In 2007, the Womenâ€™s Federation defined â€œleftoverâ€ women (sheng nu ) as unmarried women over the age of 27 and Chinaâ€™s Ministry of Education added the term to its official lexicon. [..]
Pretty girls donâ€™t need a lot of education to marry into a rich and powerful family, but girls with an average or ugly appearance will find it difficult. These kinds of girls hope to further their education in order to increase their competitiveness. The tragedy is, they donâ€™t realize that as women age, they are worth less and less, so by the time they get their M.A. or Ph.D., they are already old, like yellowed pearls. [..]
Many highly educated â€œleftover womenâ€ are very progressive in their thinking and enjoy going to nightclubs to search for a one-night stand, or they become the mistress of a high official or rich man. It is only when they have lost their youth and are kicked out by the man, that they decide to look for a life partner. Therefore, most â€œleftover womenâ€ do not deserve our sympathy. [..]
The main reason many girls become â€œleftover womenâ€ is that their standards for a partner are too high â€¦ As girls are not too picky, finding a partner should be as easy as blowing away a speck of dust. [..]
When holding out for a man, if you say he must be rich and brilliant, romantic and hardworking ... this is just being willful. Does this kind of perfect man exist? Maybe he does exist, but why on earth would he want to marry you? [..]
When you find out that he is having an affair, you may be in a towering rage, but you must know that if you make a fuss, you are denying the man â€œfaceâ€ ... No man is capable of spending a lifetime being loyal to an outmoded wife who never changes ... Try changing your hairstyle or your fashion. Women must constantly change for the better.