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Here's my list of Pros And Cons Of Japanese Women.
1.Japanese women are raised to respect everyone around them, including the elderly.
2.They are easily approachable and are attracted to many different types of men.
3.Japanese women are intellectual
4.Japanese Women are Beautiful with shunning looks
5.They're traditionally make very loyal, pleasing and subservient wives.
6.In their culture, They're humble at all times.
7.Most of them are hobby travelers.
8.Most of them take very good care of themselves.
1. Despite their traditional values,They won't stepping down their occupations in order to start to raise children.
2. Despite being intellectual, They're extremely studyaholic.
3. Modern Japanese women will hardly put up with a dominate man.
4. Japanese women are a little more reserved than their Western counterparts.
5. They won't tolerate a man who has low income.
6. As for dating, you wonâ€™t do well there unless you are White or Japanese.
People out here share me your opinions about Japanese women. You can agree or disagree I'll accept your thoughts and opinions.
I would take issue with number six. Most Japanese make more money that most Americans on average. Not saying it is not in play, but how do you think ESL instructors or military get tail over there? For the most part I think you are right on.
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What you describe below is the stereotypical traditional Japanese woman. Not entirely an accurate picture nowadays. The modern Japanese woman, especially the ones in cites like Tokyo, are every bit a opinionated assertive feminist.
You may be able to find the "traditional" Japanese woman as you described in the rural areas, but I can assure you she won't be "pleasing, attractive with stunning looks." These rural farm women are hardworking and their faces are plain and figures tend toward the stout and plump.
Yes, the Japanese city and suburban women can be pleasing and loyal....out in public. I can tell you from first hand experience Japanese women are not subservient. Out in public they will be compliant and defer to what you say. But the reality is in private they are anything but subservient. And I'm referring to non-sexual context.
As for dating, Japanese women are impressed if you have the "Three H's"....Height, Handsome and High income.
Here's another interesting contradiction: In Japan, they are always proper, dignified, compliant and cognizant about presenting a proper "face". When they come to the U.S or anywhere OUTSIDE Japan, they are totally wild and promiscuous. But when YOU go visit them in Japan, they'll act as though they never met you or remember the adventure in the U.S.
Remember, you are a Gaijin (foreigner, outsider, taboo) and Japanese women are very socially conscious about having a relationship with a Gaijin, especially while in Japan. Perhaps that explains why their attitude is "what happens in the USA, stays in the USA".
I'll take my cue from Japanese men.
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You've left out a critical issue = group thinking.
Japanese people always hang round in groups. If you're not in their group, forget it.
See this in Bangkok a lot. Koreans are the same. It's just so difficult to penetrate their groups and assimilate yourself.
I never chat to any of the Japanese women I dated, but I talk to plenty of Chinese ex's. I'm just nothing to the Japanese women, because I don't fit in one of their groups (work colleagues, fitness class members, bible study group, family, etc. etc. etc.)
HAHA! Last week I was listening to War - The World is a Ghetto loud in the house thinking the same thing.
All of those are wrong in my opinion. Japanese women are harder to date because few understand how to fit in with them. Mature-Cool, Different-Cool, and Nerdy-Cool guys can get plenty of mileage in there. I still say learning Japanese is very, very important as well. I would also say that Chinese and Japanese are two kinds of women that you MUST learn their culture and history in order to understand how they think and act. It's the details with these women, especially Japanese even more so because their society is getting stranger and harder.
They require a combination of things, but if there is lots of flexibility within it. The cool thing about Japanese women is that there are hot city ones and hot small town ones, like Chinese. If your income is not good or you do not have the potential to earn well, that will be your albatross in many places in Asia, except much of SEA.
If US Marines in Japan, even black guys, have cute small town women stalking them and even trying to chase them on base, a normal guy can get one too. I just would not recommend broke normal guys with no upside whatsoever to chase them.
I'm kind of half living in Japan right now.
Kai is right in that Japanese women seem to like nerdy men. My bit of Bangkok is awash with Japanese moms married to nerdy men.
