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Doing Poorly On Internet Sites. How is this Possible?

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Postby Maverick » Tue Jun 03, 2014 12:47 am

jtest28 wrote:I think what may be going on is the really pretty girls you're messaging or e-mailing are already talking to someone. Thats actually a good sign in my book, it means they aren't chatting up a bunch of guys at once, I for one, hate that shit.


True. Definitely a possibility.
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Re: Doing Poorly On Internet Sites. How is this Possible?

Postby Maverick » Tue Jun 03, 2014 12:49 am

Array9 wrote:
Maverick wrote:Hey all.

I'm finally hitting up the Philippines next month. I'm going with a friend and we both joined Filipino Cupid.

For some reason, I'm doing really bad on here. Girls are responding to me, but I can't get them to Skype with me, while my friend is Skyping with a bunch and already has meet ups with some of them planned.

How is this possible? I almost want to start using PUA tactics on them...


When I was using dating sites, I was only aggressive with pretty girls(Just being honest). If I wasn't in the mood to be aggressive, I would just log in and sit back and let the girls send me a message. It was interesting to see the types of Filipinas who would contact me. I came across girls who looked as young as 13 to ladies who were much older than I was. I was never rude to anyone but I have standards.

If you need to use the online approach, I would advice you to use two diferrent sites. One free site and the other where you have to pay to contact the girls.

IMHO, PUA gimmicks are not needed in the Philippines. For the most part, Filipinas are simple girls who still look up to and revere western men.


Yeah, I assumed that about PUA. I was actually highly disappointed in the thought of doing that. Glad I've been given reasonable explanations here to turn me away from it!

And, yeah, I paid for 2 sites and I'm using Cherry Blossoms and Filipino Cupid. Probably won't renew one of them though.
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Postby steve55 » Tue Jun 03, 2014 4:47 am

I'm shocked you haven't recieved many responses. I've always got time of responses on cherry blossoms, about 20-30 messages of interest a day. CB is my favorite one. I met my current gf (potential wife) at DIA. She is an example of the fact that quality women (in terms of personality , looks, smart, and educated ) can be found there. See http://www.happierabroad.com/forum/view ... sc&start=0

I never had much luck with day game. But by using the Internet dating sites, I could pretty much meet as many girls as I had time for.

As far as problems with getting them to Skype, most Filipinas don't have a Skype account. They use yahoo chat. I bet you have more luck getting them to chat thru yahoo chat.

No day game needed in the PI. Just use the dating sites.
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Postby newlifeinphilippines » Tue Jun 03, 2014 8:13 am

Has anyone here just used the strategy of having the girls go straigtht to your hotel front and then going to the mall or even just straight to your room? I think that is the cheapest and easiest way to have a lot of girls and sex. bargirls are way too expensive if your here for months like me and also im looking for a relationship and I know from experience no matter how sweet you can never trust a bargirl. you can tell whos a hoe by how they act if they expect money or want to go to the hotel room instead of a date i will assume a hoe. If not and they sleep after first date then they still could be a hoe youd have to watch further.

ive seen peopel do tests where 2/3 are not looking for a relationship anyways. and i seen a blogger say he had mutliple girls on blind dates going to his room. i actaly had 2 girls go straight to my room LOL last year and that was only limited experience but these girls were ugly and/or desperate. one ladyboy showed up too had to kick out i was new to the site and didn't know better LOL i wouldn't consider a girl who goes straight to the room relationship material she is just a hoe.

i used to think lining up a bunch of girls on cam and weeding them out before my trip was a good strategy
but now i learned its a waste of time. i spent 2 months doing that shit and got mediocre results.
i would have been better just waiting till right before i came and going on cam and making them come
to the hotel but stress hotel only after you got their number and texting htem so they are more likely to give in cause most girls wont want to argue via text its time consuming. that way it doesn't matter who they are if they come ot your hotel (front) its worth a date with them.




