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Discuss culture, living, traveling, relocating, dating or anything related to the Asian countries - China, The Philippines, Thailand, etc.
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Just today I tried a little experiment. I opened up a profile on DIA clearly stating that I was married and not looking for romance of sexual involvements. I was expecting 0 (zero) mails or responses. I was actually quite surprised I could chat to a couple of cute young women with the idea of just being friends. Devoid of sexual tension and agendas, I actually enjoyed the conversations, well one more than the other, but still...
I would have also expected the usual questions about money and improbable family trouble popping up. But no, just a friendly chat with two girls with a sense of humour, and (at least in one case) a couple of nice stories to share...
Loads of DIA girls don't seem to be looking for husbands, god knows what they're on there for. I guess many are bored and married - this group are very enthusiastic users of dating sites.
Filipinas do love to chat though. And not all are poor - far from it. My Filipina friends live in a lovely house and can afford to go to Jollibees as often as they want.
I don't think it's as innocent as this. I think married women and women with boyfriends do a lot of fishing in their spare time just like some guys do. Women do feel the need to trade up more than men do especially if they don't have kids yet. So maybe they are open to the idea of cheating if there is enough of a comfort zone built up. A few of them may be just looking for innocent friendship but they are always "open" to serendipity or some other b.s.
I wouldn't qualify as an expert on the matter, as all of my dating & mating precedents with Filipinas trace back to at least 6 years ago. Yet I cannot but think that maybe not all Pinays are that desperate to be sucked out of a rural life of poverty and sacrifice, or only talking to somebody who will hopelessly court them on their first chat. Those I talked to were around 23-25 years old, not sure whether they were married or single. The important thing to me is that I made it clear I was only looking for a friendship, or just a friendly chat, and they acted respectfully putting up a rather enjoyable conversation. Without trying to scam, or revealing themselves as ladyboys (not that I have anything against them, in terms of a friendship), or other forms of nastiness.
I will try again next weekend, if I have a free hour or two... I must say though that I would feel a bit wierd, if I were to chat again with somebody 10/15 years younger than me... I'll probably try a 30-something...even if she has (as it's likely) 2 or 3 kids already and a host of family trouble...
10/15 years younger is considered practically the same age in the Philippines
I don't have interest in pursuing romance, had I been (more) serious I would have looked for better options. I think DIA ticks all boxes for an experiment: free, lots of profiles and an indication of who's online. If you know better sites with the same features please enlighten me, I'll be happy to try them.
Lol. My last Chinese gf was 12 years younger than me, and I didn't feel that was much of an age difference at all.
My uncle's Thai gf is 35 and he's a few years North of 60. Again, it's not unusual in Asia.
Asian women are considered old at 27 (that's not me saying they are, chat to any and they'll tell you this themselves).
I've had 0 success on DIA but then it's many order of magnitudes more difficult to find a Chinese gf than it is a Filipina.
There are now 100's (maybe millions) of Filipinas on my own site. Some are smoking hot and I'd love to chat to them but I don't mix business with pleasure.
What I will say is that regardless of which site you use, looking for a wife online takes many, many, hours of effort.
I'm just getting my feet wet with this online dating thing. I think it's well worth it though. Otherwise you're spending way more time running around places networking with friends. Cold approaching girls also takes a lot of time and effort.