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I think its better to jerk off and stay home than back phil

Postby newlifeinphilippines » Tue May 06, 2014 7:09 am

After 4 trips and 2 girlfriends (one bargirl and one good girl) living with me and meeting other girls here along the way but not too much mostly just those 2 if you don't count bargirls. I've sort of come to teh conclusion of what other foreigners are saying that philippines isn't really the wife paradise as advertised. Its maybe easy to get p***y from 5 or 6 and if you go higher than that they are dirt poor or have some other hangup not making them wife material. I think im gonna stay home in 2015 it just seems like a lot of money and time invested in a dirt poor country and in the end ill just have some poor girl mooching off me. I have some eyes on some church girls but they will be hard to court especially since i have a girlfriend and they might not be up for casual sex from what i observed from a distance. I have a lot of memories on video and in my mind and I'm thinking maybe i just need to stay home in 2015 and take a break.

I think if i come back it wont be for this girl and maybe ill just go casual dating and also visit thailand and japan just so i can say i been to other countries so its not all about plowing easy p***y in philippins but also for the adventure of seeing new country. I haven't had a chance to see other countries besides phil cause i always wind up locked into a relationship and not wanting to leave anywhere else. But i think its time for me to let go of this relationship stuff and start casually dating and see other parts of asia.

I'm such a sex maniac it's hard for me to do that though and i hate sitting alone in the hotel so I wind up going for the instant girlfriend option. I have work to do everyday with my online but its the kind of work im not under pressure to do i can do it anytime and if i delay it ill still make passiv emoney. So i can be bored in my hotel room and thats why i always wind up with the lower hanging fruit that will move in easily. The dating sites are a lot of work and you wind up with very few girls who are legit and attractive and will actually wind up meeting you it just seems like almost not worth it. maybe i need to try something other than dateinasia in the future.

Im just wondering how some of the foreigners deal with that lonely feeling when they travel abroad so they dont focus it entirely on p***y? I dont want to travel around cause this hotel is cheap and i already seen the surrounding areas. I guess ill just have to get used to sitting in my hotel alone somedays so I dont wind up with a girl who is not right for me.
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Postby starchild5 » Tue May 06, 2014 5:18 pm

Well said....try filipinacupid, facebook, tagged, wechat..lots of other options but the quality is more or less same...We could reach as far as 8....Filipinos scoop the best one as soon as they reach college like in every other countries...but still Ph has better choices.

I keep mysef busy by being on Conspiracy Stuff....thinking deep...Why things are the way they are...going beyond limited belief systems etc

Also, Have you tried misstravel site...lots of girls willling to travel with you from many countries.....just for a chance since you decided to spend 2015 alone..why not travel with some one from completely new country
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Re: I think its better to jerk off and stay home than back p

Postby hammanta » Tue May 06, 2014 5:19 pm

newlifeinphilippines wrote:After 4 trips and 2 girlfriends (one bargirl and one good girl) living with me and meeting other girls here along the way but not too much mostly just those 2 if you don't count bargirls. I've sort of come to teh conclusion of what other foreigners are saying that philippines isn't really the wife paradise as advertised. Its maybe easy to get p***y from 5 or 6 and if you go higher than that they are dirt poor or have some other hangup not making them wife material. I think im gonna stay home in 2015 it just seems like a lot of money and time invested in a dirt poor country and in the end ill just have some poor girl mooching off me. I have some eyes on some church girls but they will be hard to court especially since i have a girlfriend and they might not be up for casual sex from what i observed from a distance. I have a lot of memories on video and in my mind and I'm thinking maybe i just need to stay home in 2015 and take a break.

I think if i come back it wont be for this girl and maybe ill just go casual dating and also visit thailand and japan just so i can say i been to other countries so its not all about plowing easy p***y in philippins but also for the adventure of seeing new country. I haven't had a chance to see other countries besides phil cause i always wind up locked into a relationship and not wanting to leave anywhere else. But i think its time for me to let go of this relationship stuff and start casually dating and see other parts of asia.

