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Discuss culture, living, traveling, relocating, dating or anything related to the Asian countries - China, The Philippines, Thailand, etc.
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I heard many wealthy Chinese women don't want a Chinese husband because they cheat too much, that's where you come in.
Half Of The Worlds Richest Women Are Chinese
http://www.zerohedge.com/news/2013-09-1 ... re-chinese
Doesn't really surprise me. Chinese culture is all about study and work. So if a Chinese woman can't get a man, she only has one other goal in life, basically. But even for younger ones who could date, they are often busy too. And the marriage age for women here is 20. So there are lots of things working against dating here.
Yeah, Ghost. I noticed that as well! To all the guys out there, remember, China is a very workaholic and study hard society. That means females rarely have time to do things--including dating--here in China. Remember that, so next time you are in China, realize it will take some time and hard work to get a female in China...unless you're into P4P and Prostitution.
SCreeeech!! Not so fast fellas. That is not the reason why.... Many of these rich women are the wives of rich men or fathers. There wealth numbers are mostly the result of having such an enormous population, not because they work too much.
Most rich people in China do not work much at all to begin with. Most wealth is due to corruption and graft from government funded work projects. The guanxi determines who gets what and how much. The people deciding that, usually are bosses or well connected to begin with. Some female entreprenuers are rich and hard working for sure, but that is not the majority.
Now that you guys are in China, you should be able to see that Chinese just work long hours. Are they working hard all 12 hours and 6 days a week? Not the office workers mostly. Manual laborers sure. Students work too hard, but that has nothing to do with wealth and wealth distribution in China, but more about Gaokao.
Yeah, I'm far from an expert on it. On the one hand, some things look more relaxed, but the culture is far too focused on squeezing out every drop of studying it can. It's crazy. The Chinese girls I've met are pretty much impossible to meet at this point because they are so busy. Getting numbers and meeting girls is easy. Meeting them is a whole other story.
Dated a couple of these women, they have nothing for us really. They're ALWAYS working - they have no time for other stuff.
The woman I dated back in '11 has started another business. I told her to chill out in Bangkok for a few years, but she had to go and start another business.
That is why I said in my guide dating Chinese girls under 23 years old is difficult. Most of them are in school/college/university. They will choose that over you because their educational system is brutal. Rote memorization and full of illogical processes. Worse than Japan's for sure. The gaokao is so God awful it would require a new thread to discuss it's effects.
In China, the marriage sweet-spot for women is 23-28. That goes for marriages with Chinese or foreigners. They are done with school and the parents are ready to let go of them and get the family ready for the next stages. The closer to 30, the picky-ness gets exponentially less, with each number.
Anytime before that and it is very difficult to get serious with one. Even if she made time for you, those parents may not like it too much. Look at Magnum's situation for proof of that. In a strange way, she is getting younger while he is almost 30 soon.
When I was dating online, I would chit chat with those girls sometimes, but I never bothered them....that is just a grand waste of time. If you are lucky you might find one that did not go to college, but she also might be dumb as a rock or fairly immature. Sometimes those girls are TOO serious. Like they wanna get married next week and kinda do not give a shit what the guy is like.
The only Chinese girls I have ever been friends with or dated outside of online dating back in those days, were all 23+, except for a brainiac English speaker that was 9 years old from Yunnan I met on QQ.
...just as there are women in China who seek success through education and career, there are also many who'd prefer the easy life being a mistress.
In 2007, I was in Tianjing with my ex-fiance and having lunch with her father & father's coworkers. It was a large round banquet table and my ex fiance's father commented that all his coworkers around the table have local mistresses.
Article from 2011:
http://content.time.com/time/world/arti ... 30,00.html
"This fall, young girls in China's southern Guangdong province will be learning a new subject in school: how to avoid becoming a mistress. Although Chairman Mao kept a stable of women at his disposal, extramarital peccadilloes were frowned upon during China's more fervent socialist years. But as economic reforms have helped Guangdong become one of the nation's wealthiest regions, the province has been beset by a flood of ernai, literally, "second breast," as mistresses are commonly known in China.
In 2007, Guangdong passed a piece of legislation that outlawed the keeping of mistresses, but wasn't able to enforce it. The provincial government's new solution is a pioneering "female education program" across elementary and high schools that aims to teach girls to depend on themselves - not sugar daddies - for their future. "The education will focus on self-esteem, self-confidence, self-reliance and self-improvement," Lei Yulan, vice governor of Guangdong, told a symposium when the initiative was announced in March."
China has 9 year compulsory education and HS enrollment rate is 82.5% in 2010-2011. Of those that went to HS, approx. 60% attend university. From those numbers we can make a rough estimate that only half of the students in China will attend university at current rate.