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Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by Temprano26 » October 1st, 2015, 4:19 pm

Usually middle-aged women tell me that I am good looking and then they wonder why I am frustrated about living in a world where nobody notices I exist. They live in this antiquated world where a guy being good-looking should have no problem getting dates. Usually these middle-aged women are therapists that I went to on someone's recommendation but found out they are feeding me the same BS that got stale a long time ago. Always they tell me I am not getting dates because I am pissed off. What I get pissed off about is that when I came back from Costa Rica I believed so much that people were friendly and accepting but what I got instead was people and their bad attitudes. I step off the plane in Dallas and automatically everyone was more uptight than in Costa Rica. The only people who understand my perspective are other loners that have first-hand experiences of the crap I have dealt with. Only loners that exist outside of the mainstream understand how hard it is to meet people in America now.

When I went to Los Angeles, I really thought I was going to meet down-to-earth, nice, friendly people but that was too much to expect. A guy cannot even go up and say hello to a woman at a coffee shop without her getting paranoid of his agenda. It doesn't matter if I am good-looking because they are not going to get past their preconceived notions anyway. No therapist can ever explain to me why the nicest people I met in LA were not even America but FOREIGNERS. Or why even the cats in LA were friendlier to me than the people. If my "negative energy" repels others then why are animals comfortable around me? Why is a lady from Iran so much more relaxed than two girls from Cali? They can never explain that.

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Re: Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by Tsar » October 1st, 2015, 8:35 pm

Temprano26 wrote:Usually middle-aged women tell me that I am good looking and then they wonder why I am frustrated about living in a world where nobody notices I exist. They live in this antiquated world where a guy being good-looking should have no problem getting dates. Usually these middle-aged women are therapists that I went to on someone's recommendation but found out they are feeding me the same BS that got stale a long time ago. Always they tell me I am not getting dates because I am pissed off. What I get pissed off about is that when I came back from Costa Rica I believed so much that people were friendly and accepting but what I got instead was people and their bad attitudes. I step off the plane in Dallas and automatically everyone was more uptight than in Costa Rica. The only people who understand my perspective are other loners that have first-hand experiences of the crap I have dealt with. Only loners that exist outside of the mainstream understand how hard it is to meet people in America now.

When I went to Los Angeles, I really thought I was going to meet down-to-earth, nice, friendly people but that was too much to expect. A guy cannot even go up and say hello to a woman at a coffee shop without her getting paranoid of his agenda. It doesn't matter if I am good-looking because they are not going to get past their preconceived notions anyway. No therapist can ever explain to me why the nicest people I met in LA were not even America but FOREIGNERS. Or why even the cats in LA were friendlier to me than the people. If my "negative energy" repels others then why are animals comfortable around me? Why is a lady from Iran so much more relaxed than two girls from Cali? They can never explain that.
It's because most Americans can't see the metaphorical forest through the trees. They think everything is great and nice even when things and even their own lives are lousy and miserable because they love America and everything American. The reason why good looking guys are not getting dates is similar to why many men can't get jobs and employed men in America is at it's lowest point in many decades.

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Re: Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by jamesbond » October 2nd, 2015, 4:41 pm

I know guys who are good looking and rich and they still can't get dates. The women in the US are WAY to picky about what guys they date. The reason for this is because women are getting hit on all the time in America. Also, if a woman is using an online dating site, she is getting hundreds of guys sending her messages every week.

The answer is to ignore American women and travel to foreign countries to meet women. Also, a guy could meet a foreign born woman living in the US and try to date her.
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Re: Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by Yohan » October 2nd, 2015, 5:14 pm

jamesbond wrote:I know guys who are good looking and rich and they still can't get dates. The women in the US are WAY to picky about what guys they date. ...
...
The answer is to ignore American women and travel to foreign countries to meet women...
Sad, but true.

Women in USA and elsewhere in typical pro-feminist countries are not only too choosy about men, they select men out of totally wrong criteria.

It is well known that criminals ALWAYS have a lot of girlfriends around them, even waiting for them to be released from jail. It's about a boy offering an exciting life-style.

Also braggarts find a lot of attention by girls, they need only to show up with an expensive car and talk a lot of BS - no girl will ever ask such a boy, how he managed to pay for this car, out of which money, and will hardly ask him about his unpaid loans and otherwise debits.

Any young man, including myself when I was in my twenties, who had only a small used car but was a hard saver, free of any debits, while working an ordinary job with a zero support from parents, will ever be considered as a possible choice for Western women, impossible to find even a woman willing to listen to you...

True - the answer is 'foreign women' and 'relocation'. I did that more than 30 years ago - it was a good decision.

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Re: Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by momopi » October 3rd, 2015, 1:08 am

A friend used to work for a medical instrument supply company. The boss had a collection of model looking girls working sales for him, visiting doctor's officers, taking the client out to dinner, etc.

