A few thoughts about Thai women and marriage.

[droid]

Thai porn star, 31, who married elderly American millionaire after turning to Buddhism gets a divorce and plans boob job to make a career comeback
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article ... sland.html

Another white-socks+sneakers wearing chump not learning from others

what do you say johnny law? "newsflash"?

[Jonny Law]

"There are plenty of Malaysians, Singaporeans, Koreans, Japanese, Taiwanese etc.. who come here for p4p fun and some maintain beautiful Thai mistresses but very few commit to long term obligations with kids and family."
Jonny Law Approved Pump-And-Dump Thais:
Enjoy Thailand
Leave a couple bastards behind.
Pump-Em and Dump-Em with at big smile on your face

Jonny Law Does Not Approve Marriage or Long-Term Relationship With Thais
WARNING! This Could Be You If You Marry A Thai
Thai porn star, 31, who married an American millionaire.
You wanna be Captain Save a Hoe in Thailand?
Your gonna have a bad time
"Thai porn star, 31, who married elderly American millionaire"
"Nat had previously complained the couple never had sex because she worried about Mr Nesland having a heart attack in the bedroom."
"He doesn't want a divorce but I'll start the proceedings."
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article ... z4anl8zoDv

[droid]

If what you say is true, that guilt-free pump and dump sounds like fantastic fun. I just find them too masculine looking for my taste.

[Falcon]

Many older, more traditional NE Asian men looking for brides are looking for their wives to fit into a Chinese-style patrilineal system where the wife has to live in with her husband's in-laws. Vietnam also has this kinship system. However, Thais are not strictly patrilineal and do not keep track of surnames that go back many centuries. Thailand is on the periphery of the Sinosphere, and Thai women generally do not expect to have to serve the mother-in-law. Matrilocality is often practiced, where the husband goes to live with the wife's family. Women generally have greater autonomy in Thailand than in Vietnam. Plus, the average Thai is better off than the average Vietnamese or Filipino, and their standard of living is somewhat more similar to that of Malaysians or perhaps Eastern Europeans. Emigration is also relatively low in Thailand. As a result, brides in NE Asia are less likely to be Thais.

On the other hand, Western European and Anglosphere men tend to cave in more to the woman's demands, will not likely live with in-laws, and will oftentimes live with the wife in her hometown. You see this with all the Western men living in rural Thailand with their wives. However, few foreign Asian men will live with their wives in rural Thailand.

[Jonny Law]

If what you say is true, that guilt-free pump and dump sounds like fantastic fun. I just find them too masculine looking for my taste.

I do feel guilty
It is immoral to be Pumping and Dumping Ladies.
I do what the ladies want. Long term relationships and marriages are not a good idea in Thailand.
WARNING
1. Thai Women do not give a shit about you.
2. Thai woman do not even care about their own children. They are most likely to abandon their own kids.
3. Thai women are the most unfaithful women in the world.

[Falcon]

If I had to choose a long term mate just from these two pools, I would probably feel safer with a Filipina. Thai women just seem so emotionally strong and detached regarding LT relationships. Its like they have no sentimentality except for their mothers and other family members. I think its more common for Filipinas to grow very attached to their foreign boyfriends/husbands over time.

Rock, I completely agree that Thai women are emotionally stronger and more detached. Like some other Southeast Asian cultures, Thailand has way more matriarchy than many other places. They are strong and proud.

Thais and Filipinos are like apples and oranges. Thai culture is much more Chinese-like, while Filipino culture is much more Latin American.

The Indonesian girl I dated simply was not like that. If I somehow left my Thai lady behind and left her to fend for herself (not saying that I'd actually do so), I know that she would not be left completely weak, shattered, and helpless like many Filipinas and Indonesians. A Thai woman will usually be able to eventually stand up on her own. This is because Thai women used to running the show. Walk into a market, and there will be more women than men working. Many mom-and-pop shops are managed by mom, not pop. Thailand is the complete opposite of India, where men completely run the show.

Many aspects of Thai culture are ultimately quite similar to Chinese culture. It's at the periphery of the Sinosphere, so there are plenty of superficial differences, but ultimately many Thai core values are very Chinese-like: money, filial piety, and others. They are tend have much more cynical worldviews, and be much more practical than most Filipinos. The Thai underclass is not so Chinese-like though, and they run their lives quite differently from most Thai-Chinese and middle-class Thais.

