I think that Anglo women are really too shallow to hold viable conversations to begin with, so they expect you to take the initiative on just about everything. They are either too shallow, lazy or arrogant to make a relationship (as opposed to de-facto servitude) work with a man.Adama wrote:You know, from my old conversations with women from the internet years ago, I learned this. Those women often expect you to do all the talking (the reverse of nature). They will sit there and be quiet, and if you cant fill up the conversation with something that pleases her, then you are the quiet one, but she won't bother to try to have a conversation with you at all. Sometimes you need something to *bounce off of* and many women won't provide that initially cause they are too busy sitting in judgment.jamesbond wrote:It's funny, if your a quiet person people might say things like, "he's a nice guy but he's quiet" or "he's kind of a quiet person" (likes it's a bad thing to be a quiet person).Adama wrote:I'm a quiet guy as well. Americans of all ages, even the elderly, find this disturbing. They will tell you so. If you are quiet, they assume you are thinking sinister things, that you are some kind of psycho. This is something I dont understand at all, but that is what they say (and I believe them, cause, as you say, they have diarrhea of the mouth).
On the other hand, if someone is outgoing people might say, "he's a nice outgoing guy" (like being outgoing is better than being quiet).
I have never understood how being a person who is on the quiet side is considered a bad thing and being outgoing and talkative is considered a good thing. I guess this is another interesting social phenomena here in the US.
It does make you wonder what they can do...