I'm such a sex maniac it's hard for me to do that though and i hate sitting alone in the hotel so I wind up going for the instant girlfriend option. I have work to do everyday with my online but its the kind of work im not under pressure to do i can do it anytime and if i delay it ill still make passiv emoney. So i can be bored in my hotel room and thats why i always wind up with the lower hanging fruit that will move in easily. The dating sites are a lot of work and you wind up with very few girls who are legit and attractive and will actually wind up meeting you it just seems like almost not worth it. maybe i need to try something other than dateinasia in the future.

Im just wondering how some of the foreigners deal with that lonely feeling when they travel abroad so they dont focus it entirely on p***y? I dont want to travel around cause this hotel is cheap and i already seen the surrounding areas. I guess ill just have to get used to sitting in my hotel alone somedays so I dont wind up with a girl who is not right for me.


I have a good friend, a filipina, who is always looking for a good foreign man. She is well educated decently attractive, religious, supports herself and hard working. She can't find a foreign boyfriend or husband because every guy she meets in person wants to screw on the first night, talks dirty to her, and then gives up if she isn't DTF. She's very religious and that's important to her.

I know another girl who is very attractive, quite wealthy, yet has a child. She wants a good foreigner and faithful husband. She is more open and has slept with foreigners but can't find a good man because they dump her after a few days of sex to go off with some bar girl.

What is my point here. Good faithful girls are everywhere in that country; I know a handful or two of them myself. Most are attractive, some average and others are quite beautiful. But the problem is that you aren't looking for a wife. You want a girl who will satisfy your sexual desire and not steal your money. But most foreigners like you want that 10, with a perfect body, who's a freak in the bed, faithful, doesn't need your money, and provides you with your fantasy life. Hate to break it to you but they are few and far between. Then when you get tired of screwing all those visually enticing bar girls and realize they are simply a means, you start to piss and moan saying the country is terrible for a wife. Really, terrible? As compared to what? Spending a few weeks there or a month is still limiting your chances of finding a good quality girl. Hanging out in bars is limiting your chance at finding a quality girl. Going on DIA is limiting your chance at finding a quality girl. Caring only about sex is limiting your chance to find a quality girl. Caring only about looks is limiting your chance at finding a quality girl. I'm not saying you should settle but ease up on your expectations. How many countries in the world can you have multiple dates everyday?

Here's some tips that have helped me succeed:

1) stay away from bar girls
2) stay away from girls who don't have jobs and/or a degree or have stated they don't care about age
3) Get out of Manila or Angeles, go to cebu or even better Davao or Cagayan de Oro
4) Get off DIA and try Filipino Cupid, its only 30 bucks for a month
5) Enjoy the culture. Get off your ass, walk the streets, try the food, hike some mountains or Volcanoes, volunteer with street children, see some sites, meet some friends. It will take the pressure off I assure you.
6) Get your mind off of sex! If yah need it just plow a bar girl and get back to your life
7) Finally ease up in the looks department. The girl I'm with now is an angel but she isn't a ten either. She's short 5'1-5"2 105lbs. Cute face, dark complexion and nice petite frame. Is she a supermodel, no but she is definitely an attractive girl with a good heart. If I was like I used to be, I'd pass her up in an instance cuz she doesn't have D tits and a fat ass. But I'm sure glad I didn't.
8) work on your appearance as well. Maybe hit the gym and get fit. Find a better style and take care of yourself. Stay busy!
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Postby Taco » Tue May 06, 2014 10:32 pm

Its obvious your not ready to get married yet, don't worry about it. If you grew up in western country your not going to be too interested in finding a wife and starting a family. Being around loud, arrogant, promiscuous your whole life will make you biased against the institution of marriage in general. I can tell you most of the women in the Philippines will not make good wives for a variety of reasons. However, the population of Filipinas that are wife material is greater than any country I've ever been to with the exception of Luzon.
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Re: I think its better to jerk off and stay home than back p

