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I mean I been to other forums and it seems like I hear different messages. Either Philippine men are irresponsible and womanizer and that's part of the reason why Philippine women do not like them or that filipina do like Philippine men but say otherwise just for western guys ego.
So are Philippine guys that bad? Or is it really just social economics that drives the women to western men?
Yeah, this is probably true.
A lot of Asian men from Thailand, Philippines and Vietnam seem to have the jerk gene. I see it on my dating site - I've had to ban quite a few for uploading porn, photos of cocks, that kind of stuff. And the stuff they write in their profiles, yeah you can see why a Filipina's gonna look for a more mature Western dude.
Filipino men are pigs. The ones I knew here are cool to be friends with but back in the Philippines as men they are often womanizers and cheaters, or drunkards and gamblers. As far as I am concerned, my experience has been that most think they are playboys and are always looking to cheat. f**k em.
I would rather make $2000 a month working for myself, then $4000 a month working for a bitch.
I think deep inside their hearts, a Filipina prefers to be with an ideal Filipino guy who is romantic and charming. But there are so few Filipino men like this, and most are as you describe, so eventually they may become disillusioned and seek a foreigner.
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So I take it that in the Philippines there must be so many females for a guy to act like a jerk because there will always be a girl to accept him. I mean if there is good number of filipina who prefers a western guy wouldn't that mean less women that are available?
Whenever I go to Phils, I see zillions of gay guys running around. I live in Seattle and I thought it was bad here! It's supply and demand. Men have many options in Phils and yes they take advantage of the situation. The only town in Phils that I'm assuming there are men than women would be Angeles for obvious reasons.
Most Filipinos, are very good natured people and they are quite responsible people in my opinion.
Because Philippines is a 3rd world country with massive poverty there might be some womanizing around since some women are paid kibbles and bits and they f**k for their daily bread.
Another thing that might come into play is that the country is being awashed with colonial mentality. the colonization from the spanish and americans made the filipino men emasculated. they don't feel as manly as their former colonial masters.
But I don't see anything wrong with Filipino men myself, personally.
Why are some of you guys shaming Filipino men as pigs? I find this to be disrespectful and arrogant.
OK, so yes, while it's true that many Filipino guys here are babaeros (womanizers), plenty more are really good family men too. Many American men can be far worse jerks than Filipino men.
I really enjoy all the friendship, joking, and camaraderie that I have with local Filipino guys, just as I did with local guys in Mexico. Many of my best experiences here are shared with Filipino men, not just Filipina women. The guys like to go out exploring with me and talk about "guy stuff," while the ladies tend to want to stay closer to home.
Here's a young motorcycle driver in rural Visayas that I really bonded with. Super awesome dude with a wacky sense of humor. He spoke very little English, so we talked mostly in Tagalog. At the end of a day we stopped by a store where there were lots of cute girls in their 20's. They were giggling and smiling at me. My driver then asked me, "Magaganda ba sila?" (Aren't they pretty?)
Non-Asian men really seem to like to disparage the men in Asia and paint all of them as some kind of deadbeats and scum: I find this highly offensive and racist as well...If people were directing similar kinds of comments towards Black or White men, people would be screaming at the top-of-their-lungs with accusations of racism!
Filipino guys are good husbands. It is just that those girls who specifically look for foreigners online are the ones who do not like them and generalize about them. And those girls are a tiny percentage.
The particularity that always seems to occur between a Filipino and a "porener" is that 'most' guys are just poorer than you and come from a peasant background and they cannot help you in anyway even with advice. They are fun to hang out with and talk to and make great drinking partners, though.
In SE Asia, they are among the friendliest and most sociable-- socially speaking.
A Filipino who will help a 'porener' without remuneration is as rare as a four leaf clover.
American guys, otoh, as cold and mistrustful as they can be, are very helpful with info., reference, favors, etc.
As far as being deadbeats, well, the incidence of not paying debts in the Philippines vs. the US is much higher. And that goes among Filipinos, as well. Filipinos always complain that this and that person borrowed money and is now hiding. That is the most common "crime" in the country and just a flaw in the culture. Americans, on the other hand are percentage and frequency-wise much more responsible with debt payments.
There's no such thing as a Filipino man, even a cripple, even a fat, old and ugly person who has no female who loves him.
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Reminds me of this Facebook image that has been going viral recently.
Top guy might be in SE Asia or Latin America.
Bottom guy is your typical dateless Anglosphere man.
Did he sell his GF? Hahahaha!
I can understand how Asian men are, being that they're practically filled to the brim with masculinity, moreso than westerners. You can tell by their body language and build, that they may be humping on the side.
I met many filipinos, and they're very nice, intelligent, productive, talked proper and well-dressed. WAY better at English than most westerners! Many wanted to be my friend and unfortunately I brushed them off because at the time I was destitute, and in the west that's not good. :/
Possibly that may be a facade, and in reality all humans have two faces. While they may be a gentlemen during the day, at night they may be a whole 'nother creature. It's best not to lose sight of this and to look at people objectively.
In 22 years of going to/living in the Philippines, not even one Filipino ever helped me with anything. Except as a paid service.
Only one paid back a debt and that was with a 2 month delay.
In everything else, they are great people to hang out with.
I've noticed that when they talk about SE Asian ( and S. Asian) men and these are the types they meet when they travel in Phils. Thailand, Indonesia, VN, Cambodia, India, Pakistan, etc. They swarm on these Western travelers as flies on honey.
And with Westerners not having any local friends, the relationship in many many cases ends up in a debt not being paid, wrong advice/guidance given, a bad/ wrong service provided with no refund, oodles of mistakes made for which the Westerner must take responsibility and endless cheating/ overcharging taking place.
In frequency of incidence of cheating, in my observation, Thai men lead the way, followed by Indians/Pakistanis and then VNese and maybe Filipinos being 4th as these have some semblance of shame and guilt.
And virtually never EVER any help at all. Just sucking money out of them. If it were more balanced as in 50% are good and helpful and 50% are bad and cheaters, well, then it would be OK.
OTOH, no one says bad things about Koreans, Japanese, Chinese, Singaporeans, etc. Cheated by a Singaporean, not given change by a Japanese? Not likely.
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