I still think the best is to have them all meet at front of hotel that way you can line of dozens
of girls. You really wont even need cam in that case cause if they text
you upon arrival you can just dissapear without going with them if they appear uglier
than their pictures (3/4 do) or they seem trashier/scammy in person at first glance.
If you go out on blind dates at the mall many girls will show up late or flake
and youll be sitting around like a dork waiting for them. Also the girls who want a chaperone
or are very conservative wont meed a blind date at front of hotel so if you haven't talked
to the girl much chances are you will get sex if she can meet at front of hotel.
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Postby newlifeinphilippines » Tue Jun 03, 2014 8:26 am

steve55 wrote:I'm shocked you haven't recieved many responses. I've always got time of responses on cherry blossoms, about 20-30 messages of interest a day. CB is my favorite one. I met my current gf (potential wife) at DIA. She is an example of the fact that quality women (in terms of personality , looks, smart, and educated ) can be found there. See http://www.happierabroad.com/forum/view ... sc&start=0

I never had much luck with day game. But by using the Internet dating sites, I could pretty much meet as many girls as I had time for.

As far as problems with getting them to Skype, most Filipinas don't have a Skype account. They use yahoo chat. I bet you have more luck getting them to chat thru yahoo chat.

No day game needed in the PI. Just use the dating sites.


how many girls did you approach for day game? did you just hand them your number or ask for it? Did you get any hot women on dates from day game?
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Postby newlifeinphilippines » Tue Jun 03, 2014 8:31 am

Also i think its location. Cebu city is swamped from my experience. i notice a lot of girls in mindanao will message me spontaneously i think cause many guys dont go there. I stick to certain locations cause its cheap and im familiar i dont want to go traveling to the backwoods and pay more in some unfamiliar area cause its easier to find a pretty girl. but im starting to wonder if i have to do that.


Steve where did you meet your girl online at? Maybe one has to stay out of manila metro and cebu metro for best results.
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Postby newlifeinphilippines » Tue Jun 03, 2014 11:26 am

I think this guy has it right except i would get them on cam first usually cause most girls are uglier than their pics and also i wouldn't invite them to my room cause they will be p4p only type girls.

http://swooptheworld.com/how-to-bang-3- ... ilippines/

one person also told me if they ask for money to pay for taxi then they are p4p. the two girls who went to my room did that so i guess that is one other measure to know.
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Postby starchild5 » Tue Jun 03, 2014 1:21 pm

I'm in the Philippines right now and being Indian lowest on dating radar..I have noticed...The number of calls have come down compared to few years earlier....and then out of curiosity i checked men profiles and there are lots of gold and platinum in filipina cupid than before and even guys from Switzerland to France to spain to germany are showing up age from 32 to 65.....

earlier...I used to get text message every other minute and had to keep a notepad file right now, the calls have dropped like 60% for me ...Its seems the entire horny, single, married, divorced men have finally found out about the Philippines....my days are over...I'm just holding onto the the ones who come....earlier i could let them go..but cant afford them now
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Postby zboy1 » Tue Jun 03, 2014 1:33 pm

starchild5 wrote:I'm in the Philippines right now and being Indian lowest on dating radar..I have noticed...The number of calls have come down compared to few years earlier....and then out of curiosity i checked men profiles and there are lots of gold and platinum in filipina cupid than before and even guys from Switzerland to France to spain to germany are showing up age from 32 to 65.....

earlier...I used to get text message every other minute and had to keep a notepad file right now, the calls have dropped like 60% for me ...Its seems the entire horny, single, married, divorced men have finally found out about the Philippines....my days are over...I'm just holding onto the the ones who come....earlier i could let them go..but cant afford them now


Yeah, that's one of the drawbacks with the PUA and MRA crowd: now every Tom, Dick and Harry in the West wants a foreign wife--which means greater competition and eventual Westernization of foreign females in the future, sigh...