Postby newlifeinphilippines » Wed May 07, 2014 3:09 am

hammanta wrote:
newlifeinphilippines wrote:After 4 trips and 2 girlfriends (one bargirl and one good girl) living with me and meeting other girls here along the way but not too much mostly just those 2 if you don't count bargirls. I've sort of come to teh conclusion of what other foreigners are saying that philippines isn't really the wife paradise as advertised. Its maybe easy to get p***y from 5 or 6 and if you go higher than that they are dirt poor or have some other hangup not making them wife material. I think im gonna stay home in 2015 it just seems like a lot of money and time invested in a dirt poor country and in the end ill just have some poor girl mooching off me. I have some eyes on some church girls but they will be hard to court especially since i have a girlfriend and they might not be up for casual sex from what i observed from a distance. I have a lot of memories on video and in my mind and I'm thinking maybe i just need to stay home in 2015 and take a break.

I think if i come back it wont be for this girl and maybe ill just go casual dating and also visit thailand and japan just so i can say i been to other countries so its not all about plowing easy p***y in philippins but also for the adventure of seeing new country. I haven't had a chance to see other countries besides phil cause i always wind up locked into a relationship and not wanting to leave anywhere else. But i think its time for me to let go of this relationship stuff and start casually dating and see other parts of asia.

I'm such a sex maniac it's hard for me to do that though and i hate sitting alone in the hotel so I wind up going for the instant girlfriend option. I have work to do everyday with my online but its the kind of work im not under pressure to do i can do it anytime and if i delay it ill still make passiv emoney. So i can be bored in my hotel room and thats why i always wind up with the lower hanging fruit that will move in easily. The dating sites are a lot of work and you wind up with very few girls who are legit and attractive and will actually wind up meeting you it just seems like almost not worth it. maybe i need to try something other than dateinasia in the future.

Im just wondering how some of the foreigners deal with that lonely feeling when they travel abroad so they dont focus it entirely on p***y? I dont want to travel around cause this hotel is cheap and i already seen the surrounding areas. I guess ill just have to get used to sitting in my hotel alone somedays so I dont wind up with a girl who is not right for me.


I have a good friend, a filipina, who is always looking for a good foreign man. She is well educated decently attractive, religious, supports herself and hard working. She can't find a foreign boyfriend or husband because every guy she meets in person wants to screw on the first night, talks dirty to her, and then gives up if she isn't DTF. She's very religious and that's important to her.

I know another girl who is very attractive, quite wealthy, yet has a child. She wants a good foreigner and faithful husband. She is more open and has slept with foreigners but can't find a good man because they dump her after a few days of sex to go off with some bar girl.

What is my point here. Good faithful girls are everywhere in that country; I know a handful or two of them myself. Most are attractive, some average and others are quite beautiful. But the problem is that you aren't looking for a wife. You want a girl who will satisfy your sexual desire and not steal your money. But most foreigners like you want that 10, with a perfect body, who's a freak in the bed, faithful, doesn't need your money, and provides you with your fantasy life. Hate to break it to you but they are few and far between. Then when you get tired of screwing all those visually enticing bar girls and realize they are simply a means, you start to piss and moan saying the country is terrible for a wife. Really, terrible? As compared to what? Spending a few weeks there or a month is still limiting your chances of finding a good quality girl. Hanging out in bars is limiting your chance at finding a quality girl. Going on DIA is limiting your chance at finding a quality girl. Caring only about sex is limiting your chance to find a quality girl. Caring only about looks is limiting your chance at finding a quality girl. I'm not saying you should settle but ease up on your expectations. How many countries in the world can you have multiple dates everyday?

