newlifeinphilippines wrote:For me i want hot and/or a girl who is very charming and sexual but someone i can trust too. But im christian and feel guilty for playing girls only for sex so I dont want to screw random girls that i like I prefer to settle down on one girl for a long term meaninful relationship. Problem is if you make your decision too fast you regret it. So my goals are a little different because if her looks or sexual capability aren't up to par im wasting my time. If the girl isn't very hot she better be amazing in the bed and love sex almost as much as me. i didn't get that this trip she is barely above average and doesn't even enjoy sex
so ive learned my lesson to not go for the instant girlfriend. I feel sorry for her and i started feeling lonely after i kicked her out so i let her back but i met the nurse girl real quick maybe i should have seen how that panned out before letting her back in lol i thought she would be great sex cause she wanted to move in but i learne dmonths later its cause she is an orphan sort of with a bad upbringing and was staying with a lady and her family. Im considering staying home in 2015 cause the dating sites are a pain in the a** and i want a hot girl who loves sex, which is hard to find online.
Ehhhh. Different strokes for different folks, I guess. For me, I'm looking more for an emotional and intellectual connection. I'm okay with giving a bit on the looks. To be honest, I've found most very physically attractive girls to either be huge pains in the a** or to be on the dumb side and lack substance. So I'm mostly targeting college graduates that are currently working.
For example, I was talking to 2 girls online just now. Skyped both of them. One was probably around a 6/6.5. She has a nice body and it's clear that she hits the gym a lot, but her face is just meh. Well, when we skyped, I found her to be articulate, intelligent, educated, and fun. We skyped for almost an hour. I'll definitely be seeing her (if she'll have me).
The other girl was probably a solid 7.5, maybe even close to an 8 (just not quite there). This girl was clearly a girl from a province. Dumb as dirt, to the degree that she didn't even know what region of the Philippines she lived in. Very pretty girl, but just way too dumb for me. I later checked and found that she was just a high school graduate.
I think that it will be next to impossible to find a girl that's attractive, college educated, and hard working online. I also doubt that I will able to find any girl like this on the ground during my first trip that will seriously consider me.
I haven't been to the Philippines yet, but my impression is that this kind of girl can be found once one develops contacts and relationships within this culture, which will likely take many trips over the course of at least a few years. I could be wrong, but this is my impression based on what I've read and how I've found the world to work.
Most of the people on this thread are giving you bad advice to be honest. First off that was my experience too you chat and keep in contact but they sort of lose interest or are talking to so many guys that even after skype they can still ignore you. i was chatting so many girls that even after skype i did the same thing but if hte girl messaged me i would reply back many of them will just ignore or dissapear later on. the girls always told me most guys are doing that
This has been happening to me. So I do expect it to happen more.
dont always go for educated or ones with jobs ONLY or you might have a lonely or boring trip. my girl is not educated and doesn't even have a job and i trust her more than her sister who is educated and smart and has a call center job who will screw any foreigner who takes her on a nice date and if he is handsome enough. she is a superficial evil bitch who used to be with her drug addict filipino and her mom is a mistress now for some new foreigner if you met her you would never know at first.
One of my issues is that I need to be able to talk to the girl and get along with her. It's not just about sex and looks for me. I've found girls that don't have a college degree to be on the boring side. I'm sure some are bad, but I'm sure there are some good ones out there.
I really tried to not focus on the college degree thing, but it's very difficult for me.
the one nurse girl that was attractive kept talking to me everyday i should haven't went with her. i thoght the girl at the airport was gonna be amazing at sex etc but i was highly dissapointed. she doesn't even like sex
I appreciate your advice man, but, like I said, I don't give a sh*t about sex. I'd rather hang out with a really cool girl and NOT have sex than a really boring girl and have tons of sex. That's just how I am.
i did meet her during a fight but im still not sure if she would have liked me considering she is attractive and educated (but unemployed) and has options. i think she was just looking for a visa cause she got blown out a 2nd time by a foreigner the same one she claimed she didn't like LOL and before that a half filipino foreigner. and she didn't like bossy guys. so i figure she wouldn't be easy to control like some filipinas. For me control and ego is big. im a narcissistic LOL
Yeah, I'm not sure how I feel about the control thing. In the past, different girls have brought out different things in me. I don't think I would be okay with a girl that never objects to me ever and does everything I want. I'd like a girl with some opinions, BUT not as ridiculous as the girls in the US that always want to control me. A balance between the two would be ideal for me.
So basically, I'm looking for a girl that will stand by and support me (and possibly even be able to help me out) if things go bad in life. I don't want a girl that has absolutely no understanding of these things. But I also don't want a girl that will kick me when I'm down or flat out leave me (like what women in the US would do).