This is one of E_Irizzary's biggest complaints--and I can see why now...
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Postby newlifeinphilippines » Tue Jun 03, 2014 2:05 pm

maybe we should all head off to jakarta then. I think that may be the next new hotspot. how many girls know english though there? is there a lot of pickings? Im not muslim either though. any christians living there?
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Postby hammanta » Tue Jun 03, 2014 4:41 pm

jtest28 wrote:
Maverick wrote:Did you actually end up meeting up with these girls?

I get the feeling that many of them are either scammers or hookers. I don't know if I believe that any of them are on the sites for legit reasons.

I have actually never been asked for money except once. And I did meet the one woman I had decided on and am engaged now. Although, if you can, I would still recommend finding non-dating site girls though, just a bit better quality is all. Theres a shit load of good women there, especially the ones who are just out and about, working jobs, living life, etc. But even the on-line girls aren't necessarily all bad. They get jerked around plenty by the men, probably much more so than we do by them. My fiancé told me every man who ever chatted with her, when his cam came on-line, he was already naked and then started jacking off. In fact, most of the girls I were chatting with said they had the same experiences, even the older ones in their late 40s. And when she told one of her cousins about me and showed her my pic and also she saw me on chat once when she was visiting my fiancé, she seemed shocked and said she didn't know there were any good men left on CB anymore. So my advice is paint yourself up as a good man, what I did, was on my profile, I stated how I hate to date endless girls and hate one night stands. And after I did that, my traffic doubled up overnight!


I'd listen to the man. Some good advice.

Some tips that helped me that I will add...

1) Keep your profile signed on. Remember the philippines is 8-12 hours difference depending on what part of the states you are from. When you are sleeping or its early morning is when most of the girls are on.

2) Have an honest lengthy profile. Describe your likes and admiration of the Philippines culture and state that you are coming soon and are interested in meeting a good girl. Not bargirls or gold diggers.

3) I wouldn't keep chatting with the girl on the site. After a few convos let her know that you are tired of all the fakes online and ask if you could chat on skype or viber or whattsapp. Don't jump too quickly to cam. Just instant message for a little.

4) Put down the guys that are scammers. In a joking way but acknowledge the fact that there are some weirdos on the site and by no means NEVER start talking about sex unless she intiates it, which she won't if she is a good girl.

5) Have as many pics as allowed. Make them handsome pics or your best ones and none showing your wannabe six pack or drinking a beer. I had a pic of me drinking a beer as my profile pic one time. I shortly found out that was a bad move because that shows girls that you may have a wild side or will be unfaithful

6) To get simply more action, just message a bunch of girls saying something like this. "Hey I liked your profile and you seem interesting and genuine. I'm not on here very often but I'd love to chat with you more. Do you have skype or an instant messenger?" I'd get a ton of responses back.

7) Don't limit your selection to just Manila. I don't care what others have said, Mindinao is the place to find Filipinas, at least good ones. Just limit your selection to educated, has a job, and non-goldigging.

This is all I got right now, message me if yah want more info
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Postby hammanta » Tue Jun 03, 2014 4:50 pm

Also to add,

I don't think people utilize sites like world friends or Couchsurfing nearly enough. They aren't dating sites but are a fantastic way to meet locals and find out about events. Basically you are meeting friends and opening up your social circle which is invaluable in the Philippines. It is not taboo like online dating because people are naturally interested in meeting other travelers. Plus I've met some people whom have taken me to some badass bars I'd never known about and it kills the loneliness vibe. If you are 20-40 I'd try this out. Older than that might be a little out of place but still worth a shot. Once you meet then you can maybe get a connection.
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Postby newlifeinphilippines » Tue Jun 03, 2014 5:14 pm

hammanta wrote:
jtest28 wrote:
Maverick wrote:Did you actually end up meeting up with these girls?

I get the feeling that many of them are either scammers or hookers. I don't know if I believe that any of them are on the sites for legit reasons.