Here's some tips that have helped me succeed:

1) stay away from bar girls
2) stay away from girls who don't have jobs and/or a degree or have stated they don't care about age
3) Get out of Manila or Angeles, go to cebu or even better Davao or Cagayan de Oro
4) Get off DIA and try Filipino Cupid, its only 30 bucks for a month
5) Enjoy the culture. Get off your a**, walk the streets, try the food, hike some mountains or Volcanoes, volunteer with street children, see some sites, meet some friends. It will take the pressure off I assure you.
6) Get your mind off of sex! If yah need it just plow a bar girl and get back to your life
7) Finally ease up in the looks department. The girl I'm with now is an angel but she isn't a ten either. She's short 5'1-5"2 105lbs. Cute face, dark complexion and nice petite frame. Is she a supermodel, no but she is definitely an attractive girl with a good heart. If I was like I used to be, I'd pass her up in an instance cuz she doesn't have D breasts and a fat a**. But I'm sure glad I didn't.
8) work on your appearance as well. Maybe hit the gym and get fit. Find a better style and take care of yourself. Stay busy!


yeah ill try filipinocupid in the future DIA for 2 months was a joke. I dont know what part of philippines oyu were in but cebu doesn't have good quality on the dating sites cause its a sex destination and tons of foreigners going there. maybe davao or CDO is better like you said did you go there from the dating sites?
yeah teh girl im with now didn't have a job at the moment or degree she is basically just mooching off me. She is a decent girl in the sense she isn't a total slut with a big past. but she wanted to move in right away off the dating site lol she is so asexual in her personality and sex wise it is a turn off. she is good at sex but only to please me so it kills me. this girl is attractive but my bargirl girlfriend was sexier and combined with her asexual behaviour i can't get over it. the thing is looks isn't everything but the girl has to be a 9 in sex and personality if she is onyl a 6 in looks. this girl gives attidude and isn't very romantic or into me like i think she should be. like my bargirl was. she was great personality and 10 in sex. but she was a bargirl so coul never be relationship material even though i thought i had turned her into that lol

hammanta how did you figure this last girl was "the one". I mean the girl im with was ok the first few days but she isn't really the connection or sexual chemistry im looking for. so what made the girl your with so special? YOu said she is an angel but many filipinas are and you said she is not that attractive so i dont get it. i think you said you found her right before you got home so it seems like you really dont know yet how great she is. you wont know till you spend weeks living together or something.
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Re: I think its better to jerk off and stay home than back p

Postby hammanta » Wed May 07, 2014 4:57 pm

newlifeinphilippines wrote:
hammanta wrote:
newlifeinphilippines wrote:After 4 trips and 2 girlfriends (one bargirl and one good girl) living with me and meeting other girls here along the way but not too much mostly just those 2 if you don't count bargirls. I've sort of come to teh conclusion of what other foreigners are saying that philippines isn't really the wife paradise as advertised. Its maybe easy to get p***y from 5 or 6 and if you go higher than that they are dirt poor or have some other hangup not making them wife material. I think im gonna stay home in 2015 it just seems like a lot of money and time invested in a dirt poor country and in the end ill just have some poor girl mooching off me. I have some eyes on some church girls but they will be hard to court especially since i have a girlfriend and they might not be up for casual sex from what i observed from a distance. I have a lot of memories on video and in my mind and I'm thinking maybe i just need to stay home in 2015 and take a break.

I think if i come back it wont be for this girl and maybe ill just go casual dating and also visit thailand and japan just so i can say i been to other countries so its not all about plowing easy p***y in philippins but also for the adventure of seeing new country. I haven't had a chance to see other countries besides phil cause i always wind up locked into a relationship and not wanting to leave anywhere else. But i think its time for me to let go of this relationship stuff and start casually dating and see other parts of asia.

I'm such a sex maniac it's hard for me to do that though and i hate sitting alone in the hotel so I wind up going for the instant girlfriend option. I have work to do everyday with my online but its the kind of work im not under pressure to do i can do it anytime and if i delay it ill still make passiv emoney. So i can be bored in my hotel room and thats why i always wind up with the lower hanging fruit that will move in easily. The dating sites are a lot of work and you wind up with very few girls who are legit and attractive and will actually wind up meeting you it just seems like almost not worth it. maybe i need to try something other than dateinasia in the future.

Im just wondering how some of the foreigners deal with that lonely feeling when they travel abroad so they dont focus it entirely on p***y? I dont want to travel around cause this hotel is cheap and i already seen the surrounding areas. I guess ill just have to get used to sitting in my hotel alone somedays so I dont wind up with a girl who is not right for me.


