ijohn wrote:There is a nice scene in the movie Bucket List.
Two old guys end up sharing a room in a hospital getting treatment for cancer.
One of them is a very rich man who has married and divorced four times.
The point as the movie suggests is that 'true love' , where you and your partner have deep feelings these last well into your old age might actually be a very rare human experience.
So then why base your life, your happiness, or even your identity on having it as some men do. It doesn't make sense. Would you base your identity on something else as rare, like say I will be fulfilled only if I become like Kareem Abdul Jabbar? No, of course not, you would consider it silly.
Those two guys were Americans. No wonder! Did they learn French and try and find love in France or even in Quebec? Did they learn Spanish and try to serenade a beautiful Mexican girl in a small town? Did they learn Tagalog and try to court a beautiful Filipina the old fashioned way with a
harana Did they know what a
harana is? Did they go to Russia and write a poem to a girl in Siberia whose heart yearns to find true love and who is just as willing to give it?
In the modern Anglo Saxon cultures, true love is pretty hard to find especially in this day and age. However, in many more romantic lands it does exist, and I would say that some 20-30% of people do find it. Italy, Spain, France, Russia, etc. There, it is alive and well. My parents had true love and so did my grandparents. Things were interrupted by wars and revolutions and diseases and all. It did not last because they chose for it not to last. Things just went bad because of circumstances. But still looking at my mom and dad, they had a deep romantic, totally true love that lasted for close to 60 years. They sang songs together, wrote poetry to each other, painted together, traveled together. I was the product of that true love and I do believe in it. It is out there. Just do not look for it on London subways where zombified people do not even look at each other, in New York City- a similar situation, or in a Tokyo corporation where robotic so called humans seem to have no feelings whatsoever. Extremely rare there. Like in virtually non existent.
I have experienced it, it is just that it did not last because very cruel circumstances stood against me. But no evil lasts a hundred years, one day it will come and stay.
While one should not hope to build a life upon true love, it should be one of the several basic components of a happy life. A strong and necessary slice in a pie of life to make it complete.
Here is a song by Tina Karol.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0yAoqviGQbk
and a translation:
What I looked for I have found, so I feel joy and gladness
My soul is blooming just like orchards in the spring
His eyes are shining brighter than the Sun
They are so green, I feel I am drowning in them
Refrain: I love him, such simple words and totally not new
And still I will repeat them again,
I love him, just like that first feeling, the one with a touch of sadness
And I will repeat again: I love him!
All my words to you are like a caressing sea
Every whisper of mine is like a warm surf
I am hugging you with the tenderness of a little moth
A song in my soul, how glad I am!
She just recently got married and this was a song to her husband. Now, if there is no true love, how could anyone write this?