I have actually never been asked for money except once. And I did meet the one woman I had decided on and am engaged now. Although, if you can, I would still recommend finding non-dating site girls though, just a bit better quality is all. Theres a shit load of good women there, especially the ones who are just out and about, working jobs, living life, etc. But even the on-line girls aren't necessarily all bad. They get jerked around plenty by the men, probably much more so than we do by them. My fiancé told me every man who ever chatted with her, when his cam came on-line, he was already naked and then started jacking off. In fact, most of the girls I were chatting with said they had the same experiences, even the older ones in their late 40s. And when she told one of her cousins about me and showed her my pic and also she saw me on chat once when she was visiting my fiancé, she seemed shocked and said she didn't know there were any good men left on CB anymore. So my advice is paint yourself up as a good man, what I did, was on my profile, I stated how I hate to date endless girls and hate one night stands. And after I did that, my traffic doubled up overnight!


I'd listen to the man. Some good advice.

Some tips that helped me that I will add...

1) Keep your profile signed on. Remember the philippines is 8-12 hours difference depending on what part of the states you are from. When you are sleeping or its early morning is when most of the girls are on.

2) Have an honest lengthy profile. Describe your likes and admiration of the Philippines culture and state that you are coming soon and are interested in meeting a good girl. Not bargirls or gold diggers.

3) I wouldn't keep chatting with the girl on the site. After a few convos let her know that you are tired of all the fakes online and ask if you could chat on skype or viber or whattsapp. Don't jump too quickly to cam. Just instant message for a little.

4) Put down the guys that are scammers. In a joking way but acknowledge the fact that there are some weirdos on the site and by no means NEVER start talking about sex unless she intiates it, which she won't if she is a good girl.

5) Have as many pics as allowed. Make them handsome pics or your best ones and none showing your wannabe six pack or drinking a beer. I had a pic of me drinking a beer as my profile pic one time. I shortly found out that was a bad move because that shows girls that you may have a wild side or will be unfaithful

6) To get simply more action, just message a bunch of girls saying something like this. "Hey I liked your profile and you seem interesting and genuine. I'm not on here very often but I'd love to chat with you more. Do you have skype or an instant messenger?" I'd get a ton of responses back.

7) Don't limit your selection to just Manila. I don't care what others have said, Mindinao is the place to find Filipinas, at least good ones. Just limit your selection to educated, has a job, and non-goldigging.

This is all I got right now, message me if yah want more info


I dont remember the poster saying he was looking for a wife on his first trip. educated, has a job, non gold digging just eliminated 99.9 percent of the people on that site. Some of us are sex starved in america and for us to eliminate almost all the people on the site is just ridiculous. If you use your big head you can just control yourself and not wife the bad ones and dont fall for their scams and if they ask money go onto the next one all the while you get sex to boot lol. Getting rid of 99 percent of the girls cause you want a saint is ridiculous and would make the trip rather boring. Not all of us are living there or looking for a wife. If you want a wife on first trip or moving there thats a whole different strategy but i dont think thats the goal of most guys here at least not on first trip. You met some nice girls on your trip as youve said before and in the end you got no sex with those particular ones and are now home. so what was the point? You weren't searching for a wife or a long distance relationship for many years. If a guy is ready to find a wife right away then maybe he should eliminate all the girls online otherwise he shouldn't be so picky and just try to avoid obvious scammers and hoes. dont be fooled by nursing girls either if they are unemployed or working in a call center had one nurse girl and her aunt working the dating sites ready to mooch off the first guy giving her attention. Nurses are dime a dozen there :P

Seriously i was on dateinasia for over 2 months and compiled a very long organized format to keep track of things. id say maybe out of 300 or 400 contacts maybe only a handful met that requirement but NONE showed interest they lost it quickly or i never got htem on cam or they didn't seem that interested in me they were chatting with tons of guys and i was chatting with tons of girls and it wa hard to build rapport. Most of the attention comes from unemplyed (even if they are nurses) or students (poor) and/ or unemployed or single mothers.