I have a good friend, a filipina, who is always looking for a good foreign man. She is well educated decently attractive, religious, supports herself and hard working. She can't find a foreign boyfriend or husband because every guy she meets in person wants to screw on the first night, talks dirty to her, and then gives up if she isn't DTF. She's very religious and that's important to her.

I know another girl who is very attractive, quite wealthy, yet has a child. She wants a good foreigner and faithful husband. She is more open and has slept with foreigners but can't find a good man because they dump her after a few days of sex to go off with some bar girl.

What is my point here. Good faithful girls are everywhere in that country; I know a handful or two of them myself. Most are attractive, some average and others are quite beautiful. But the problem is that you aren't looking for a wife. You want a girl who will satisfy your sexual desire and not steal your money. But most foreigners like you want that 10, with a perfect body, who's a freak in the bed, faithful, doesn't need your money, and provides you with your fantasy life. Hate to break it to you but they are few and far between. Then when you get tired of screwing all those visually enticing bar girls and realize they are simply a means, you start to piss and moan saying the country is terrible for a wife. Really, terrible? As compared to what? Spending a few weeks there or a month is still limiting your chances of finding a good quality girl. Hanging out in bars is limiting your chance at finding a quality girl. Going on DIA is limiting your chance at finding a quality girl. Caring only about sex is limiting your chance to find a quality girl. Caring only about looks is limiting your chance at finding a quality girl. I'm not saying you should settle but ease up on your expectations. How many countries in the world can you have multiple dates everyday?

Here's some tips that have helped me succeed:

1) stay away from bar girls
2) stay away from girls who don't have jobs and/or a degree or have stated they don't care about age
3) Get out of Manila or Angeles, go to cebu or even better Davao or Cagayan de Oro
4) Get off DIA and try Filipino Cupid, its only 30 bucks for a month
5) Enjoy the culture. Get off your a**, walk the streets, try the food, hike some mountains or Volcanoes, volunteer with street children, see some sites, meet some friends. It will take the pressure off I assure you.
6) Get your mind off of sex! If yah need it just plow a bar girl and get back to your life
7) Finally ease up in the looks department. The girl I'm with now is an angel but she isn't a ten either. She's short 5'1-5"2 105lbs. Cute face, dark complexion and nice petite frame. Is she a supermodel, no but she is definitely an attractive girl with a good heart. If I was like I used to be, I'd pass her up in an instance cuz she doesn't have D breasts and a fat a**. But I'm sure glad I didn't.
8) work on your appearance as well. Maybe hit the gym and get fit. Find a better style and take care of yourself. Stay busy!


yeah ill try filipinocupid in the future DIA for 2 months was a joke. I dont know what part of philippines oyu were in but cebu doesn't have good quality on the dating sites cause its a sex destination and tons of foreigners going there. maybe davao or CDO is better like you said did you go there from the dating sites?
yeah teh girl im with now didn't have a job at the moment or degree she is basically just mooching off me. She is a decent girl in the sense she isn't a total slut with a big past. but she wanted to move in right away off the dating site lol she is so asexual in her personality and sex wise it is a turn off. she is good at sex but only to please me so it kills me. this girl is attractive but my bargirl girlfriend was sexier and combined with her asexual behaviour i can't get over it. the thing is looks isn't everything but the girl has to be a 9 in sex and personality if she is onyl a 6 in looks. this girl gives attidude and isn't very romantic or into me like i think she should be. like my bargirl was. she was great personality and 10 in sex. but she was a bargirl so coul never be relationship material even though i thought i had turned her into that lol

hammanta how did you figure this last girl was "the one". I mean the girl im with was ok the first few days but she isn't really the connection or sexual chemistry im looking for. so what made the girl your with so special? YOu said she is an angel but many filipinas are and you said she is not that attractive so i dont get it. i think you said you found her right before you got home so it seems like you really dont know yet how great she is. you wont know till you spend weeks living together or something.


