Having Common Interests = Zero Value to AW

[Winston]

Last night I talked to Monkro for a long time. He is the guy who rented Rock's room in Taiwan that Rock told you about.

He told me something interesting. He said that in his experience, when you have obscure common interests with foreign girls, it usually creates attract and romantic interest and leads to dating. It bonds you and her. Especially if the common interest is obscure and uncommon.

But with American women, having common interests seems to have no value. They don't care. It creates no attraction at all, even if the common interest is something obscure or unusual. I've noticed this as well. The best it might do is get you "friend-zoned". But it doesn't lead to any romantic interest at all, at least not by itself. With AW, it's all about whether you are her type physically and in a lot of other ways too. So sad huh?

Why do you think that is? Any of you notice this too? Why are AW so damn hard to connect with or get romantic with?

[Bane]

LMS, baby! (Looks. Money, Status, in that order) That's all American women care about. If you don't have those things, you're SOL. Why do we have to keep bringing this up? Nothing's changed. Stick to foreign women, or learn to cope with living alone. Western "women" just ain't worth it.

[Banano]

LMS, baby! (Looks. Money, Status, in that order) That's all American women care about. If you don't have those things, you're SOL. Why do we have to keep bringing this up? Nothing's changed. Stick to foreign women, or learn to cope with living alone. Western "women" just ain't worth it.

Is money and status the same thing? If you have status you gotta have money and vice versa?

Looks trump money/status when it comes to picking up in clubs and bars. Money will buy you hi class hooker but wont make them wet, looks will.
As you get older its hard to keep you looks and that is where money comes handy

[Hero]

Definitely noticed it. I meet all kinds of women who share my interests of traveling, running, biking, ballroom dance, but it doesn't matter. They just want a dumb guy with a nice ass.

[C.J.]

He told me something interesting. He said that in his experience, when you have obscure common interests with foreign girls, it usually creates attract and romantic interest and leads to dating. It bonds you and her. Especially if the common interest is obscure and uncommon.

Winston, let me ask... why does that matter, if foreign women aren't as western as AW?

It just seems to me, that foreign women who aren't completely westernized, don't put much thought into those kinds of things. Or, much of anything for that matter.

[Bane]

LMS, baby! (Looks. Money, Status, in that order) That's all American women care about. If you don't have those things, you're SOL. Why do we have to keep bringing this up? Nothing's changed. Stick to foreign women, or learn to cope with living alone. Western "women" just ain't worth it.

Is money and status the same thing?

Not necessarily. Certain white trash "bad boys" enjoy a high level of status with women, despite not having much financial capital. If the "bad boy" happens to be good looking, all the better for him.

Likewise, a man can make a lot of money at his job, but because he has "geeky" interests or mannerisms, or perhaps because he is awkward around the opposite sex, his status and value will be lowered because most women view him as a nerd. Bill Gates comes to mind in this example, despite being married. I highly doubt he was a "ladies man" before getting hitched, and I certainly haven't heard anything about women throwing themselves at him after marriage, or that Bill is a philanderer himself in any way.

But looks is definitely #1. If you have good looks, you can nullify a lack of money and status for most women's tastes. However, the opposite will be harder to pull off.

I just remember the ABC (or CBS?) studies done where the men lined up in front of a woman and the woman had to choose the one who she liked the most and wanted to get to know. They always went for the good looking one, despite the fact that the ugly guys were high earning doctors, lawyers, etc. I even remember one woman saying that the only way she would go with one of the ugly guys was if the good looking one turned out to be a rapist or other kind of sexual abuser.

[C.J.]

Very true. I remember one of my sister's friends being with this one guy. They've been together for 12 years. The guy is in average shape, and is an IT specialist. He's also good at fixing stuff around the house. He's no James Bond though, as his face is.... well....butter.

However, they've had multiple(6), wonderful kids and don't seem in danger of losing out financially and they don't fight a lot. The woman's near skin and bones though, with good hair. She's not bad looking at all, but too skinny for my taste. They're both white westerners.

