Truthville wrote:Hey,
No problem Rock, you have the right to your opinions as do I.
Racist? Feel free, of course you realize that most racism is a symptom of some deeper problem or issue with the group a person is racist against?
The thing is, I personally find it kind of childish to put down another man's choice of lover/girlfriend/whatever, but to each his own.
Kosher? Interesting that people picked up on that. Just a little experiment.......
I don't apologize for my "tastes" and could really care less about the opinions of others UNLESS they make blanket generalizations that are intellectually "lazy" in which I am stereotyped negatively.
The explanation is quite simple: many of them don't land in the Philippines as trophy hunters and womanizers. Many of them are badly burned by previous relationships or a divorce, they are love and affection starved and the first non-repulsive young woman who shows a genuine desire to care for them and be loved back is certainly going to feel incredibly soothing to them and blind their adult sense of judgment. Many of such blind choices may well work, if the lady is honest, or may not.
And this statement is a great example of a generalization/stereotype. In addition, sorry, just because a person has "traveled" more than an "internet warrior" only makes their opinion about THIS issue still a matter of personal taste and preference. Not truth or fact, only opinion. Understand?
Validation from other men seems to be very important to many posters here. I find that sad and just another symptom of the "look at me.....admire me........" culture killing the west.
Not racist? Hmmm...............how about I make a statement like:
"It seems to me that Asian men are runty cowardly pussies whom, because of their small penis size, always seem to pick the more "ladyboy" type women that no man of any other race would touch. I see this everywhere I travel. Sissy little Asian men with slanted-eyed men in drag. Everyone knows that these overdone are really only with these pasty "he/shes" to please their families when everyone KNOWS they would rather white men and actually get beautiful women!"
Racist? Rock, in many posts, have said words to this effect about white men and white men ONLY.
I don't see WHY a person can't show a little sophistication/class and leave race out of such observations. Even the generic term "westerner" is better IMHO.
But I guess I'm the "minority" here!
Hey Truthville and others. It is true that many times I've put down Filipinas for superficial issues. Its one thing if a guy has been scammed left right and center by locals on the ground there and wants to rant while sharing his experiences and warning others.
But my criticisms have mainly been about physical characteristics. I'm sure that comes across badly to many. Winston has made a similar criticism of me in another thread today. Moreover, it seems the number of solid contributions on this forum has been on the decline for awhile now. Perhaps some are getting fed up with the negativity which seems to pop up so often. So I am sorry to those I've been offending and will try to tone it down and soften things going forward.
If defense of the Philippines, I will put out a few positives.
1. People there are not all brain dead simpletons as Winston and certain others have expressed in the past. In fact, I've met several intellectual types online and have found those to be better conversationalists than the bulk of people I've met in Taiwan. A couple of them are not even that fluent in Tagalog (or other Filipino language) as they've been using English all their lives at home, school, etc. even though they've lived all their lives in Metro Manila. And no, they are not rich high class people, just the educated class which is sort of serves the rich class in professional capacities - a solid middle to upper middle class if you will.
Moreover, people like them and many others relate much better to westerners than other Asians in the Far East. They are on the same wavelength, know our culture and icons, and think more like us in many ways than most people from the surrounding nations. Its very easy to forget they are Asian at all sometimes.
2. Many of the people I've met there or online seem to have a humble spirit. They are easygoing and do not seem to anger easily. I also noticed that they usually don't swear, at least not in English. They are very Asian in that they try to be tactful and avoid hurting others feelings. They have great patience for a lot of things too.
3. If you wanna be a sugar daddy, its probably much lower risk in Phils. than CIS, LatAm, Thailand, or most other places where such arrangements are possible. Larry Elterman's book has some good advice on how to manage such relationships. I think its often possible to keep a reasonable limit on the amount of regular of help you provide over the long term whereas in other places, it seems more likely that the treadmill will keep speeding up and you will eventually be bankrupted and spit out.
4. Many Filipinas seem to have very limited experience with opposite sex and some are even pure (virginal). That is much harder to find in most other hotspots.
5. Many Filipinas are less demanding on looks and age of their partners than girls from competing hotpots.
6. In many ways, Phils is very user friendly and lower cost for westerners than CIS, many parts of LatAm, or Africa. But Thailand is better in this regard and certain other SE Asian nations are arguably better in some ways as well.
7. I suspect that many Filipinas will have an easier time adjusting to life in the States than girls from other parts of Asia.
8. I've had the pleasure of meeting several women there who were not P4P and did not expect any financial help, at least for the short periods I have known them. You will probably encounter these kinds of "Santa Clause" expectation much more if you hang around Angeles and associate with girls mainly from Leyte and Samar. Actually, I don't think natives of Pampanga (the province where Angeles is located) are generally like that either.
9. I think it is possible for a westerner to associate with and even date within the professional local class in places like Makati if you live there longer term and take some of the measures Mr. S have talked about in the past.