I understand your situation but like everywhere, not every single girl is gonna be compatible with you. I feel when it comes to sex it's up to the man to offer new interesting ways and not always concentrate on yourself. If you make her enjoy it you will enjoy. That's my philosophy. From my experience Filipinas are just like most American women. Some are freaks, some are terrible, and others are average at best. I don't think there is a culture anywhere in the world where women are all sexually adventurous.

As far as my current girl I never said she was the "one" and I said she was no 10 in the looks department but she is definitely cute and attractive.. You are right though I never lived with her and only visited her for a week. I'm still young, 24, so marriage is far into the future for me. I'm more interested in traveling, being in other cultures, and meeting women from around the world. I live in a rural area with very few acceptable females so going online wasn't a big deal for me as I refuse to date women from my area. (I don't consider myself a bad looking guy or socially awkward by any means)

I spoke to her online for a few months before I decided to meet her on my trip in early February. So I've been speaking with her daily for 6-7 months. The thing that I appreciate in women is intelligence, goal oriented, humor, sense of adventure and a decent amount of attractiveness. She has all of these. When we met she had already booked my hotel, took me to eat, and had planned multiple activities for us to do. She gave me a lot of attention even around her friends and paid for majority of things. She was down to earth, talkative extremely hardworking, and has never asked for a dime. She even jokes about it and looks down on girls who do that. Through personal experience with filipinas on my multiple trips and the hours of conversations we have, I can tell she is my type.

I feel the big things to find in a filipina is that she is educated, self sufficient, and has a personality, preferably humorous and adventurous. If you can find those than there is a basis point for further interaction and discovery. My advice is to try dating sites like Filipinocupid and cherry blossoms or traveling sites like couchsurfing and worldfriends. Find the girls who actually have something to say on their profile. Something interesting and genuine. If they talk a good bit online and aren't dull try and continue the convo. Don't look for sex right away.

My opinions come from about 3 months traveling around the country on multiple trips staying with local families plus interactions with filipino-american couples in my area. I immerse my self in the culture and have literally about 50-60 close filipina/o friends I keep in contact with. I am by no means a sex traveler and I'm not looking for a wife right away, but I have dated many filipinas and had a year long "relationship" with one as well. Do to this I feel my opinions are valid.
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Postby xiongmao » Wed May 07, 2014 7:20 pm

I hear you man.

I spent 6 months in Bangkok and then decided to come home. I wasn't exactly wasting my life there, but as I spent so much time in front of my computer during the days (when decent girls are working) I thought I might as well come home and get a job.

I heard that a wise man knows when to leave Thailand. So true.

There are good wife-material girls in every country, but they take a lot of searching for. And the problem is that 9's and 10's make pretty useless wives, so it's always a compromise.

I had some great experiences in Asia last year but honestly the best thing I did was to learn bootstrap/jQuery/json and a few other things that are paying off back home.

I definitely feel a lot different these days. Spending a year abroad is one of the most red pill things you can do. But I also appreciate my home country more. It's crap for dating, but the food is good, there's lots to do and quality of life is great.
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Postby collide » Wed May 07, 2014 11:31 pm

You have to find a place that's enjoyable to live in while having decent women at the same time. If you plan to live somewhere solely for the women you'll probably end up coming home jaded.

I spent 2 years in Japan and I could have easily spent another 8 years there happily (if there were more job opportunities). Even discounting the women, it's simply an enjoyable place to live.

Part of me really wants to check out the Philippines for the women but deep down I kind of know that I'll be miserable in every other aspect. I may just visit briefly for fun, but long term seems out of the question at the moment.
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Postby hammanta » Thu May 08, 2014 1:48 am

collide wrote:You have to find a place that's enjoyable to live in while having decent women at the same time. If you plan to live somewhere solely for the women you'll probably end up coming home jaded.

I spent 2 years in Japan and I could have easily spent another 8 years there happily (if there were more job opportunities). Even discounting the women, it's simply an enjoyable place to live.

