I've met some gals who I think would make outstanding wives. Same goes for when I was living in Taipei. But when you know several gals, you can enjoy the relatives strengths of each. For example, one might be extremely engaging and match you really well in conversation (like you two can just have a blast hanging out and chatting), another may blow you away physically in some way, another might be great for bouncing business ideas off, another might be a great hiking or running partner, etc. If you want everything, it's very hard to find in just one individual. Also, over time, you may get bored with just one person and crave some variety. These are arguments for guys like Lad who chose to live polyamorously.newlifeinphilippines wrote:if you had to pin it do you not fall in love because most of the girls are not good wives ultimately for whatever reason you think or cause you have so many options?Rock wrote:Well the opportunity cost is very high. Once you settle with one, you have to give up all the others lol. I've enjoyed dating and close friendships with many. I just don't fall in love easily. But just give me a bit more time and we'll see lol.newlifeinphilippines wrote:rock why haven't you found the woman of your dreams yet since you live there in makati which is supposed to be the cream of the crop?
Also, I wanna add a plug for Mega Manila. There are some guys here who seem to not like Luzon girls for whatever reasons. Well you must remember, Manila area attracts a lot of girls from all over the Philippines just like top cities/capitals tend to do in general (attracting people from all over their respective countries). So just because you meet a girl up here does not mean she's necessarily a Metro Manila girl or even a Luzon girl.
Also do you think most of the women going for foreigners have some serious issues even IF they are educated or have money? It seems like the ones tha thave money or education have some other bad issue if they want us (bad family and emotional issues, or are major sluts, or just want a quick visa out of the country and are very materialistic)
But when you do fall in love, you basically take the strengths and weaknesses in a package deal and are willing to pay the price (opportunity cost) of being monogamous because that love has such a big value to you.
Most of the women I have known or dated do not restrict themselves to dating foreigners. They go for type, not race or nationality. But in many of their cases, their past boyfriends or courtiers have been kinda exceptional - Filipinos who've lived abroad and speak great English, mixed guys, guys who are quite tall and/or intellectual, athletes, etc. Such types are relatively rare in Philippines and I've heard it said several times by various girls that a lot of the most interesting Filipinos (best looking, smartest, most creative, etc.) tend to often be gay lol.
I do know a couple girls who are from great families who explicitly don't wanna date pure Filipinos. One of them is mixed race, fluent in several languages, and kinda lives in a bubble world, similar in ways to how many expats are removed from broader society. She's fluent in Tagalog yet doesn't feel comfortable in it. So she tends to always speak English at work and even out and about only using Tagalog when the counterpart has very poor English.
There is a significant group of 'exotic' girls who just love to to hang out with westerners. I think they realize that with their appearance and style, they have a much better chance with a lot of the foreign guys who don't mind their look (often some combo with at least some of these traits - dark skin, rough face or features, shorter stature, very slim body, and an obvious poorer look). Western guys, especially newer ones, are a lot less judgmental towards these types compared to local guys who tend to look down on them. The problem is, many of these types are more desperate in general or come from problem families. So in medium to long term, said foreigners encounter a lot of issues with these girls.
I've tended to avoid this last group. I'm naturally attracted to taller and often fairer skinned gals, even the plainer ones instead of these exotic ones. And I'm not much into drinking and wild nightlife. Just by cutting out this niche of girls, I think you improve your odds a lot already.