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Why filipinas want men 36+

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Postby tomasz » June 18th, 2013, 7:05 pm

Thanks for everyones responses. I think it makes sense. Maybe she doesn't see me as the provider and future husband/partner because it is true as I am not seeking marriage, probably just a relationship.
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Postby Anonymous1 » June 27th, 2013, 5:36 am

the reason why western men strike out with below average women in the Philippines is due to the fact that many are ignorant about filipinos to begin with

it would be equivilent of a foreigner going to america and picking up a ugly hoodrat from the ghettos
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Postby Christianfilipinacom » June 28th, 2013, 1:28 am

"I am not seeking marriage, probably just a relationship."

Possibly she would prefer someone wiser to learn from and count on.

Why are you "probably" just looking for a "relationship"? What is your dream in life?
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Re: Why filipinas want men 36+

Postby Winston » June 28th, 2013, 1:47 am

Rock wrote:
tomasz wrote:this may be an isolated question, but i was talking to a 21 year unemployed and dropped out of school (finances) filipina on CB and she said she was looking for husband 36-46 and when i asked why that age, she said they are serious and mature.

My question is, is that a legitimate reason or is there something fishy such as she wants a guy with money to pay for her school?


Well if she wants a guy with money to pay for her school, why would she discriminate at all? Any guy 18 - 99+ with money and willingness to pay would do right? Plenty of younger white guys in Phils and elsewhere have money. After all, whites no matter young or old are all rich from POV of many Filipinas I suppose.

I commented in another thread on the approximate spread of age ranges requested by young Fiipinas on Filipino Cupid. There are plenty who will go up to 40 or even 45, some even 50+. The case above seems fairly normal.

As to the underlying thoughts and motivations for requesting these types of age ranges, I leave it to others to interpret their likely motivations.


Yeah any guy of any age can have money. However, the word around Angeles City, according to Dianne, is that older foreign guys have more money and are more generous with it than younger foreign guys are. Dianne said that she heard this from many girls in Angeles City, that they prefer older men because they are more generous with money and allowances, whereas younger guys are on a tighter budget or broke. So this is their perception, based on their experiences.

germanguy wrote:And please, dont say Filipinas want old men. That´s just crap.


They don't want older men for sex or romance. They want them for their money and allowances.
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Postby Repatriate » June 28th, 2013, 2:47 am

I've never seen a relationship with a large age gap which didn't include some kind of major status or monetary trade off going on. There are a lot of old guys who really think they are handsome debonair men in Asia but I guess self delusion is a great thing to have.
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Postby jtest28 » April 28th, 2014, 3:33 pm

My filipina girlfriend keeps getting asked about me by filpinas because they know she has an American boyfriend and they ask how old I am. She tells them 39 and they immediately tell her to beware, because I'm too young and may not be faithful. just my 2 cents. . .
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Postby Dash » April 29th, 2014, 2:35 am

Women do not want (physically) men that could be their father or grandfather.

They go with older White men because

1) Not many young white guys in Phi seeking a relationship

2) Financial security
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Postby Bao3niang » April 29th, 2014, 7:40 am

So if I choose the Philippines a young guy like me with nothing but personality will basically have no chance?

I've had an older guy tell me that the major factor working against me is my age. He knows I have trouble relating to the majority of females my age or younger, yet older women may not accept me due to financial reasons or because they are taught by their culture to only consider males older than themselves.

I don't know. Age isn't always the determining factor for me. I've also met many 20+ females that are extremely immature. I know only one girl around my age in real life that I consider as being more mature than most others, but she's the daughter of my mom's friend so if I get involved with her we will both have to deal with 2 b###es. Besides she wants to go to university in America and likely settle there.

It's hard to find a truly good one regardless of age. By truly good I mean life partner material. Sure if you are just looking to have fun and mess around, get a girl with the same intentions or even a hooker. If you are a moral (and even better, Christian) guy that is really serious, you would have to be a lot more selective.

I expect a lot less in terms of looks than many guys on here. My woman must at least be willing to take care of me and show genuine concern for who I am and what I do. Like I said in another post, we don't have to agree on everything, but I'd expect that we have common ground on at least a significant number of matters. In other words, we must have the same core values.
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Postby Dash » April 29th, 2014, 4:37 pm

^^^

Bro, I hate to be a dick but come on. Are you retarded?

You have a way better chance of finding a true genuine relationship compared to an older guy.

The only girls that you might not get are the gold digging c**ts. Luckily for you there are TONS and TONS of nice sweet simple girls in the Philippines that would kill to date or be with a young Foreigner.
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Postby jtest28 » May 2nd, 2014, 1:32 am

Dash wrote:^^^

Bro, I hate to be a dick but come on. Are you retarded?

You have a way better chance of finding a true genuine relationship compared to an older guy.