Part of me really wants to check out the Philippines for the women but deep down I kind of know that I'll be miserable in every other aspect. I may just visit briefly for fun, but long term seems out of the question at the moment.


I think it depends on what makes you happy and how you define quality of life. Philippines offers beautiful pleasant ladies, cheap things, amazing scenery, hot tropical climate year around, friendliest people in the world, and a slower pace of life. Downfalls are mediocre food, lower level of basic facilities, horrible WIFI, extremely hot summers, lack of jobs, lower quality of basic goods, and a lot of scams against foreigners.

Personally if I was financially free I'd choose the philippines over any developed country because of the quality of social interaction and overall pleasantries of life. And sure women have a little to do with it as well.
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Postby Jester » Thu May 08, 2014 5:27 am

collide wrote:
You have to find a place that's enjoyable to live in while having decent women at the same time. If you plan to live somewhere solely for the women you'll probably end up coming home jaded.

I spent 2 years in Japan and I could have easily spent another 8 years there happily (if there were more job opportunities). Even discounting the women, it's simply an enjoyable place to live.


Part of me really wants to check out the Philippines for the women but deep down I kind of know that I'll be miserable in every other aspect. I may just visit briefly for fun, but long term seems out of the question at the moment.



Great point!

Japan intrigues me... I'm interested for myself but also for one of my sons.

What did you like so much about Japan?
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Postby newlifeinphilippines » Thu May 08, 2014 5:32 am

I have to say i kinda feel different now cause she finally admitted to me her story with her family and how her dad and mom basically abandoned her at 16 and now she has a new fake family since then (she is 22) but really she has no real family anymore etc that loves her. She cried about it and i know her story checks out cause i suspected it before but now i feel bad for how i treated her. I have a better understanding of her situation. I dont really feel she is right for me but i understand her situation and maybe now why she isn't as romantic/emotion/sexual as some girls. She never have a guy or anyone treat her like this her own dad never even went to her graduation and her mother ran off also. I may see her again not sure but she is becoming a friend to me and Im trying to balance it between doing what is best for me and and sacrificing myself.
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Postby newlifeinphilippines » Thu May 08, 2014 5:44 am

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collide wrote:You have to find a place that's enjoyable to live in while having decent women at the same time. If you plan to live somewhere solely for the women you'll probably end up coming home jaded.

I spent 2 years in Japan and I could have easily spent another 8 years there happily (if there were more job opportunities). Even discounting the women, it's simply an enjoyable place to live.

Part of me really wants to check out the Philippines for the women but deep down I kind of know that I'll be miserable in every other aspect. I may just visit briefly for fun, but long term seems out of the question at the moment.


I think it depends on what makes you happy and how you define quality of life. Philippines offers beautiful pleasant ladies, cheap things, amazing scenery, hot tropical climate year around, friendliest people in the world, and a slower pace of life. Downfalls are mediocre food, lower level of basic facilities, horrible WIFI, extremely hot summers, lack of jobs, lower quality of basic goods, and a lot of scams against foreigners.

Personally if I was financially free I'd choose the philippines over any developed country because of the quality of social interaction and overall pleasantries of life. And sure women have a little to do with it as well.


I thought you met the girl towards the end of the trip didn't know you had chatted for 7 months. did she have sex with you right away just curious? Cause i can't stand a woman who wants to book a hotel or meet me at airport and not give sex seriously. Its like either you want to have sex or dont insult me by insunuating an airport and your my girlfriend and serious for me. I dont want a girl claiming me her girlfriend from an online relationship if she wont give up sex right away. i had some girl who wanted to meet me who i suspected would be like that and i decided no cause it would be awkward and i dont want a girl claiming me. other girls made it obvious they would have sex if they met me at airport, like my current girl.

im fairly financailly free even though im 32 and can travel anywhere cause of my online work but i prefer to be in the states cause its better and my family is there and all and i can live cheap there due to my situation. but if my parents were dead i would consider maybe living abroad for a more permanent basis cause of the women and friendly people. but its getting old also to me and thats why i sometimes think its better to go home and jerk off and forget women. i dont really like anything else in teh country but its starting to get old after awhile. once you get bored of the women you get bored of teh country. im not sure if im coming back i feel a bit bad about this new girl and her situation and she is becoming a friend o me.
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Re: Japan

Postby collide » Thu May 08, 2014 6:51 am

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You have to find a place that's enjoyable to live in while having decent women at the same time. If you plan to live somewhere solely for the women you'll probably end up coming home jaded.