I'd like to have another crack at Japan, but the problem I have is getting a long term visa. It's a bit difficult at my age. But the rate the Yen is depreciating against the pound, it's gonna be worth visiting again soon.
The other obvious issue is why date a Japanese 6 when you can date a Chinese 9. Because this is the honest truth of the situation.
I dated a Japanese woman for three years--the best relationship I've ever had. She was in the U.S. studying Law, where I was getting my first degree (Bachelor's in Philosophy).
I've also visited Japan 3 times, and studied Japanese for two semesters.
"They won't tolerate a man who has low income."
She was every well educated, came from a proper family (father was a professor), and was loaded. Like, she bought a new $15k car (Toyota) with cash (well, check) without making a real dent in her bank account. She knew that I was nowhere near her in wealth.
"In their culture, They're humble at all times."
Well, they have this whole "saving face" concept. It's hard to explain. It is something that can only be lost, never gained, and you never want to cause someone else to lose face. But I've heard a Japanese man tell a Japanese woman in the kitchen how much of a total bitch an American girl was, how much he hated her, right in front of her... in Japanese of course. They also don't bother pulling over for the ambulace when driving. They ambulance basically shouts "please pull over" and nobody does for a medical emergency. Nobody holds the door and the store, for instance, they'll let it slam in your face. In the US, most people will hold the door for someone close behind. What I'm saying is that they "seem" humble, but there is another layer.
"Modern Japanese women will hardly put up with a dominate man."
Mine definitely liked having a dominant man. Even though she was of higher "status" and well-off financially, she considered me far more intelligent than she, respected my decisions, looked up to my lead, etc. I was her rock, and I was always resourceful. She depended on me for everything but money.
" Despite their traditional values,They won't stepping down their occupations in order to start to raise children."
In the end, that's why I left her. She didn't want to have children--she was very concerned about her status and career. Children weren't compatible. For me, having children is the most important thing. Also, while I loved Japan and she loved the U.S., ultimately she wanted to live in Japan and I the US for various reasons.
"As for dating, you wonâ€™t do well there unless you are White or Japanese."
I'm half black, half white. Dark skin and green eyes, the Japanese ladies loved it! A bunch of the East Asian ladies in our dorm (Chinese, Taiwanese, Japanese and Korean) ladies took a vote on who the sexiest guys in the dorm was, and despite 90% of the guys being Caucasian (and east Asian women "worshiping" white skin) I was voted the hottest. So, don't let the race card bring you down. However, admittedly it would have raised hell f she were to bring up marriage to her parents.
Other than that, I agree with what you posted!
Interesting thread I found here...
Ok, so where does the woman who is "Tired of being alone, dislike the hectic pace of Japan and love American romantic, handsome men" play in?
Lets say we have a woman who IS looking to get out of Japan...loves her culture but dreams of an American man...like we dream of a Japanese woman. She dreams of a quiet place in the country with a man that truly loves her and can give her peace and happiness. I wonder how THAT woman would equate in the pro-con scale...
Hardly any Japanese women (or men for that matter) want to live somewhere else. They have a huge attachment to the mother country.
There are some "oddball" women who like living in another country. But by and large they're best avoided if you want a long term relationship.
And yes, non-white guys can do OK in Japan. Dark skin is making a comeback there. Haven't you seen all the porn vids where the girls (called gals) have very dark tans?
They estimate 50% of Japanese women are single...
Lets look at simple math....
There's 130 million people in Japan....
Lets say that 40% are women or 50 million women
50% are unmarried...
So, we have about 25 MILLION women...
30% of them want to be housewives....and marry someday. See below...
So, how many want love and marriage enough to leave and marry a foreigner? For easy math...lets say 10% - or 2.5 million women
http://www.japantoday.com/category/nati ... wives-poll
Careful screening would be key to this....very careful discussion before even meeting her and then more careful screening to determine her true feelings and motivations...quirks and eccentricities. Even I didnt realize the scope of population density in the country....
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