Its funny how guys have been living here for years and can't even find a decent woman so since the odds are so low i think the best strategy now is not to mess around and just pipeline these girls in mass once you get here. Then you might have a shot at finding someone you like. Forget trying to build rapport with them over months before coming here. most will forget you or not even care by the time you land your plane except teh unemployed users or milfs who are desperate. you just have to wait till you get to philippines and just start contacting them from your hotel room and tell them to meet at your hotel. anything else is a waste of time. if you start hitting up dating sites too far ahead of your trip they either will lose interest if you start talking to them weeks in advance, find someone else, or you may find someone else and all that time was wasted. and the ones you do keep itnerested still might flake or be late at the mall.

i think that one poster had it right just line them up at your hotel room and I will add suggest to then go to the mall. if you can't see them on cam you can at least reject them at your place without even having to leave your hotel and if you cant see them on cam and the are late or flake nothing lost. this blind date meeting at the mall bullcrap is for guys who are living there and can spend years looking for ms right. I suggest anyone here for 6 months or less just to pipeline these girls one after another from your hotel room. make sure you get them on cam before you even invite them to the hotel cause most are uglier than their pics.

mindanao girls are not my thing my girl is from mindanao and chatting with other girls online in mindanao i found they all had very reserved and dry personalities. I find manila and cebuana girls that have more of a personality and not so reserved and probably more sexual. but they may not make the best wives mindanao would be better for that. i guess it depends on what they want.
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Postby hammanta » Tue Jun 03, 2014 7:35 pm

I dont remember the poster saying he was looking for a wife on his first trip. educated, has a job, non gold digging just eliminated 99.9 percent of the people on that site. Some of us are sex starved in america and for us to eliminate almost all the people on the site is just ridiculous. If you use your big head you can just control yourself and not wife the bad ones and dont fall for their scams and if they ask money go onto the next one all the while you get sex to boot lol. Getting rid of 99 percent of the girls cause you want a saint is ridiculous and would make the trip rather boring. Not all of us are living there or looking for a wife. If you want a wife on first trip or moving there thats a whole different strategy but i dont think thats the goal of most guys here at least not on first trip. You met some nice girls on your trip as youve said before and in the end you got no sex with those particular ones and are now home. so what was the point? You weren't searching for a wife or a long distance relationship for many years. If a guy is ready to find a wife right away then maybe he should eliminate all the girls online otherwise he shouldn't be so picky and just try to avoid obvious scammers and hoes. dont be fooled by nursing girls either if they are unemployed or working in a call center had one nurse girl and her aunt working the dating sites ready to mooch off the first guy giving her attention. Nurses are dime a dozen there Razz

Seriously i was on dateinasia for over 2 months and compiled a very long organized format to keep track of things. id say maybe out of 300 or 400 contacts maybe only a handful met that requirement but NONE showed interest they lost it quickly or i never got htem on cam or they didn't seem that interested in me they were chatting with tons of guys and i was chatting with tons of girls and it wa hard to build rapport. Most of the attention comes from unemplyed (even if they are nurses) or students (poor) and/ or unemployed or single mothers.


Its funny how guys have been living here for years and can't even find a decent woman so since the odds are so low i think the best strategy now is not to mess around and just pipeline these girls in mass once you get here. Then you might have a shot at finding someone you like. Forget trying to build rapport with them over months before coming here. most will forget you or not even care by the time you land your plane except teh unemployed users or milfs who are desperate. you just have to wait till you get to philippines and just start contacting them from your hotel room and tell them to meet at your hotel. anything else is a waste of time. if you start hitting up dating sites too far ahead of your trip they either will lose interest if you start talking to them weeks in advance, find someone else, or you may find someone else and all that time was wasted. and the ones you do keep itnerested still might flake or be late at the mall.

i think that one poster had it right just line them up at your hotel room and I will add suggest to then go to the mall. if you can't see them on cam you can at least reject them at your place without even having to leave your hotel and if you cant see them on cam and the are late or flake nothing lost. this blind date meeting at the mall bullcrap is for guys who are living there and can spend years looking for ms right. I suggest anyone here for 6 months or less just to pipeline these girls one after another from your hotel room. make sure you get them on cam before you even invite them to the hotel cause most are uglier than their pics.

mindanao girls are not my thing my girl is from mindanao and chatting with other girls online in mindanao i found they all had very reserved and dry personalities. I find manila and cebuana girls that have more of a personality and not so reserved and probably more sexual. but they may not make the best wives mindanao would be better for that. i guess it depends on what they want.