The only girls that you might not get are the gold digging c**ts. Luckily for you there are TONS and TONS of nice sweet simple girls in the Philippines that would kill to date or be with a young Foreigner.

I agree.

I was the envy of all of my girlfriend's friends, cousins, co-workers, you name it. I was getting so many stares from women there i started to wear a shirt that says, 'Its not nice to stare". My girlfriend made me change it. lol Says they are only staring because I'm so damn "gwapo". And she cares for me like I'm Jesus. Clips my nails for me, toe-nails too. She brought a wash rag with us on a fairy ride to an island and kept washing the sweat off my face the whole trip. Must have done it 40 times before the day was up.
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Postby davewe » May 2nd, 2014, 8:51 am

jtest28 wrote:
Dash wrote:^^^

Bro, I hate to be a dick but come on. Are you retarded?

You have a way better chance of finding a true genuine relationship compared to an older guy.

The only girls that you might not get are the gold digging c**ts. Luckily for you there are TONS and TONS of nice sweet simple girls in the Philippines that would kill to date or be with a young Foreigner.

I agree.

I was the envy of all of my girlfriend's friends, cousins, co-workers, you name it. I was getting so many stares from women there i started to wear a shirt that says, 'Its not nice to stare". My girlfriend made me change it. lol Says they are only staring because I'm so damn "gwapo". And she cares for me like I'm Jesus. Clips my nails for me, toe-nails too. She brought a wash rag with us on a fairy ride to an island and kept washing the sweat off my face the whole trip. Must have done it 40 times before the day was up.


Well now I'll be the dick here. All the behaviors you describe, while very nice, are standard operating procedure in the Philippines. Foreigners are stared at; foreigners of all ages. From babies on up I am stared at.

All filipinas call their men guapo. Sure it's nice but it has little to do with your age or relative handsomeness. All filipinas express affection by telling their men they are guapo.

The nail cutting is also a very nice benefit but again is a standard way your girl with express her feelings for you.

Your girl may very well be legit and love you but the behaviors you describe are ones I get and most of the guys married to filipinas receive. Perks of the relationship, they are not truly age related. Enjoy them but don't get caught up in believing they are unique to you or a small subset of kanos.
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Postby newlifeinphilippines » May 2nd, 2014, 9:31 am

davewe wrote:
jtest28 wrote:
Dash wrote:^^^

Bro, I hate to be a dick but come on. Are you retarded?

You have a way better chance of finding a true genuine relationship compared to an older guy.

The only girls that you might not get are the gold digging c**ts. Luckily for you there are TONS and TONS of nice sweet simple girls in the Philippines that would kill to date or be with a young Foreigner.

I agree.

I was the envy of all of my girlfriend's friends, cousins, co-workers, you name it. I was getting so many stares from women there i started to wear a shirt that says, 'Its not nice to stare". My girlfriend made me change it. lol Says they are only staring because I'm so damn "gwapo". And she cares for me like I'm Jesus. Clips my nails for me, toe-nails too. She brought a wash rag with us on a fairy ride to an island and kept washing the sweat off my face the whole trip. Must have done it 40 times before the day was up.


Well now I'll be the dick here. All the behaviors you describe, while very nice, are standard operating procedure in the Philippines. Foreigners are stared at; foreigners of all ages. From babies on up I am stared at.

All filipinas call their men guapo. Sure it's nice but it has little to do with your age or relative handsomeness. All filipinas express affection by telling their men they are guapo.

The nail cutting is also a very nice benefit but again is a standard way your girl with express her feelings for you.

Your girl may very well be legit and love you but the behaviors you describe are ones I get and most of the guys married to filipinas receive. Perks of the relationship, they are not truly age related. Enjoy them but don't get caught up in believing they are unique to you or a small subset of kanos.


LOL i was going to say the same thing before you said it. Actually my bargirl did alot more for me than that sexually and in other ways but she wasn't a decent girl. she could be just the average girl playing the long con game and pretending she doesn't care about his monay and expensive ring. but all filipinas it comes down to money lol its always about money for hte most part and dont let anyone fool you.
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Postby jtest28 » May 3rd, 2014, 1:38 am

Hows that being a dick? You're saying the same point I was trying to make
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Re: Why filipinas want men 36+

Postby mlauzon » May 7th, 2014, 8:37 pm

Rock wrote:After all, whites no matter young or old are all rich from POV of many Filipinas I suppose.


That's a stupid thing to say, I'm not white, nor am I rich, but there's a 19 -- and possibly a 24 -- year old who wants me!
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Postby C.J. » May 7th, 2014, 8:48 pm

You guys are lucky. I've only run into filipinas who only want money, and they come from a glut of different households. You'll see their true colors after long enough.

I've concluded, that filipinas as a whole are f***ing retarded. Most logical explanation for all the dumb shit they do.
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