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Discussion for marriage-minded members seeking foreign brides for marriage and serious long-term relationships.
I just find it to be strange that American women only become concerned, with men they deem undesirable, Once these men get involved with a woman from another Country. They didn't care when you were by yourself, nobody had anything to say, but now they want to make you the center if attention. I think deep down these American chicks know that their about to let another responsible guy slip away and no longer will he be subject to lonliness and their satifaction of punishment for being a responsible male. BASICALLY. Captain-Save-Hoe will not be there to catch them once their flung from all the irresponsible, "sheeps in wolves clothing" , unmotivated, "notches under the belt", males. In which she's given her best and most precious years too, when she was at her peak in physicalities. He the irresponsible male did not have to wife her, but enjoyed all the perks and in some cases reproduced with her, while your being looked upon as a meal ticket, the score, the solution, but only temporarily as these women will deprive you of sex and run back and sleep with the very man/men that left them with kids and to fend for themselves. I digress!
A WOMAN'S THOUGHTS DO NOT DEFINE A MAN; NOR DO HER EXPECTATIONS DICTATE HIS LIMITATIONS!
Oh, they notice & care if you're alone.
Being alone means you'll be available when they get ready to use you.
Bad Boy Plays & Lays. Good Boy Pays & Prays.
The plan is/was to "save" you for later.
They're mad you didn't sit there like Good Little Poindexter, waiting on Girl Next Door to finish "having her fun" and "making her mistakes".
That worked for a generation or two because of the captive audience, but with web & travel, even the squares are adapting -- and taking all that money they didn't spend on dates with them.
The other woman on your arm is proof you've been vetted and deemed worthy.
Double-plus-hate points if you and that other woman are on opposite sides of the paper bag test.
As they say, "if looks could kill".
Ah, how sweet, the wails of "Them bitchez be stealin' all our good menz!"
Even in non-dating situations, snobby women will do a 180, if a woman of higher pack status comes along and is pleasant towards you.
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"Even an American judge is unlikely to award child support for imputed children." - FredOnEverything
Have anyone considered this to be an consequence of a warped superiority complex of western men and culture in general?........I dated a AWW in Nola last year and though I must say she was really incredible in bed, I could also sense a mile away that she didn't have any problems lying or hiding her hypergamous drive. She was without doubt very opportunistic and arrogant too!......
Steve N made some really good points.
Another problem is the lack of honor and honesty as values in our society. A couple of hundred years ago, individual honor was worth something. I recall a quote from a Civil War soldier who was concerned when running from a barrage of fire as they retreated that he would get shot in the back and die from so shameful a wound. A lot of modern Americans don't care if they die showing a lack of courage because they'd be dead when anyone else found out. Being called a coward used to be one of the worst of insults, an insult to a man's honor.
Throughout the centuries, if a man gave an oath and broke it, that was a serious matter. It was for women, too. I think this is a case where women follow men in our culture. If men don't value their word of honor, women have less of a reason to honor their own.
Way back when, when a couple pledged 'till death do us part', that was taken seriously. It was a matter of personal honor to keep their word.
I read some posts on another forum. One man said something about a wife promising her husband x times a week or every night or whatever. A middle-aged woman said, you don't actually expect her to keep that after she is married, do you? I was scratching my head at that one. It's wrong for men to lie to young women to get them into bed, but not wrong for a woman to lie to her husband to get him to marry her?
I can find the source in the OP, but the source that source cites is no longer available online.
Does anyone have government statistics, from the CDC or other sources, on the divorce rates for Americans married to foreigners? It would be nice if it were broken down by country.
I saw some episodes of 90-Day fiancé. Relatives and friends of those marrying Filippinas and Latinas and other nationalities often say they think the person is out for a greencard. But I suspect the chances of these foreigners staying married are higher than marrying someone from the US. My guess is the odds are better if you go online and get to know Filippina or Columbian who wants to stay with you for life if you use some basic common sense (weeding out those who immediately ask for money) than if you married the average American woman you met at a night club.
In regards to older men leaving their wives for younger women, I do not see that as the norm. Until further notice, 70% of the divorces are still filed by women. I'm sure someone's going to try to explain that away, but that's quite a huge number to overcome with excuses.
Women say this a lot to deflect their power of choice. She who has the "gold" makes the rules. You are the banker in the dating market. What upper hand does a man have if 100% of the women he attempts to date turn him down? That's the scenario we've seen from many male posters on this forum. Show me where there power lies.
Let's be honest. The average woman can go into any bar in any city and is guaranteed to walk out with a man if she wanted. The average man cannot.
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From what I've read the 65 to 70% of no-fault divorces filed by women (I think that may have been a Virginia sample), tells who filed the paperwork. There are situations like, "Do you want to file the paperwork, or do you want me to. I'd better do it, because you might do it wrong'. And then there are situations like, "You slept with her! I'm filing for the divorce in the morning."
Then there is, "I love you but I'm not in love with you. I know you want to work it out, but I am still filing for divorce tomorrow." Or she doesn't tell him and just gives him the paperwork after moving out.
It shows that women handle this particular paperwork most of the time, not whose decision it was. I suspect it reflects on women choosing to divorcing men more... probably... but probably not all 65%. If she's doing the paperwork, she's going along with it, but only a certain percentage of those are going to be unilateral, against his will. So that is some number between 0 and 65% of divorces. We know it is not 0%.
Why are women doing this? Lots of reasons. One is because they can. Who thought it was a good idea to give a woman the legal right to divorce a man, especially without grounds? There is also a culture that doesn't make women (or men to some extent) for divorcing over not feeling in love or numerous other reasons. Being faithful and loyal is part of being loving. Our culture needs to emphasize those aspects of love instead of butterflies.
Foreign women like being women, whereas American women have been brainwashed to be perpetually unhappy, and they think being born a woman is a curse because men are "oppressing them". One set of women are happy being themselves. The other set are miserable because they've been brainwashed to believe that being a woman makes them both the victim of men and morally superior than men. How is it possible for someone to stay married to their enemy? When you think about it, this would be like a Jew marrying a Nationalist Socialist, or a black marrying a member of the KKK. This is simple incompatibility due to underlying ideology which is counterproductive to life itself.
Pick a woman who likes being a woman and who likes the feminine role. That way she won't be miserable. Choose women who know how to smile. Many American women do not smile unless they are laughing at someone or there is alcohol involved. Even when you meet them and sometimes even when they are flirting, many evil women will not smile. But you know if a woman will smile at you then you've already won half the battle.
Don't be upset that women want to join you when you're with another woman. See if you have one woman in subjection then that means you're one of the few men who is capable of actually being a man. That's what real women are searching for - a man, not the egalitarian wusses who don't realize they should be the man in the relationship. The right man will know what to do when multiple women are interested. Men who are clueless get frustrated when they receive blessings because those men have no clue what to do with women.
A good man is above pettiness. He is better than that.
That's because the woman is supposed to chase the man. The man shouldn't pursue women. His job is simply to see which women want him to open the door and then open the door. It's her choice if she wants to walk through. But begging a woman to enter in is submissive and unattractive. If you don't believe me, the extremes of chasing and pursuing are called desperation and stalking, neither of which are traits women find attractive in men. It's the woman's choice. Let her choose you. Then you can invite her over. Don't worry about the other men. If she's coming to you then she's coming to you.
A good man is above pettiness. He is better than that.
Exactly agree with your point that's because the woman is supposed to chase the man. but sometimes men do that. Nice writeup.