I spent 2 years in Japan and I could have easily spent another 8 years there happily (if there were more job opportunities). Even discounting the women, it's simply an enjoyable place to live.


Part of me really wants to check out the Philippines for the women but deep down I kind of know that I'll be miserable in every other aspect. I may just visit briefly for fun, but long term seems out of the question at the moment.



Great point!

Japan intrigues me... I'm interested for myself but also for one of my sons.

What did you like so much about Japan?


Japan is extremely safe and everyone is polite. There is a Zen feeling being in Japan that I didn't experience anywhere else. A feeling that no matter what you do, everything will be fine. Drop your wallet? Someone returns it to the police station. I would travel to small cities on the weekends and if the hotels were full i'd just sleep on a bench, knowing nobody will harm me.

The girls are very pretty, especially in the north. They aren't as easy to get as in say, SEA or China, but there is more quality and if you bother to learn the language, getting a girl is no problem. Given that Japan is a very wealthy country, you don't have to be thinking "is this girl dating me for my money?" because to the Japanese, you have no money.

Food is a huge plus to me because not only is it tasty, its "picky westerner" approved. I fall into this category, and I can eat basically everything on a menu there. I cant say the same about other Asian countries.

The Japanese really enjoy nightlife. They go out to restaurants, karaoke and bars all the time. Its not just a Friday and Saturday thing. They bust their ass at work so they really let loose after 8pm.


Now the con of course is cost of living. Very expensive country, so if you plan on making your own income, this isn't the right country to settle in. And visas aren't easy here.
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Re: Japan

Postby Jester » Thu May 08, 2014 2:34 pm

collide wrote:
Jester wrote:
What did you like so much about Japan?



Japan is extremely safe and everyone is polite. There is a Zen feeling being in Japan that I didn't experience anywhere else. A feeling that no matter what you do, everything will be fine. Drop your wallet? Someone returns it to the police station. I would travel to small cities on the weekends and if the hotels were full i'd just sleep on a bench, knowing nobody will harm me.

The girls are very pretty, especially in the north. They aren't as easy to get as in say, SEA or China, but there is more quality and if you bother to learn the language, getting a girl is no problem. Given that Japan is a very wealthy country, you don't have to be thinking "is this girl dating me for my money?" because to the Japanese, you have no money.

Food is a huge plus to me because not only is it tasty, its "picky westerner" approved. I fall into this category, and I can eat basically everything on a menu there. I cant say the same about other Asian countries.

The Japanese really enjoy nightlife. They go out to restaurants, karaoke and bars all the time. Its not just a Friday and Saturday thing. They bust their a** at work so they really let loose after 8pm.

Now the con of course is cost of living. Very expensive country, so if you plan on making your own income, this isn't the right country to settle in. And visas aren't easy here.



Great info, thanks!

Never heard that about weeknight fun, pretty northern girls, zen feeling etc. That zen feeling is what I was hoping for.

Re cost of living, I've seen one language program's material, saying that Japan's cost of living is similar to US. Tokyo like New York, small towns like US small towns. Do you disagree with this?
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Re: Japan

Postby collide » Thu May 08, 2014 6:07 pm

Jester wrote:Re cost of living, I've seen one language program's material, saying that Japan's cost of living is similar to US. Tokyo like New York, small towns like US small towns. Do you disagree with this?


Yes that's about right. Groceries and clothes are a bit more expensive in Japan but if you can manage your bills in the US you should be fine in Japan. I would say both countries are too expensive for an internet entrepreneur.
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