eurobrat wrote:I agree, had Public Duende just set expectations correctly and told the truth about Italy I probably wouldn't have been so damaged by this whole experience. Instead he did the opposite and made it out to be the magical candy land it isn't, where everyone is so nice to each other, sociable and fun and the food is magnificent. Instead I found out Italy is not a sociable place and definitely not for a foreigner without deep connections. The food was so-so and I don't get those who hype it up so much. Yea sure it was nice being surrounded by cheap pizzeria's all the time, but the pizza which mostly isn't even made by real italians anymore because Turkish and Egyptians stole the jobs and the Italians are too lazy and spoiled to even work in a pizzeria. I have no respect for most of the younger generation in Italy.Repatriate wrote:I agree there's probably an underlying psychological or emotional reason for his vitriol against Italy. I'm guessing a lot of it stems from serious disappointment and the fact that he expected a deeper connection because it's his ancestral homeland. It kind of reminds me of how Winston goes nuclear everytime you bring up Taiwan. However, Eurobrat's criticism has been very measured.
He's provided plenty of logical and concise points on why Italy is not a good place to live. He doesn't come across as raving or irrational in his perspective. Also, a lot of the points he brings up are points i've heard from an Italian friend of mine who doesn't read forums at all. That's a pretty big convergence of opinion i'd say..too big to be a coincidence.
From an economic standpoint if you compare Italy and Germany side by side it's pretty obvious Germany wins overall though. It's not even a contest really. The german unemployment level is also considered one of the biggest turnaround stories in the E.U. I've also heard of Berlin as being an underrated place outside of these forums as well.
Also given that I had been to Italy a dozen times in the last 10 years and seen it get worse in that time, perhaps I should have known not to go. Instead I was stubborn and thought I could make it work. I can tell you this, I will never live in a place with a bad economy ever again because it does effect everyones mood and outlook on life and eventually yours too when surrounded by it.
Outside of being a tourist and enjoying cheap pizza in Italy for a few days and the historical sites, Italy and Italians have nothing to offer anyone when it comes to expatriating and finding a new home and trying to make yourself a life there.
Berlin is very underrated when it comes to side to side comparison of capital cities in Europe you have the following based on my opinion.
- London: Expensive, liberal anglo culture, too many immigrants and too touristy.
- Paris: Expensive, dirty, shit hole and has the rudest people in all of Europe. One of my most hated cities in Europe.
- Rome: Dirty, streets are crumbling and buildings falling apart, too many 3rd world immigrants, shitty people and too chaotic.
- Brussels: Boring, weird french culture mixed in with some flemish, good food.
- Zurich: Boring, stale, way too expensive, people are robotic and too quiet.
- Madrid: I haven't been but I have been to Barcelona and found it kind of chaotic and touristy.
- Vienna: Clean and quiet, people are a bit standoffish but the city has middle of the road pricing with good quality.
- Amsterdam: Fun but expensive, too many tourists in the high season, dutch people are nice and welcoming.
- Prague: One of my favorite cities in Europe, a little touristy but cheap outside the center, friendly people, great culture and rich history.
- Berlin: Friendly people, quiet and clean, not super touristy, prices are cheap for German quality, great international selection of food, lots to do.
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I am no kind of expert on Italy, but having lived in three countries in Latin America and two in Asia, I have learned a bit about the hazards of expatriation. I have seen men who seemed to be following what I think sage advice, who never the less, had bad experiences. Giving advice is like lending clothing- it does not always fit.
What mystical power did Public have to prevent you from leaving Italy after a month or two, with the conclusion that Italy was just not for you? Some men, buy the nature and makeup, are incompatible with another man's well intended advice. Perhaps you should realize this. Advice and experience are both dominated by individual taste, character and background.
You make it sound as if Public had some spiteful agenda. Based on what I have read of his travels and his conversations about the Philippines, which I know very well, he comes across as a man with a rather generous heart and a good traveler. He comes across as a man who does not assume too much, who is capable of adjusting his expectations and behavior to local conditions, and hence improve his results.
Yes, there are hazards in giving advice as well as taking it. You did continue in Italy though it should have been obvious in a relatively short period of time that it was not working out for you.
You come across as churlish and ungrateful to a man who made good faith efforts to be of help and gave of his own time.
I have been through quite a few countries- more than most, and some I liked a blot better than others, yet I have yet to find someplace where I could not find a niche to make my own. On quite a few occasions I found quite attractive girls inhabiting the same niche in fact.
Why would you let Public or anyone else own your experience? That is what you are doing when you blame him for his "bad" advice. Whether intended or not, you come across as a spoiled entitled young American (complete with the slights about Public's "old age") rather than someone who is looking to craft and own their own experiences and adjust to local conditions, or not (As in just leaving).
You could have had a bad experience in Italy, left much earlier if it was beyond hope, found nirvana in Berlin, and in the end ended up at some point having a pint with Public in London.
I do not know if you will come to see this, or just rage against that em-efer in London that screwed you over. I mean really, aren't you better than that?