The owner of the company would go to Vegas and play in the high roller area, where the casino would encourage cocktail waitresses to flirt and go out to dinner with him. He would hit on them and bring them back to LA, put them up in beach city apartments, buy (or lease) them nice cars, and have them work for him. It was obvious that he would arrive to work in the morning with one of the girls, or leave work for the day with another girl. The good looking girls do very well in sales and bring in more profits for him.

The guys paying big bucks on sugar daddy web sites... are amateurs compared to this guy.

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Re: Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by Ghost » October 3rd, 2015, 6:23 am

It used to be the 80/20 rule - 80% of the women only want 20% of the men. Perhaps things have gotten so bad now that it's 95/5. Women are only as loyal as their options, and even though things are in decline any hambeast can still get a stud. It's to the point where she can choose among tons of hot guys, allowing even more insane pickiness than before. (We're talking about getting sex, not commitment of course.) Social media and Tinder and others are most certainly enabling this.

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Re: Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by MarcosZeitola » October 3rd, 2015, 10:20 am

Temprano26 wrote:Usually middle-aged women tell me that I am good looking and then they wonder why I am frustrated about living in a world where nobody notices I exist. They live in this antiquated world where a guy being good-looking should have no problem getting dates. Usually these middle-aged women are therapists that I went to on someone's recommendation but found out they are feeding me the same BS that got stale a long time ago. Always they tell me I am not getting dates because I am pissed off. What I get pissed off about is that when I came back from Costa Rica I believed so much that people were friendly and accepting but what I got instead was people and their bad attitudes. I step off the plane in Dallas and automatically everyone was more uptight than in Costa Rica. The only people who understand my perspective are other loners that have first-hand experiences of the crap I have dealt with. Only loners that exist outside of the mainstream understand how hard it is to meet people in America now.

When I went to Los Angeles, I really thought I was going to meet down-to-earth, nice, friendly people but that was too much to expect. A guy cannot even go up and say hello to a woman at a coffee shop without her getting paranoid of his agenda. It doesn't matter if I am good-looking because they are not going to get past their preconceived notions anyway. No therapist can ever explain to me why the nicest people I met in LA were not even America but FOREIGNERS. Or why even the cats in LA were friendlier to me than the people. If my "negative energy" repels others then why are animals comfortable around me? Why is a lady from Iran so much more relaxed than two girls from Cali? They can never explain that.
The "being a loner" part probably is the key to understanding (and possibly solving) your problems. What is the reason you are a loner, and what is it that causes you to visit therapists? These are crucial questions to answer. A lot of handsome but damaged men, men with issues, still get women. They are the extrovered ones, most of the time. The ones that suffer in silence are at risk of being ignored, left out.

Regardless of your issues, however, you said you were happier in Costa Rica and people treated you better, so Costa Rica is where you should be and not LA.

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Re: Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by Adama » October 3rd, 2015, 11:52 am

Yohan wrote:
jamesbond wrote:I know guys who are good looking and rich and they still can't get dates. The women in the US are WAY to picky about what guys they date. ...
...
The answer is to ignore American women and travel to foreign countries to meet women...
Sad, but true.

Women in USA and elsewhere in typical pro-feminist countries are not only too choosy about men, they select men out of totally wrong criteria.

It is well known that criminals ALWAYS have a lot of girlfriends around them, even waiting for them to be released from jail. It's about a boy offering an exciting life-style.

Also braggarts find a lot of attention by girls, they need only to show up with an expensive car and talk a lot of BS - no girl will ever ask such a boy, how he managed to pay for this car, out of which money, and will hardly ask him about his unpaid loans and otherwise debits.

Any young man, including myself when I was in my twenties, who had only a small used car but was a hard saver, free of any debits, while working an ordinary job with a zero support from parents, will ever be considered as a possible choice for Western women, impossible to find even a woman willing to listen to you...

True - the answer is 'foreign women' and 'relocation'. I did that more than 30 years ago - it was a good decision.
I don't know about the men that you knew in Austria, but it is often the case that those unemployed bad boys are supported by some of their women. There are a few men out there who know how to get women to pay a little for them. That's why they're always broke. They have to skip between women, but they don't have money of their own, cause they are living off someone else (the women they get).

I figure these types of men were very successful with women from an early age, and possibly never had any focus on school or work. They always had plenty of women, no time to pay attention to school, and no need to use money to lure women. When they get old enough, they commit crime to get money. They've always been successful with women. Being a criminal doesnt hurt them at all. And they probably have family and friends who look out for them. These are the kind of men who will have three kids by three women, have multiple DUIs, get into fights in bars, have tattoos sleeves, but he does have access to tons of women, and sometimes some manual labor or perhaps petty crime.
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Re: Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by Teal Lantern » October 3rd, 2015, 5:12 pm

Temprano26 wrote:Usually middle-aged women tell me that I am good looking ...
Temprano26 wrote: Usually these middle-aged women are therapists that I went to on someone's recommendation ...
So ... keeping you coming around boosts their income, then?
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Re: Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by Temprano26 » October 4th, 2015, 3:13 am

Being a loner is often because other people in my life are busy. At a certain point I had to realize only I can create my own amusements hence writing in a journal often. So often I choose to go out even when nobody else joins me and my experience has been the same as Winston and others. And I don't go to therapists anymore. I made basketball an obsession as my own therapy.

