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Andy,

I applaud your honesty in this well written piece. Being a White, American woman myself, I am at a loss for female friends or family members who I can relate to.

With that said. Don't you think there is, maybe, a bigger issue going in in the US? Aren't we all becoming morally bankrupt a**holes? I say this to equally hold American men responsible for their actions as well. I think both genders are raised with dysfunction in this culture and play out a sick back and forth with each other which only exacerbates these horrible behaviors.

I will be 33 in a few months. Since turning 30, I have become growingly disillusioned with men my age. I find that, rather than a true partner, they want someone who will:

Be educated with a successful career which took a great deal of time and money to achieve, YET be perfectly happy and graceful about dropping it all mid flight to have and care for babies. Be all demure and apple pie, dress and act like Donna Reed to meet his family, YET have a huge wardrobe of lingerie and slutty club clothing to promenade around the bedroom with or out for a night. Be spiritually beautiful and profound (which takes time and dedication to cultivate), not be too materialistic or grabby, YET frequently don a full face of makeup complete with full runway trendiness. Have a mind of her own, sense of conviction, opinions on politics, world events, social concerns and how her martini is made, YET not challenge him TOO much, lest he feel emasculated. Be happy as a home maker and grateful he makes enough for her to stay home, but somehow keep up with all these physical and personal expectations with someone else in charge of the purse strings. Don't like it? Then she has to go back to work, spend her own money again since she couldn't stroke his ego long and consistently enough to get him to pay for her gym membership...which she needs to keep her figure after having kids, and keep his interest. And oh, by the way, even though shes working again, the brunt of raising the children will still be on her.....

I could go on, but you get the point. This is what I have encountered in my personal dating adventures and what I see many female friends going through. I don't know, maybe I will move to another country too. Glad you have found somewhere that works for you.

AprilRose,
Yes, there are bigger problems. If you read my home page at HappierAbroad.com, you'd see that. America is poisoned in all categories - food, relationships, personality, soul, body, etc. Both men and women are f***ed up. It's been like this since the late 1980's, when trash culture skyrocketed in America, and values plummeted. Since then, people have become more and more soulless every year.

However, you can't deny that it is FAR FAR easier for you to approach and start a conversation with a guy in America than for you to approach and start a conversation with a white American girl. American girls are like closed shells in their own space. They are the least easy to talk to, even to other women. You can't deny that. Guys in America are far easier to talk to. No one can deny that.

Thus, men and women are not the same in America. Men at least are more friendly than women, even though both genders are f***ed up.

Those standards you listed seem f***ed up. I don't know what kind of guy you date that demands all that. No guy I know would demand all those things. Those are unrealistic. You must be dating alpha males or something. Guys in general are not that picky. Why don't you date some nice guys who are kind and caring for once? They will not have such insane standards. But you probably ignore such nice guys huh? And when they ask you out, you tell them you have a boyfriend right? I've never understood how all American girls I meet could all already have boyfriends. How are you supposed to date in America if every girl is taken?

Btw, you are invited to join our Ladies Forum at:
http://www.happierabroad.com/ladiesforum/index.php

Thanks,
Winston

For example, their abuse of the word "what" by responding to questions in a loud and childish manner. "Waaat?!"

This pathetic excuse for art.... It appears they want to be as baddass as the badasses they try to attract or they just want to get noticed. Regardless of their socioeconomic class, they just look trashy with no class when they get a tattoo.

bladed11 wrote:They are proud of this attitude and ungrateful and no compassion unfeminin carnal beast like. Souls rotten to the core. Only nice if it's their job to be rest of the time self serving. Men in America are the same because they don't have a real woman to put them in moral check. They are walking credit cards and can be replaced and women let them know how inferior the male is to them. Thing is they are self righteous about it. Evil is good good is evil.

Blanche BlanchOctober 1, 2014 at 9:03 PM
Exactly. Most of the guys here in this site are f***ed up losers who blame women for not getting laid. I've looked into the profiles of women they feature here and all I could say is that they are SLUTS, cheap girls who bang jerk expats for $$. Perhaps worse than American women that this loser named Winston so horribly described in a very biased way. I'm an Asian girl btw and I disagree with most that is posted on this site. They have TOTALLY unrealistic expectations about what Asian women are like. True enough, we may be more feminine and demure than most American women but I don't think that should be used to slut-shame women of other races. This site is sexist and racist at best. I have such pity for the chaps who believe things Winston posts on this god-forsaken site.

loops77 wrote:She made very valid points, Winston. You gave a very dubious response to a refreshingly honest and objective perspective. To say that those points don't matter because the white American woman you approach are not interested in you is laughable. That list can easily be titled "15 Things I've Noticed About Americans Period". And I do feel sorry for that European woman that married an American man and finds that he is everything on that list. I wouldn't dare marry an American man either because Americans in general are vapid, soulless, arrogant people. The quality of posters on this forum proves that...they are just the other side of the coin.