Not exactly that, but yeah, maybe? You could at least give Macau a go so that no matter what happens, you don't leave the country of your ancestors without having had your fill of sex with sexy Chinese women. Sex, passion and romance are the three things that seem to drive you most... The first thing, Macau has to offer. The second and third may be more difficult. Not necessarily because of you, but because of the nature of Chinese women.Winston wrote:Yes you may be right. So what do you suggest? That I go to Macau and seek out p4p girls per Rock and Smallcheese's recommendation, get my desires for Chinese female flesh satisfied and satiated, then fly to Beijing and take some pictures of the Great Wall of China, and then return to the Philippines to settle down? lol
Ask yourself what drives you most in life, and what you want most. America brings you no joy. China brings you more joy, but still is lacking in some fundamental ways the way Russia was also lacking for you. The things you want most, tell me, where did you find them? What country? I'm not telling you to give up on China altogether, unless that's your decision. But at the very least you might want to reconsider the wisdom of your decision to pursue Chinese women at all costs. Your friends adviced you China would be perfect for you, right? Well, maybe they were mistaken. Maybe it's not perfect for you. That's a possibility, right?
Still, fun with no strings attached is something you seem to wish for. Some strings attached, you would be fine with. But you would require a considerable amount of freedom from a woman for you to function. You mind wanders a lot, you have that restless gene, that adventurous gene. One day you want one thing, another day you want something else. You need a woman who accepts your nature. And I think there has only ever been one woman who accepted it fully, or at least allows you to be yourself. You will not find such flexibility with a Chinese woman, and Chinese culture seems less open to this type of relationship. At the very least, finding a girl as flexible and accepting as Dianne will be extremely difficult in China. If not to say: impossible.Winston wrote:Btw, when Ethan sleeps with the girls he's dating, it's not exactly "casual sex" like in "Sex and the City". He told me that those girls expect a commitment out of him and want a committed relationship with him. Some even urge him to let them move in with him afterward. So it's not exactly casual in the sense that it's just fun with no strings attached.
None of those guys are Winston Wu, though. Those nerdy guys may be great providers, loyal and without the urge to chase romance, sex and passion whenever they desire. They may offer more emotional and physical stability, and girls will sense they are less of a risk. When she settles for you, she is taking a risk. Filipina girls are more happy-go-lucky and open to a less traditional relationship (as seen by the amount of women who are someone's mistress and not wife in that country), whereas I feel Chinese women are more traditional when it comes to committed relationships.Winston wrote:Also, how do you explain that all over Asia, even in China, you see average looking guys with hot girls? Some of the guys are nerdy looking or ugly too. How are they able to get hot girls in China?
Just because a guy is nerdy or plain looking does not mean he is instantly the same as you, simply because you yourself are nerdy or plain looking. And, mind you: I call you "plain looking". I never said you are ugly like some guys here say. For a middle-aged Chinese man, you look average and not below average. You are a bit on the short side, a little heavy maybe, but your looks alone aren't going to be a dealbreaker with Chinese girls: your behavior, your personality, your restlessness and reluctance to commit, as well as your past dating history and the fact you still have a girlfriend and a son... THOSE are the things that will be dealbreakers. Girls have a sixth sense when it comes to unstable guys.
As I just said: it's not a matter of looks alone. Guys who look as good (or bad) as you, or way worse, will be able to get hot girls. But those guys have one thing in common: they offer financial and emotional stability. They are "what you see is what you get" type of guys, and you are a question mark to them. They are a certainty, a stable factor, they can be a girls rock... whereas you are a drifter, a wanderer, a question mark. And most girls cannot and will not take that risk.Winston wrote:Zboy1 even said that he's seen guys that look like me with hot girls in China. How do you explain that?