As I've stated before, I prefer the company of an educated girl and the fact that by adding educated in the mix with a job you tend to lower your chances of having a girl try and scam you. Therefore my advice goes for both men looking to score and men trying to find a wife. I've never been about just racking up the number of lays. It ruins the scene for honest good foreigners looking for something serious. I also disagree with you with the online game and the 99% figure. I won't deny that you have more on ground experience but I doubt you have more online experience. All 3 of my trips I've used online dating on DIA, FC, CB, and Asian Datebook for months and months on hand. I do agree that it can be hard to keep their attention if your trip is far in advance but simply messaging the girls that you are less interested in every now and then can help. Also pipelining works best with having just a few girls you are seriously into, and screwing the masses when you get here. You can find educated ones with jobs and that aren't gold digging and they are there but you must look. They aren't impossible. I have 9-10 contacts on my skype from my last trip that had those criteria and were very willing to meet. I only met up with 3, and 1 I slept with. Then again my purpose was not sex but travel and exploring with friends and my "adoptive" Philippines family.

My advice has always been "Use online dating as simply another means of meeting women, not the only means." Don't fall in love with the girl without ever meeting her. If you can't meet at least an attractive female in the Philippines without online dating, you must be extremely disfigured or must be a social misfit, either case you are the problem not them. I've also never claimed the Philippines was a dating paradise but you have way more opportunities for the average guy here than most likely anywhere else in the world.

My reason for Mindinao is that you are more exotic there. Manila and Cebu are so saturated with foreigners and the pay for play seen. Just walk down the street or in malls in some smaller mindinao cities and you get a shit load more attention. This not only boosts confidence levels but also opens up more opportunities to meet girls. When I arrived at the bus station in one of the smaller cities, I had girls eyeing me everywhere and smiling and giggling. Sure they are more conservative and less likely for one night stands but like I've mentioned I'm not that big on one night stands anymore.

Some guys here are for strictly getting as much sex as possible. For them I suggest the P4P scene. Easier and the girls are hot. But some guys are not always into that. My advice is for the latter. For me I'd much rather have a sweet loving girl to enjoy a romantic vacation with rather than screwing random girls then dumping them. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy sex a lot but much more with a girl I have feelings for.
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Postby pete98146 » Tue Jun 03, 2014 9:55 pm

hammanta wrote:
I dont remember the poster saying he was looking for a wife on his first trip. educated, has a job, non gold digging just eliminated 99.9 percent of the people on that site. Some of us are sex starved in america and for us to eliminate almost all the people on the site is just ridiculous. If you use your big head you can just control yourself and not wife the bad ones and dont fall for their scams and if they ask money go onto the next one all the while you get sex to boot lol. Getting rid of 99 percent of the girls cause you want a saint is ridiculous and would make the trip rather boring. Not all of us are living there or looking for a wife. If you want a wife on first trip or moving there thats a whole different strategy but i dont think thats the goal of most guys here at least not on first trip. You met some nice girls on your trip as youve said before and in the end you got no sex with those particular ones and are now home. so what was the point? You weren't searching for a wife or a long distance relationship for many years. If a guy is ready to find a wife right away then maybe he should eliminate all the girls online otherwise he shouldn't be so picky and just try to avoid obvious scammers and hoes. dont be fooled by nursing girls either if they are unemployed or working in a call center had one nurse girl and her aunt working the dating sites ready to mooch off the first guy giving her attention. Nurses are dime a dozen there Razz

Seriously i was on dateinasia for over 2 months and compiled a very long organized format to keep track of things. id say maybe out of 300 or 400 contacts maybe only a handful met that requirement but NONE showed interest they lost it quickly or i never got htem on cam or they didn't seem that interested in me they were chatting with tons of guys and i was chatting with tons of girls and it wa hard to build rapport. Most of the attention comes from unemplyed (even if they are nurses) or students (poor) and/ or unemployed or single mothers.