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Re: Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by Adama » October 4th, 2015, 6:56 am

If you are really good looking, talking 10++, then the reason you are alone is because people are afraid of you (your looks). If you are not a 10++, then maybe you just need to make new friends.
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Re: Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by BlackKnight » October 4th, 2015, 11:54 am

jamesbond wrote:I know guys who are good looking and rich and they still can't get dates. The women in the US are WAY to picky about what guys they date. The reason for this is because women are getting hit on all the time in America. Also, if a woman is using an online dating site, she is getting hundreds of guys sending her messages every week.

The answer is to ignore American women and travel to foreign countries to meet women. Also, a guy could meet a foreign born woman living in the US and try to date her.

Nonsense.

http://www.vice.com/read/youre-single-b ... gh-men-253

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Re: Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by BlackKnight » October 4th, 2015, 12:03 pm

Teal Lantern wrote:
Temprano26 wrote:Usually middle-aged women tell me that I am good looking ...
Temprano26 wrote: Usually these middle-aged women are therapists that I went to on someone's recommendation ...
So ... keeping you coming around boosts their income, then?

Aha, you got that too huh? This thread is probably satire base on how stupid the poster are here. A therapist SAYING you're good looking is like your MOM saying you're good looking i.e. it's complete bullshit :lol:

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Re: Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by WorldTraveler » October 5th, 2015, 7:40 pm

Temprano26 wrote:Usually middle-aged women tell me that I am good looking and then they wonder why I am frustrated about living in a world where nobody notices I exist. They live in this antiquated world where a guy being good-looking should have no problem getting dates. Usually these middle-aged women are therapists that I went to on someone's recommendation but found out they are feeding me the same BS that got stale a long time ago. Always they tell me I am not getting dates because I am pissed off. What I get pissed off about is that when I came back from Costa Rica I believed so much that people were friendly and accepting but what I got instead was people and their bad attitudes. I step off the plane in Dallas and automatically everyone was more uptight than in Costa Rica. The only people who understand my perspective are other loners that have first-hand experiences of the crap I have dealt with. Only loners that exist outside of the mainstream understand how hard it is to meet people in America now.

When I went to Los Angeles, I really thought I was going to meet down-to-earth, nice, friendly people but that was too much to expect. A guy cannot even go up and say hello to a woman at a coffee shop without her getting paranoid of his agenda. It doesn't matter if I am good-looking because they are not going to get past their preconceived notions anyway. No therapist can ever explain to me why the nicest people I met in LA were not even America but FOREIGNERS. Or why even the cats in LA were friendlier to me than the people. If my "negative energy" repels others then why are animals comfortable around me? Why is a lady from Iran so much more relaxed than two girls from Cali? They can never explain that.
Everything you said I can relate to. The simple answer is WOMEN DON'T NEED MEN anymore. They have been brainwashed that a “career” is a more noble cause than being a mother or dependent on a man. The ones that do like babies or men can just get knocked up by loser men and the government will take care of them or they’ll just live with her parents. Good looking men with high paying jobs, the traditional men that were successful in America a generation ago, are now obsolete!

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Re: Why are good looking guys not getting dates?

Post by fdiv » May 25th, 2018, 12:18 pm

momopi wrote:
October 3rd, 2015, 1:08 am
A friend used to work for a medical instrument supply company. The boss had a collection of model looking girls working sales for him, visiting doctor's officers, taking the client out to dinner, etc.

The owner of the company would go to Vegas and play in the high roller area, where the casino would encourage cocktail waitresses to flirt and go out to dinner with him. He would hit on them and bring them back to LA, put them up in beach city apartments, buy (or lease) them nice cars, and have them work for him. It was obvious that he would arrive to work in the morning with one of the girls, or leave work for the day with another girl. The good looking girls do very well in sales and bring in more profits for him.

The guys paying big bucks on sugar daddy web sites... are amateurs compared to this guy.
That guy you describe is the REAL amateur. By now I'm sure several of those girls have sued him for sexual harrasment, meanwhile escalating the claims to sexual assault and even rape. If this happened to hugely wealthy and famous celebrities like Harvey Weinstein, Morgan Freeman and Bill Cosby, your friend is easy work for such women. His entire fortune and freedom gone in an instant by some collaborative false accusations!
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