So it may be possible, I think there may be a chance for guys here in the US to find decent partners, but that's really up to the person and pickings are slim, so you may have to impress and do your thing when you get the first chance to. It's more of a "spoiled" society than a "rebellious" one IMO.

[bladed11]

American women are the lower intelligence of the female species. I don't care what degrees they attained they are mostly skanks that slept their way through college. Nothing will change them except we stop their vicious cycle of brainwashing young girls.

[Halwick]

From what I've seen and experienced, whether the woman is AW or foreign, women will feign "common interest" just to bait the man into a relationship.

I've heard so many complaints from my married friends about how the wife "changed" and no longer enjoys the "common interests" after they married.

[Cornfed]

Western females have been stripped to their inner survival core, to the point where the only things they respect in a man are power, social status and reproductive advantage. Hence common interests generally don't matter. The only exception would be if you were some kind of authority in their field of interest, as this would confer social status.

[OTB]

Why do you think that is? Any of you notice this too? Why are AW so damn hard to connect with or get romantic with?

Like Bane said, it's about money and status. Looks, not so much. I see plenty of average looking guys with beautiful girlfriends/wives. They say they want to be with a man who has common interests but at the end of the day it's all about his bank account and status. People can say well there are women out there that are not concerned with the size of man's bank account or his status. Yes, that may be true. But in GENERAL most women want a man with money and power. Or I should say a man who makes more money than them.

While we're trying to connect with them based on common interests to possibly establish a relationship, in the back of their minds they want a man who can provide because women want security.

Besides that most AW are just not very intellectual. I know it's frustrating Winston. I say the same thing, why are they so difficult to connect with? It's seems like a lot of them connect better with men who have a mediocre way of thinking. So what does that tell you?

[Winston]

When American girls are young, like in their teens and 20's, they care most about looks, popularity and "coolness", not so much about money. But when they get older, like in their 30's, they care more about financial security of their man.

Either way, common interests don't create attraction with AW, unless the woman is older and New Ageish and seeking a "soulmate connection", then maybe it might matter, but women like that usually are middle age, not youthful looking anymore.

Where are the flirtatious easy to pick up AW that you see in the movies, such as in "American Pie"? lol

[jamesbond]

Where are the flirtatious easy to pick up AW that you see in the movies, such as in "American Pie"? lol

Those women don't exist in the USA, they are only "portrayed" that way in American movies and TV shows.

I wish the friendly, easy to meet and easy to date and sleep with women you see in American TV shows and movies really did exist in real life. Unfortunately they only exist in Hollywood movies and not in real life!

[loops77]

Why do you think that is? Any of you notice this too? Why are AW so damn hard to connect with or get romantic with?

Like Bane said, it's about money and status. Looks, not so much. I see plenty of average looking guys with beautiful girlfriends/wives. They say they want to be with a man who has common interests but at the end of the day it's all about his bank account and status. People can say well there are women out there that are not concerned with the size of man's bank account or his status. Yes, that may be true. But in GENERAL most women want a man with money and power. Or I should say a man who makes more money than them.

While we're trying to connect with them based on common interests to possibly establish a relationship, in the back of their minds they want a man who can provide because women want security.

Besides that most AW are just not very intellectual. I know it's frustrating Winston. I say the same thing, why are they so difficult to connect with? It's seems like a lot of them connect better with men who have a mediocre way of thinking. So what does that tell you?

Money is important. No woman wants a broke guy. We are hard wired to seek out a mate that can provide to us. Of course, since we women work now, we can deal with having a spouse that brings in equal income if we are working as well. I read status all of the time. What does that mean? They have to be a rock star or something? It is appealing, but me and my friends are grounded in reality. I am , however, a Nigerian-American woman so maybe that is the difference.

[loops77]

Also, common interests and mindsets are important. But remember guys, we are looking for practicality first and our minimums.

Men look for the good looking submissive woman that is a virgin or not a whore at the least.

We women look for men that have a solid career/income that we are attracted to. They have to look good. During the dating process, if we see that we cant'bond through common interests or have a different outlook on life...or are all around jerks....we won't stick around.

The problem with Americans is that there is a lack of culture. So, you have to go for the bright girls that are educated, know that there is a world outside of good US of A and come from established families.