Its funny how guys have been living here for years and can't even find a decent woman so since the odds are so low i think the best strategy now is not to mess around and just pipeline these girls in mass once you get here. Then you might have a shot at finding someone you like. Forget trying to build rapport with them over months before coming here. most will forget you or not even care by the time you land your plane except teh unemployed users or milfs who are desperate. you just have to wait till you get to philippines and just start contacting them from your hotel room and tell them to meet at your hotel. anything else is a waste of time. if you start hitting up dating sites too far ahead of your trip they either will lose interest if you start talking to them weeks in advance, find someone else, or you may find someone else and all that time was wasted. and the ones you do keep itnerested still might flake or be late at the mall.

i think that one poster had it right just line them up at your hotel room and I will add suggest to then go to the mall. if you can't see them on cam you can at least reject them at your place without even having to leave your hotel and if you cant see them on cam and the are late or flake nothing lost. this blind date meeting at the mall bullcrap is for guys who are living there and can spend years looking for ms right. I suggest anyone here for 6 months or less just to pipeline these girls one after another from your hotel room. make sure you get them on cam before you even invite them to the hotel cause most are uglier than their pics.

mindanao girls are not my thing my girl is from mindanao and chatting with other girls online in mindanao i found they all had very reserved and dry personalities. I find manila and cebuana girls that have more of a personality and not so reserved and probably more sexual. but they may not make the best wives mindanao would be better for that. i guess it depends on what they want.


As I've stated before, I prefer the company of an educated girl and the fact that by adding educated in the mix with a job you tend to lower your chances of having a girl try and scam you. Therefore my advice goes for both men looking to score and men trying to find a wife. I've never been about just racking up the number of lays. It ruins the scene for honest good foreigners looking for something serious. I also disagree with you with the online game and the 99% figure. I won't deny that you have more on ground experience but I doubt you have more online experience. All 3 of my trips I've used online dating on DIA, FC, CB, and Asian Datebook for months and months on hand. I do agree that it can be hard to keep their attention if your trip is far in advance but simply messaging the girls that you are less interested in every now and then can help. Also pipelining works best with having just a few girls you are seriously into, and screwing the masses when you get here. You can find educated ones with jobs and that aren't gold digging and they are there but you must look. They aren't impossible. I have 9-10 contacts on my skype from my last trip that had those criteria and were very willing to meet. I only met up with 3, and 1 I slept with. Then again my purpose was not sex but travel and exploring with friends and my "adoptive" Philippines family.

My advice has always been "Use online dating as simply another means of meeting women, not the only means." Don't fall in love with the girl without ever meeting her. If you can't meet at least an attractive female in the Philippines without online dating, you must be extremely disfigured or must be a social misfit, either case you are the problem not them. I've also never claimed the Philippines was a dating paradise but you have way more opportunities for the average guy here than most likely anywhere else in the world.

My reason for Mindinao is that you are more exotic there. Manila and Cebu are so saturated with foreigners and the pay for play seen. Just walk down the street or in malls in some smaller mindinao cities and you get a shit load more attention. This not only boosts confidence levels but also opens up more opportunities to meet girls. When I arrived at the bus station in one of the smaller cities, I had girls eyeing me everywhere and smiling and giggling. Sure they are more conservative and less likely for one night stands but like I've mentioned I'm not that big on one night stands anymore.

Some guys here are for strictly getting as much sex as possible. For them I suggest the P4P scene. Easier and the girls are hot. But some guys are not always into that. My advice is for the latter. For me I'd much rather have a sweet loving girl to enjoy a romantic vacation with rather than screwing random girls then dumping them. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy sex a lot but much more with a girl I have feelings for.


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