At the end of the day, as a Taiwanese American, I'd say that I feel more comfortable with a good, responsible, family-oriented Thai woman than with a Filipina. I know many Western (white) men would disagree, and that is understandable since Filipinos' cultural core values are much more similar to American core values than they are to Chinese ones. In many ways, my Thai girl reminds me of my own parents. From her cooking to her frugality and practical mindset and even impressions about foreigners, she definitely has core values that are very similar to those of Taiwanese parents, albeit significantly more relaxed and laid-back. Keep in mind that the Chinese have had a much easier time assimilating into Thailand than into the Philippines.

On the other hand, I would like I am more of an outsider with a Filipina than I would with a Thai. The food and language are not so Chinese-like, and their attitudes towards respecting parents, love, and money are also much less Chinese-like. Filipinas have specifically pointed out my Chinese facial features to me, but Thais don't. Chineseness is much less ingrained into the Filipino psyche, whereas you will be sure to find much more Chineseness in the Thai psyche. Chineseness feels like it's more part of Thailand, but nearly as ingrained into the Philippines. The story of Chinese in Thailand has many parallels with that of Jews in the US.

However much fun you may have with ladies in the beginning, and however much you may appreciate different cultures - at the end of the day you will realize in long-term relationships and marriages involving important decisions, you will simply be much more comfortable with someone who shares similar core cultural values with you. At the end of the day, most Thais will always think of the world like a Thai, and most Filipinos will always think of the world like a Filipino.

A white American man would simply feel much more comfortable with a Filipina due to their similar Christian and Western-type backgrounds. An Asian-American man who hasn't shed too much of his parents' culture and mindset (which probably wouldn't include Winston) would simply be more comfortable with a Thai woman due to their similar mainland East Asian cultural traits. The bubbly, open, personal, easygoing, emotional, direct, Judeo-Christian attitudes and mindsets of Filipinos and Americans contrasts sharply with that of the reserved, quiet, face-saving, (somewhat) cynical, practical, Buddhist-animist attitudes and mindsets of Thais, Vietnamese, Chinese, and Taiwanese.

I haven't really seen any English-language posts like this on the Internet. Either they're about Thai culture from a Western (NW European / Germanic) perspective or from a well-educated Thai who thinks outside the box. Asian-American posters like Repatriate can often provide a different lens on Thailand.

[Falcon]

See my post at viewtopic.php?f=5&t=35426

[Taco]

nb

[Taco]

Once the total birth rate of a country drops below 2 children per woman the women in that country are basically unmarriable due to a variety of reasons.

[starchild5]

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[Falcon]

Once the total birth rate of a country drops below 2 children per woman the women in that country are basically unmarriable due to a variety of reasons.

So why don't we all get wives in Niger, Mali, or Chad, where the average woman has 6-7 kids?

[droid]

Once the total birth rate of a country drops below 2 children per woman the women in that country are basically unmarriable due to a variety of reasons.

That's messed up. But I would flip the order of that sentence.
I'm surprised Slovakia is in that graph though.

[Taco]

Thai women are not stay at home moms. They would rather be out shaking their money makers than making you dinner. That's why they make crappy wives.

[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kXSz9ZNCmOI[/youtube]

[Falcon]

Thai women are not stay at home moms. They would rather be out shaking their money makers than making you dinner. That's why they make crappy wives.

I agree with you and Jonny Law that many Thai women would not make good stay-at-home moms. The trick is to find one who is kind of old-fashioned and out of touch with the other modern, fashionable party-going Thai women.

Mine is a perfect stay-at-home mom though. She's always cooking delicious dishes for me, and very rarely goes out except for grocery shopping or to pick up our daughter at school.

[Taco]

Thai women are not stay at home moms. They would rather be out shaking their money makers than making you dinner. That's why they make crappy wives.

Mine is a perfect stay-at-home mom though. She's always cooking delicious dishes for me, and very rarely goes out except for grocery shopping or to pick up our daughter at school.

That's how you can tell if she's a keeper. If a woman cooks for you, does your laundry and worries your not getting enough to eat then she probably loves you. A career woman or party girl won't do that. They will always want to eat out at your expense.

My Filipina wife has some friends that are over 30 and still single and none of them can cook and they have other "issues" as well.

The worst Filipinas I've met are the ones that have maids.