90-Day Fiance--Where do they get these women?
Posted: June 19th, 2023, 5:09 pm
I'm watching 90-Day Fiancee as something that requires little attention while working on some tables for my career here. It's background noise. I've seen them advertising on this forum looking for men to film.
So basically this season has a couple above-average to hot looking women who seem rather demanding matched up with a nice guy in the US. I saw some previous shows where they did have some women seemed really sweet. But as the show is on for longer, they probably get more applications, so I would guess they look for moody or demanding women to make the show more interesting.
There is this kind of pretty mid-30's divorced women who is matched up with this accommodating guy. She's moody a lot. Then there is a very demanding go-go dancer. And of course, they have a couple of older women bringing young men over to the US. There was also a Filipina single mother, who has bi tendencies and wants to share a girlfriend with her future husband, or maybe just have one on the side, later.
Maybe the guys just go for the first above average or hot woman who is interested, latch on for dear life, and don't consider whether the girl is suitable beyond her looks. It seems like the Russian girl and Ukranian tend to be the type who want what they want and aren't afraid to demand it, and then put pressure on their man.
If you are looking for a spouse, you want someone who is going to be accommodating, flexible, knows her places, defers to his parents at least to some extent. I wonder if a lot of Russian and Ukranian girls have those characteristics, but they just pick the moody and sassy ones to create drama. One of the demanding girls is a go-go dancer who went to live with a guy who lives on a farm with his parents.
Sometimes my wife wants what she wants, but she also has a sense of knowing her place, too. She considers it her role to serve my parents. If they come over, she serves a feast. She tries to cook something they like. For my dad, it might be crawfish boil or some kind of Asian delicacy. My mom loves Thai Tom Yom soup, or the version that goes by that name in Indonesia.
If you do manage to meet a girl online, her personality and character are actually more important than her looks. Some measure of looks might be 'table stakes' to play the game, that bare minimum required. But you have to be picky beyond that.
Is she selfish? Will she give up what she wants to make someone else comfortable? Does she care what you want? Does she care what others want? Does she respect parents? Does she support you respecting your parents? If you have kids, does she have a strong sense of responsibility and an urge to care for your child? Can she get along with other people? I she demanding? Is she frugal? Does she care enough about you to be concerned that you are expending your resources? Is she wise and smart enough to figure out if you spend a lot of money on stupid junk for her, that detracts from important stuff you need after marriage? You might not see all this in on-one-chats, but some women can be demanding even in that environment.
One of the advantages of marrying someone overseas is you could find a girl from a culture who thinks of the wife's role as serving her husbands, supporting his aims and objectives.
On the show, I wish they'd make an attempt to provide some contrast-- show a man who wisely chose a respectful, deferential, kind, frugal woman contrasted with a sassy selfish woman whose looks and maybe a bit of charm were all she had going for her.
So basically this season has a couple above-average to hot looking women who seem rather demanding matched up with a nice guy in the US. I saw some previous shows where they did have some women seemed really sweet. But as the show is on for longer, they probably get more applications, so I would guess they look for moody or demanding women to make the show more interesting.
There is this kind of pretty mid-30's divorced women who is matched up with this accommodating guy. She's moody a lot. Then there is a very demanding go-go dancer. And of course, they have a couple of older women bringing young men over to the US. There was also a Filipina single mother, who has bi tendencies and wants to share a girlfriend with her future husband, or maybe just have one on the side, later.
Maybe the guys just go for the first above average or hot woman who is interested, latch on for dear life, and don't consider whether the girl is suitable beyond her looks. It seems like the Russian girl and Ukranian tend to be the type who want what they want and aren't afraid to demand it, and then put pressure on their man.
If you are looking for a spouse, you want someone who is going to be accommodating, flexible, knows her places, defers to his parents at least to some extent. I wonder if a lot of Russian and Ukranian girls have those characteristics, but they just pick the moody and sassy ones to create drama. One of the demanding girls is a go-go dancer who went to live with a guy who lives on a farm with his parents.
Sometimes my wife wants what she wants, but she also has a sense of knowing her place, too. She considers it her role to serve my parents. If they come over, she serves a feast. She tries to cook something they like. For my dad, it might be crawfish boil or some kind of Asian delicacy. My mom loves Thai Tom Yom soup, or the version that goes by that name in Indonesia.
If you do manage to meet a girl online, her personality and character are actually more important than her looks. Some measure of looks might be 'table stakes' to play the game, that bare minimum required. But you have to be picky beyond that.
Is she selfish? Will she give up what she wants to make someone else comfortable? Does she care what you want? Does she care what others want? Does she respect parents? Does she support you respecting your parents? If you have kids, does she have a strong sense of responsibility and an urge to care for your child? Can she get along with other people? I she demanding? Is she frugal? Does she care enough about you to be concerned that you are expending your resources? Is she wise and smart enough to figure out if you spend a lot of money on stupid junk for her, that detracts from important stuff you need after marriage? You might not see all this in on-one-chats, but some women can be demanding even in that environment.
One of the advantages of marrying someone overseas is you could find a girl from a culture who thinks of the wife's role as serving her husbands, supporting his aims and objectives.
On the show, I wish they'd make an attempt to provide some contrast-- show a man who wisely chose a respectful, deferential, kind, frugal woman contrasted with a sassy selfish woman whose looks and maybe a bit of charm were all she had going for her.