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Do some Filipino/as actually make fun of foreigners for being in the Philippines?
It's certainly something to think about.
This was the theory that a foreigner I met there gave me. I met this British guy living in my building a few years ago with a Filipina. He told me his story and it went from being initially HA to very depressing. He came there on holidays for the first time and was of course treated like a celebrity. He then decided to go back and ended going to school there and slept with hookers, but then gave up and settled with the Filipina I met.
He said he had been there for about 2 years and every year he hated the place more because almost everyone tried to scam him. He moved out of the place we were living at and ended up living with his girls parents and family but they drove him crazy with endless demands. The next time I saw him he was living in a place that was much worse than where I was living. I know because I had walked by it and went in out of curiosity. It was an epic dump for 5,000 PHP a month. It made the very humble 10,000 PHP place I was living in look pretty good lol.
We met again by chance at a burger place and he said he was then slowly losing his mind. He was convinced that Filipinos that smile at foreigners are actually making fun of them for being there. He says he was sure that Filipinos all knew that where he was from was a much better place and anyone that came to the Philippines was a total loser that couldn't cut it back home. When I asked why he was still there he said he had to finish his 4 year school before he could leave. When he first went there he was sick of the UK, but now dreamed of being back home where almost everything was better than the Philippines. I could certainly sympathize with him, but I think he made a lot of mistakes in his life. He said he even his GF's parents neighbours had tried to scam him and he gave up on hookers after a couple scammed him. They asked him to pay before the bang and then ran off. This was a tall, decent looking middle aged guy, so I don't know why he first resorted to hookers and then a below average pudgy girl.
Last year I ran into his GF, without actually knowing who she was at first lol. She called at me on the street and came over to talk to me with her co-workers. Luckily when she asked me about things I remembered who she was. She was now much fatter of course lol. I asked how her and her guy were and she said they were still living in the dumpy place and would probably go to the UK once his school was finished. I really hope he has left there by now because I could tell last time I saw him he was very upset and don't blame him.
I'm sure some Filipinos do make fun of foreigners for being there, but I think the ones that do don't know the reality of being born into a white western culture and all it's feminist problems. Filipinos living abroad hang around the other Pinoys/Pinays so probably aren't affected by the white western feminist nonsense. They take the Filipino culture with them abroad.
I'd be interested if any Pinoy/ay members on here have opinions on this.
I do get asked a lot in the Philippines why I went there, so I'm sure most there do have total ignorance about problems for guys in western countries.
Was he living in Angeles City? If so, I can understand why he was forever being scammed.
Not Angeles, I never said that and I've never been there. It was in Davao a few years ago. Scams happen anywhere there.
Who cares? Seriously why would you care if some filipinos have a low regard for you?
options in the US: maybe have a shot at a angry bluehaired landwhale and then, prison
options abroad: limitless
Knew of someone who lived in Davao (not Public Duende) and he didn't have a problem.
My guess is that your friend has lost the respect from the locals for fraternizing and throwing money at hookers. He's made a name for himself and this is probably why he's ended up with a below average looking pudgy Pinay who's willing to have any guy as a boyfriend.
If you experience different parts of the Philippines including a city like Angeles which is rife with hookers you should notice how you are observed by the locals. My ex was from Pampanga and lived in San Fernando which is located 12 miles south of Angeles and whenever I was in the area either in SF, or AC (mainly for family or travel reasons), the locals seemed stand-offish & distant compared to other places in the country. Why was this? Did they automatically think I was here because of the hookers?
My mother-in-law once met the husband of one of the villagers, who was a very unattractive white male. She told us: "The first time I visited their house and saw her husband, I literally thought that man had Down's Syndrome". That description always struck with me haha... and it's true, he is 5'6", skinny-fat with bulging eyes, crooked teeth and the appearance, at first glance, of someone with a chromosomal impairment. People were very aware of his ugliness. But they would still call him guapo to his face, which was painful to see as I knew their true feelings. They were merciless in how they described him. They had a theory he had become sterile from catching too many STDs off hookers as he was unable for all the duration of his stay to impregnate his wife. My father-in-law pitied him and invited him once to their house, and we had a few beers. He was a friendly enough guy but very awkward to be around.
This man is not atypical, really. There's a lot of ugly men living in the Philippines, whether they are old or young. And if you think that just because your skin is white they fail to see your features, think again. They're brutal in their assessment of people.
Filipinos do make fun of foreigners who visit or live in PH. So does every other nationality. This is typical behavior for any nationality from what I've seen. Americans do it to foreigners too. People are inherently biased against foreigners. Most of the time this only takes the form of chattering and gossip and is harmless, except to your feelings.
That said, I do understand how it is more frustrating in PH. Given that Filipinos do speak (some) English, a foreigner isn't completely shut out of the loop and can more easily find out who is gossiping about him and what they are saying than he could if he was in most other countries. Filipinos are also generally low IQ, have low impulse control, and constantly give into their feelings moment to moment.
So while the awkward, old, fat white expats living in PH probably get the brunt of the gossip, all foreigners will be on the receiving end of it. You could be incredibly handsome, rich, and a productive member of your community or barangay, and the locals would still gossip about you and make fun of you.
And they do this to each other too, by the way.
It's best to have a thick skin about it and shield yourself behind a gated compound if you're going to live in PH. But then that makes for a miserable time, doesn't it?
For someone like me, yes, Philippines sounds like hell itself. Then you have those who feel right at home in this gossipy, low IQ backwater (paging @MarcosZeitola). To each his own...
You should go Frank. Amazing place. The inhabitants may prefer to sing Karaoke than recite Shakespeare but who cares once you're away from the brainwashed zombies and morbid simpletons in the West.