...I should've copied and pasted it here.
Anyway...the jist of the comments were: why is she married to an Asian man?; Asian men are ugly, small, etc.; and jealous comments about her marriage.
It pissed me off, to be honest.
There is a mentality that makes ongoing personal and racist attacks for no reason except one:
The vile individual making the attack is filled with boiling hatred and often, real self loathing.
The term "random free-floating aggression" has been used to describe it. I have seen it in other races and places, but within the USA, there are a lot of white trash types and ghetto minded blacks that go there all the time. These self loathing types, especially the white trash kind, are pretty common and there are a number of them that post on this forum. Mean, hateful and small minded, they boil with rage that there might be someone of a different race that is in fact their better, or even be taking their "whimin".
Typically, they are underachievers in life and tend to be clumped at the low end of the socioeconomic scale. They feel powerless and I would bet that women avoid them like the plague, which only adds to their anger. Usually they are cowards, but in packs they can be dangerous, so it is good to be well armed if you have any contact. Fortunately most of them do not get beyond cowardly keyboard commando type racial attacks, and of course, an intelligently moderated site would weed them out.
Fortunately, most of them have no future.
...and then there are the rice-kings. You know, the ones who prey on third-worlders (Filipinas in particular) in order to assuage their inadequacy complexes over their inability to keep a non-destitute woman- one with real options in life.
Pinay love you long, long time!
Wow...is that what happened to you? Did you find yourself in the situation with a filipina? Was she destitute?
Some of those work out, but some do not. Sorry if you had bad luck with your efforts. I have never
been in the situation- just lucky I guess...and I DO pay attention. My wife is an engineer and comes from a money family. She had plenty of options I am sure. I doubt that any member of her
family ever had a destitute moment.
On the other hand, I have seem dirt poor Filipinas turn down a man with money due to her reservations about his character, so some men strike out regardless. That would really hurt, to have
even a dirt poor girl turn a man down because she sees him as such an undesirable character.
"This Pinay no love big-a$$ loser, short time or long time! No boom boom for you!"
I only date White. I don't share your weird rice-king fetishes.
Good luck to you then...hopefully you will find the White American or European girl you deserve.
It's not the aspect that they hate Asian Men but the underlying aspiration to date an Asian Girl. If the negative posters are majority white, and I'm assuming they are, they are upset because she didn't marry a white man, which would fulfill their subconscious desire to have a dragon lady. In a way like "Oh he got a hot one, then so can I" manifesto.
Whereas I am not against a particular race dating another, it is somewhat uplifting seeing someone similar to you succeed with what you desire. If I see an average white guy with a sexy latina, or Chinese, or Indian in my subliminal mind I kinda cheer, or say good job. Asian men I'm sure feel the same way when they see an Asian Guy with a hot white girl or whoever.
Regardless of that, you will have the trolls hiding behind the keyboard shouting out insults to rile up the masses.
hammanta wrote:It's not the aspect that they hate Asian Men but the underlying aspiration to date an Asian Girl. If the negative posters are majority white, and I'm assuming they are, they are upset because she didn't marry a white man, which would fulfill their subconscious desire to have a dragon lady. In a way like "Oh he got a hot one, then so can I" manifesto.
Whereas I am not against a particular race dating another, it is somewhat uplifting seeing someone similar to you succeed with what you desire. If I see an average white guy with a sexy latina, or Chinese, or Indian in my subliminal mind I kinda cheer, or say good job. Asian men I'm sure feel the same way when they see an Asian Guy with a hot white girl or whoever.
Regardless of that, you will have the trolls hiding behind the keyboard shouting out insults to rile up the masses.
You're exactly right!; men are tribal in nature, so they want to see 'their own' succeed with certain women. And that's why jealousies and anger arise from some men.
zboy1 wrote:Wow, looks like a lot of the bad comments were deleted...I should've copied and pasted it here.
Anyway...the jist of the comments were: why is she married to an Asian man?; Asian men are ugly, small, etc.; and jealous comments about her marriage.
It pissed me off, to be honest.
Truth hurts the most...it will elicit many responses and sting for long afterwards.
That which is not true will annoy you but the annoyance will quickly vanish.
You (we) know the truth about Asians so let the annoyance quickly vanish. Small? Yao Ming and Asashoryu are Asian aren't they? Ugly? look at those damn Korean male actors.
hammanta wrote:It's not the aspect that they hate Asian Men but the underlying aspiration to date an Asian Girl. If the negative posters are majority white, and I'm assuming they are, they are upset because she didn't marry a white man, which would fulfill their subconscious desire to have a dragon lady. In a way like "Oh he got a hot one, then so can I" manifesto.
Whereas I am not against a particular race dating another, it is somewhat uplifting seeing someone similar to you succeed with what you desire. If I see an average white guy with a sexy latina, or Chinese, or Indian in my subliminal mind I kinda cheer, or say good job. Asian men I'm sure feel the same way when they see an Asian Guy with a hot white girl or whoever.
Regardless of that, you will have the trolls hiding behind the keyboard shouting out insults to rile up the masses.
This is very true, and it is important to acknowledge this fact so that we may better understand what we are encountering.
zboy1 wrote:Wow, looks like a lot of the bad comments were deleted...I should've copied and pasted it here.
Anyway...the jist of the comments were: why is she married to an Asian man?; Asian men are ugly, small, etc.; and jealous comments about her marriage.
It pissed me off, to be honest.
Huh? Isn't she Asian? And, he is a whole head taller than she is.
That's the whole point! Western men get shocked and angry that an Asian women would think of marrying an Asian man. That kind of thinking is very prevalent among non-Asian men. If you don't believe me, go check out any forum such as City Data, Oriental Expat, Yahoo Answers, Topix, ChinaSmack or WorldPress--when they talk of Asian men, and you will see what I mean. And Asian men are frequently trashed on those (and other websites) as well.
Sorry, I rushed my comments as I should've put in "Asian" obviously. As for the 'mixing race' comments, I was angry and I shouldn't have wrote that. But I had to lash out at all the sickening Asian female sexualization and fetish comments that were kind of disturbing to me and to my Asian female friend (who I shared the article with), that I was discussing this article with. It really bothered both of us, to be honest...
I apologize if I offended anyone.
It's difficult for non-Asian men to understand the anger in the Asian male community--with the exception of Black Americans, who also have to deal with similar issues of racial discrimination, exaggerated sexual stereotypes and problems with their other gender (Black American women).
Whoa-ho-ho-ho-oooo! You sound like a Black American nationalist when it comes to the "non-empathy" of people relating to what men in the Asian-American race go through. There are non-Asian-American men whom really do understand what Asian-American go through whom have eaten a slice of humble pie #figuratively.
Zboy1, there is nothing wrong with feeling the way you're feeling; not a bit. However, your exclusion doesn't hold akin to a candle because - like I said - there are non-Asian-American whom can relate to you "almost empathetically" (i.e. they aren't Asian-American but they can relate in all the other ways as if he were an Asian-American!).