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Discuss culture, living, traveling, relocating, dating or anything related to the Asian countries - China, The Philippines, Thailand, etc.
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If you missed the earlier controversy with her article, see here:
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB1000142 ... 98754.html
Last edited by momopi on August 29th, 2011, 12:19 am, edited 1 time in total.
I know this is hard for Chinese immigrants to understand, but there is more to life than striving for success to impress other people. There has to be some middle ground between being a robot, and being an American slacker wishing they could retire at age 22.
Momopi what do you think of what Gatto said on getting accepted to a university:
I know about this woman and her controversy, I also have read a few pages from her book.
Personally, I think she is a good mom, and she's the kind of woman that American parents need to model after because Americans are too lax with their children.
And see, that's why she's making waves, she's pointing out how lazy American parents are when it comes to putting time and effort into developing a child. You know, it's not so simple as dropping your kids off at school and thinking that's all that needs to be done in order for them to become successful. I have seen it with my own eyes how hard Asian parents push their kids when I lived in Diamond Bar Ca.
On the other hand, my only complaint is that she pushes her kids down a narrow path of "success" (typical of Asian parents especially Koreans). In other words, she only wants her kids to be successful WITHIN the system (ie. Doctor, Lawyer) and that's my only issue.
I'm all for discipline, but a child should chose what he or she want's to do in life that will bring him some kind of happiness, THEN use discipline to make himself better at it. Also, life is not all about making the most money and becoming prestigious, that way of life is why the world is so corrupt in the first place.
Good video about Japan and the damaging effects of pushing kids to hard:
At one point in the video a man who offers a safe haven to Japanese kids who bucked under all of the academic pressures said that one of the reason why kids have such a hard time is that we have a society that focuses too much on the economy. He's spot on.